Unofficial Survey... The Mongering Hobby and Marriage...

[Mandalorian]

Again - if you want to play in this arena then you will know how and what to do. Married or not - grow up. Or don't get into this. If you are not smart well then.... Enough said.

Whatever. Give me a break.

 

[ALXC38]

So I'm single and in my 40s and never been married. So my question to all those that are married and visiting AMPS or R&T massage places. How do you manage to hide the money that your spending if your visiting once or twice a month?
Just curious... If I ever do decide to bite the bullet of marriage.

My wife has no interest in the cash flow as long as its there when needed. Otherwise it would make the hobby impossible.
I don't see providers often enough for it to be a problem. Oh, and it's always cash, No paper trails !!

 

[KittyHawk]

My wife has no interest in the cash flow as long as its there when needed. Otherwise it would make the hobby impossible

Years ago my wife handled the finances from a joint account. As things went south between us I opened my own accounts. Probably one of the few smart things that I have done.

 

[RickeyRomance]

So just curious to hear opinions from married guys on here. Do you think mongering has hurt or helped your relationship? In my opinion, I think it has helped save it - probably would have been divorced by now if I didn't do it. However, I suppose it also contributes in a negative way since I don't often even want to do it with the wife. Thoughts?

For me personally, it doesn't factor into helping it or hurting at all. Obviously, if fully discovered, it could end it but that's another case. For me, it's just another hobby like playing basketball or getting a foot massage. Just a person delivering a service on demand for money and then I go back to my real life. Nothing more.

 

[Bricktop]

If you have to hide it you don't belong in this "hobbie" (I hate this term) I go once or twice a week!! Not a game to be taken lightly for sure. You have to pay to play. Than means you have to have the means!

Brave man. You are the exception not the rule

 

[Koujiao]

For me personally, it doesn't factor into helping it or hurting at all. Obviously, if fully discovered, it could end it but that's another case. For me, it's just another hobby like playing basketball or getting a foot massage. Just a person delivering a service on demand for money and then I go back to my real life. Nothing more.

 

[hohohokus]

if i didn't do this hobby i would be cheating with people my SO would be much more likely to find out about (like people in our social circle). that's what led to all the divorces in the 70s and 80s.

 

[KittyHawk]

that's what led to all the divorces in the 70s and 80s.

It seems that some people were not cut out for monogamy, lol.

 

[Porkchop]

Definitely has helped.
My wife seems to be losing interest in sex or me. I’m pretty much stuck in the marriage. Cheaper to keep her.
She won’t give me some, I’ll have to go looking. Her choice.

 

[MongersGonnaMong]

So I'm single and in my 40s and never been married. So my question to all those that are married and visiting AMPS or R&T massage places. How do you manage to hide the money that your spending if your visiting once or twice a month?
Just curious... If I ever do decide to bite the bullet of marriage.

Lol brother you’re not getting married. I’m pretty much the same age and if you didn’t get married in your 20’s or 30’s you certainly are not “biting the bullet” at this late period of your life. At this age we’re very much set in our Own ways so it would be difficult to find a woman whom you’d have to mould your lifestyle around hers. But if you do marry commit to someone below 34, that biological clock is a motherfucker once they’re in their late 30’s

 

[AutomaticSlim]

But if you do marry commit to someone below 34, that biological clock is a motherfucker once they’re in their late 30’s

I would say below 24.
And I'm older than both of you.
You'd want to do it only in a 3rd world country, though. And be prepared to live there. Because if you bring her back here, it's all over.

 

[Phillyman]

Lol brother you’re not getting married. I’m pretty much the same age and if you didn’t get married in your 20’s or 30’s you certainly are not “biting the bullet” at this late period of your life. At this age we’re very much set in our Own ways so it would be difficult to find a woman whom you’d have to mould your lifestyle around hers. But if you do marry commit to someone below 34, that biological clock is a motherfucker once they’re in their late 30’s

Yea, I hear you. I am set in my own ways. And when I do date a women hear so much drama and BS you have to deal with it just for some good fun. Now with the me 2 movement they have the men by the balls.

 

[Phillyman]

I would say below 24.
And I'm older than both of you.
You'd want to do it only in a 3rd world country, though. And be prepared to live there. Because if you bring her back here, it's all over.

Yes, don't bring to the western world. In the beginning they will be it will be all fine and dandy. But once they learn how the system works here and make other friends in few years she won't be the same person being.

 

[rinvio]

From an informal survey among my married male friends, those who pursue amp services and the like do not get any intimacy at home, often have in turn lost interest in their SO (including for wives who went from hotties and lookers, to stuffed pigs after a few years/pregnancies) and as a result they prefer this to investing money and efforts in a traditional affair. Often kids are the primary reason for choosing this route (vs divorce), a route that has its own risks but it is generally more discrete, lower effort.

At this point, you can pretty much see who among my friends gets it at home. Typically there are more public display of affection with their partners, often mixed with a wife who still cares for her body.

It is sad all around but hey relationships are complicated.

 

[AutomaticSlim]

At this point, you can pretty much see who among my friends gets it at home. Typically there are more public display of affection with their partners, often mixed with a wife who still cares for her body.

Thin or not, the wrinkly-winklies has got to be a turnoff.
And even the thin ones get cellulite.
To say nothing of the stretch marks and varicose veins.
And the armadilllo like callouses on their feet.
Middle aged women.
Yuck!

 

[rinvio]

Thin or not, the wrinkly-winklies has got to be a turnoff.
And even the thin ones get cellulite.
To say nothing of the stretch marks and varicose veins.
And the armadilllo like callouses on their feet.
Middle aged women.
Yuck!

yes but modern skin care, surgery etc. with a solid fitness regimen does wonders. I know a few lookers in their early 40ies. I would not pass on them. No doubt in my mind.

 

[Thorton]

Like this:

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What's not to like. The fact that they are available is a miraculous event that needs to be patronized over and over again. Nothing like young, hot Asian women.

 

[chunfun]

I disagree. If you are married you most DEFINITELY have to hide it. Having the means may not be the problem-the wife finding out about it is.

I'm married, and I don't hide my expenses. The only thing that I "hide" are large (>$1,000) deposits/withdrawals. It's MY money.

 

[headsup]

I came to realize a while ago that a marriage without any kind of affection, sex included, is more of a business arrangement than a marriage.

The solution?

 

[mikemendez]

Would it kill a wife to give her husband a fooking hand job from time to time, I realize she may be menopausal but what’s wrong with her hand? Just saying.