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Significant others and the hobby
- Thread starter Etyyyyyy
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https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_pe...alk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?language=en
Sorry about your situation. I listened to her (Esther Perel, TED TALK) about 5 years ago, about the same time I started going out. Made sense, helped me keep my tomcatting into perspective without breaking the bank and my marriage.
Sorry about your situation. I listened to her (Esther Perel, TED TALK) about 5 years ago, about the same time I started going out. Made sense, helped me keep my tomcatting into perspective without breaking the bank and my marriage.
I think the whole concept of “settling down” is an age-old myth. You may or may not still have the same sex drive in 20 years, but the only way that really manifests itself is in how often you need sex. Whatever your desire is now for other women is unlikely to change in 20 years; if anything, being in a monogamous marriage only reduces your desire for marital sex while increasing your need for extramarital sex. Nobody wants sex with a new girl more than guys who’ve been living in forced monogamy (and by “forced” I just mean by circumstances, expectations, conscience, and societal norms).
Quite frankly, I've not had as amazing an experience with a provider as I had with an affair on the side. With the affair, it was CIP, not on the clock, and you spend the whole night cuddling. Sex restarts on the fly, without time pressure.
With a provider, they do amazing stunts during the time they put up with you, but then when it's all over, you can always tell that the woman wants you out. That's a dampener on any sex drive one might have.
But then one day the side-piece decided I wasn't ever going to leave my main dish, and just left me for the other side of the country. What a loss. I don't think it'll ever happen again.
Still have amazing videos though.
With a provider, they do amazing stunts during the time they put up with you, but then when it's all over, you can always tell that the woman wants you out. That's a dampener on any sex drive one might have.
But then one day the side-piece decided I wasn't ever going to leave my main dish, and just left me for the other side of the country. What a loss. I don't think it'll ever happen again.
Still have amazing videos though.
Catholic here as well.
Catholic grade school (altar boy for 5 years!), high school & college.
I feel not one shred of guilt for what I do.
If God didn't want me to bang hookers, he would have made me the type of guy that has a steady stream of hot young girlfriends from HS till now.
And if that had been the case, I may have even gotten married and had a family. Who knows?
But it didn't happen so I do what I do.
Water seeks it's level.
No guilt at all.
Catholic grade school (altar boy for 5 years!), high school & college.
I feel not one shred of guilt for what I do.
If God didn't want me to bang hookers, he would have made me the type of guy that has a steady stream of hot young girlfriends from HS till now.
And if that had been the case, I may have even gotten married and had a family. Who knows?
But it didn't happen so I do what I do.
Water seeks it's level.
No guilt at all.
This is a very poignant audio, it resonates with me in some areas. She's so honest and understanding about prostitution. I wish all spouses were as understanding about cosa nostra.
When your wife brings up having feelings for a regular it hit me. My regulars (2 women, over 3 years) also provide me with companionship and validation---which is unacceptable with your wife. You seem to have this under control--for now.
Thank you for the post and best of luck to both of you.
When your wife brings up having feelings for a regular it hit me. My regulars (2 women, over 3 years) also provide me with companionship and validation---which is unacceptable with your wife. You seem to have this under control--for now.
Thank you for the post and best of luck to both of you.
I do appreciate the effort, but I’m baffled at how anybody could have the balls to show up at a place without cash in the first place and then skip out like that instead of just coming back with it after going back out for it. To do that just once is bad enough, but to then go back to the same girl to do the exact same shit to her again is so fucked up it’s just ridiculous. These girls already do enough for us and they don’t need this shit, nor are you doing any of us any fucking favors, because we all end up getting treated like potential dirtbags based on the shit you pulled, not once but twice. It’s not about “hating” you, as you say, either; I just think there must be something significantly off with you mentally for doing that once, let alone twice to the same girl and justifying it as “flaking because of guilt.” If you felt that guilty, you could still have “flaked” by leaving without doing anything with the girl; but that’s between you and your wife and whatever bullshit in your head. You should have returned with the fucking money and then flaked and left or whatever the fuck you needed to do for your own guilt instead of handling it like a total douche. You’re fucked up, Bro.
Been going to amps for a decade, probably seen 75 different girls, and never felt an ounce of shame or regret. Wife doesn’t know obviously, but also doesn’t want sex. But I still love her. It’s actually easy to hide with a burner line and going right after work when wife is busy. Shower at the amp, come home and wash hands and neck with our bathroom soap to mask the smell of amp soap.
No shame or regret because I look at this as a paid service where I get sex and increase my confidence even though I am paying for it. The sex is great but also just the feeling of flirting helps my charisma in real life. In Asian countries this is just a normal service so I have no shame or regret over it in America.
I did feel some regret after having an affair once with a hot little discreet blonde Asian friend of a co-worker. I would bring her sushi at lunch and we’d fuck. She even let me fuck her in the ass quite a few times. Had to take her out to $400 dinners a few times and she would text me on WhatsApp on the weekends wanting to spend time together and fuck, when it’s impossible to do as a married man. That was a lot of fun but I always felt like I’d get caught. Also can’t say I’ve never cheated on my wife without lying which is where the regret comes in. Easier just to pay for it and commit only the time I want to commit. Only worry is about being involved in a bust. Hopefully they legalize it.
No shame or regret because I look at this as a paid service where I get sex and increase my confidence even though I am paying for it. The sex is great but also just the feeling of flirting helps my charisma in real life. In Asian countries this is just a normal service so I have no shame or regret over it in America.
I did feel some regret after having an affair once with a hot little discreet blonde Asian friend of a co-worker. I would bring her sushi at lunch and we’d fuck. She even let me fuck her in the ass quite a few times. Had to take her out to $400 dinners a few times and she would text me on WhatsApp on the weekends wanting to spend time together and fuck, when it’s impossible to do as a married man. That was a lot of fun but I always felt like I’d get caught. Also can’t say I’ve never cheated on my wife without lying which is where the regret comes in. Easier just to pay for it and commit only the time I want to commit. Only worry is about being involved in a bust. Hopefully they legalize it.
Like many others, sex used to be amazing with my Wife until we have kids. First no dfk, then no bbbj, then only 1 position, then no cuddling to a point where it is like starfish sex and lucky if I did it once a month.
I'm mostly targeting one amp woman who would like to give me the things what me and my Wife used to do. In terms of guilt, I used to feel kind of guilty but I feel as guilty anymore. I think my wife knows that I have been seeing amps because she saw my secret stash of money and some cialis but she seems kind of okay with it. I really wanted to tell my wife that I want an open relationship so that I want to spend overnights with the amp girl.
I'm mostly targeting one amp woman who would like to give me the things what me and my Wife used to do. In terms of guilt, I used to feel kind of guilty but I feel as guilty anymore. I think my wife knows that I have been seeing amps because she saw my secret stash of money and some cialis but she seems kind of okay with it. I really wanted to tell my wife that I want an open relationship so that I want to spend overnights with the amp girl.
I think this is important. I recall that early in my mongering career in many Korean Amps where the woman doesn't fully undress during massages, can't touch the woman in the private parts, no dfk or barely any lfk. I could care any less about getting a massage in these places. There's simply little if any companionship and validation.
Many of these GFE places offer some kind of companionship which my wife simply deny. I wish that I don't have to do this, but at least doing this will keep my sanity for now.
Many of these GFE places offer some kind of companionship which my wife simply deny. I wish that I don't have to do this, but at least doing this will keep my sanity for now.