Love or money?

[KittyHawk]

"In fact if you are her number 1 then perhaps you should be paying more than her other customers."

Totally disagree with this. Number 1 as in 'boyfriend'? One would think if client and provider become closer and closer the price would come way down, not up. I mean what's in it for the guy to pay more at this point? Hey, I'm her number 1, now I can overpay while others get the same for a cheaper price. Not my way of thinking.

Seems like a bit of tightrope walking. For anyone who is married, how much have you shelled out over the years to your legal #1. If you have lost the emotional connection and find an emotional #1 in an amp, would you be less likely to break open the piggy bank for her? I haven't found her yet but I am aware that the emotions could cloud my judgement. The trick is to keep your head on straight enough to avoid breaking the bank. It would have been more difficult when I was younger.

 

[Rev]

Interesting thread. I've found myself in a situation with one provider who, after our first encounter wanted to sleep over at my place. I've visited her once or twice a week for a few months now and she tells me she loves me and that I'm her boyfriend. She seems sincere though her english is bad and we can't communicate normally. I've taken her out to lunch twice and bought her some lingerie and a pair of jeans. I give her more money than others and I'd feel bad if I tried to change things where I started paying her less. It doesn't feel right to me. This is not a high end provider so service is not expensive to start with. Anyway, I just go with it. I feel like I'm freerolling with this one because there's not much she can ask of me due to her job, so I can have this kind of play acting romance with her without any responsibility. The money is what keeps me free. If she wanted to sleep with me for nothing, I would reject her offer. I'm not doing that with someone who gets railed every day by other men. I don't know, it's kind of a unique experience and I like it. At first I was wondering if she was saying all this shit to entice me to visit her more often, but I don't think so. That's a bit extreme when most providers just send I miss you texts and get what they want often enough.

I have a similar situation going on for the first time in my 5 years of mongering. I saw this girl a bunch of times at the spa before she asked me to see her in Flushing on her days off. She told me I don't have to pay and that she just wants to spend time with me. She's a nice girl and has a good head on her shoulders, so I figured what's the harm.

The first couple times I met her off-site, I was on high alert due to the all the horror stories I read about this type of situation. Surprisingly, she never asked me for money/gifts and said she just wanted to spend some time with me. I told her I'd pay for meals and entertainment and used this as a way to gauge the kind of person she is and her view of me. She didn't disappoint. She chose cheap to middle of the road options and insisted I was spending way to much money on her. Over time, I started giving her some cash when we'd meet outside, since I figured I would be spending it on other women anyway, so why not give it to her for showing me a good time. If this was just a long con to grab some extra benjis, I wouldn't blame her; she deserves it for reverse engineering my dumb ass.

I understand what you mean by the 'play acting romance'; however, when I see her outside the office, her emotions are so authentic that I have a hard time believing they are fake. I have to convince myself that it's all "play acting romance" with her.

 

[Koondog]

Now did she work in a HJ only shop or FS?

 

[PurpleRayne33]

The optimist asks love or money, the pessimist says love of money.

 

[Rev]

Now did she work in a HJ only shop or FS?

FS shop and she knows I'm married, so it's not about snagging me.

 

[Wayne1250]

Sometimes they just need s friend. They need to live a normal life outside the shop and forget about their job. Hooking up with a married guy, takes the preasure off. They might not want long term.

 

[kgmspa]

No amount of money can buy love. Money is something we all need. I love money! If a girl tried to buy my love it would not be true love. I may love her for the money but not really love her! I don't try and buy love!

 

[East Lake II]

The optimist asks love or money, the pessimist says love of money.

What does the realist ask?

 

[East Lake II]

Seems like a bit of tightrope walking. For anyone who is married, how much have you shelled out over the years to your legal #1. If you have lost the emotional connection and find an emotional #1 in an amp, would you be less likely to break open the piggy bank for her? I haven't found her yet but I am aware that the emotions could cloud my judgement. The trick is to keep your head on straight enough to avoid breaking the bank. It would have been more difficult when I was younger.

Even if you still have an emotional connection with your legal #1, it’s highly possible and even likely you may develop an emotional connection with an AMP worker. What then? Like you said, better if it happens when you are older. And, even better still after you have been to a lot of AMPs and met a lot of providers.

 

[East Lake II]

Maybe it's a culture clash. Maybe just greed. Maybe just bad communication. I don't know.
All three above: culture clash, greed, and communication.

Moral of the story should be NEVER get personally involved in the lives of these working girls. It almost never ends well.
Learned lesson on that one.

Some of you may know. Some of you may not know. One word is part of culture clash. PM me if you want to know what it is.

“Maybe it's a culture clash. Maybe just greed. Maybe just bad communication.”

And maybe it’s stupidity too.

 

[TGBeldin]

Even if you still have an emotional connection with your legal #1, it’s highly possible and even likely you may develop an emotional connection with an AMP worker. What then? Like you said, better if it happens when you are older. And, even better still after you have been to a lot of AMPs and met a lot of providers.

I agree it is possible because I have seen it. Likely? Yes, if you spend enough time at it, I could accept that is likely to happen, BUT the question then becomes what level of emotional connection.

Most levels of emotional connection do not mean you will break the bank--I think that level is much rarer.

 

[kgmspa]

I never believe in love.

 

[East Lake II]

I never believe in love.

It’s the lure of easy money that’s the nature of the game, mongers and cash they go hand in hand.


There is love, you should believe. There are different levels and kinds of love. In an AMP recognizing that she might be giving you all she can, can be very fulfilling. But, wanting and expecting something she can’t give, will cause you to miss out on the happiness of realizing she’s giving all she possibly can.

 

[kgmspa]

It’s the lure of easy money that’s the nature of the game, mongers and cash they go hand in hand.


There is love, you should believe. There are different levels and kinds of love. In an AMP recognizing that she might be giving you all she can, can be very fulfilling. But, wanting and expecting something she can’t give, will cause you to miss out on the happiness of realizing she’s giving all she possibly can.

Makes perfect sense. Good positive feedback and understanding!

 

[haaretz]

It’s the lure of easy money that’s the nature of the game, mongers and cash they go hand in hand.


There is love, you should believe. There are different levels and kinds of love. In an AMP recognizing that she might be giving you all she can, can be very fulfilling. But, wanting and expecting something she can’t give, will cause you to miss out on the happiness of realizing she’s giving all she possibly can.

Given the fact that she's providing a kind of love on an hourly basis and giving all that she can is quite nice and can be appreciated in and of itself. Since I don't go to AMPs (incalls, AAMP) I truly get it when guys put up forlorn and plaintive posts about providers who leave their spas for another location.

 

[mikemendez]

I’m having to find other ways or another hobby to invest the money I would normally have spent on providers, oh I’m getting texts, only they’re really not missing me as much as the money, lol. The most notable translated text says
“I want you to take me to bed”,
although I interpret it to mean “where’s my money”,
Love or money?
Love, need, want of the money.

 

[TGBeldin]

I interpret it to mean

And that is often what it comes down to--what one person SAYS vs what another INTERPRETS. Often neither is "wrong", but communication is very often more about the context, perceptions, prior experiences, and expectations, than the words.

 

[Wayne1250]

That's why text and email suck. There is no verbal intonation to go along with the words. Joking vs serious cannot be derermined.

 

[mikemendez]

She loves me because she needs me (monetary)

But she doesn’t need me because she loves me.

If the money stops, so does the I love you.

I too love her because I need her (use of her body uninhibited)

When I’ve had my fill, my love for her greatly decreases, finds another to love, like a revolving door Love or lust.

 

[Chiparlor]

Revolving door. Yes. Jackhammering different sausages everyday transferring many different dna's