Almost went down a stupid path... Falling for a J Girl...

[twotimesone]

Dude, you're just wrong. There are all types of personalities and preferences,.like everywhere. You just haven't gotten close enough to enough of these women to understand.

You really don't understand the psychology of women. When I met my Chinese GF at the time, she was kind, respectful, cares about how you think and feel. Of course, I married her and her mask came off, she became dispresectful, doesn't care about and doesn't care about what I think. It became worse after our kids are born because she can use them against me. During my marriage, I never felt so alone in my life and decided to go to AMPS otherwise I seriously considered taking my life otherwise because I had nothing to live for. Now I am divorced and I started to have hopes to things that I want to live for without my ex.

While I don't have close enough relationship an AMP woman, compared to my ex, these AMP women have so much baggage that they are definitely NOT wife material. It is best not to deal with them because if you get close to one of them, it will be YOUR problem. They seriously need counseling to get their head straight if they want to be in a monogamous relationship. Even if they did, their old skeletons might come back to haunt them and you have to deal with it.

 

[lovelovelove]

You really don't understand the psychology of women. When I met my Chinese GF at the time, she was kind, respectful, cares about how you think and feel. Of course, I married her and her mask came off, she became dispresectful, ...

Im sorry this happened to you. But can you consider the reality that maybe your story is just the same as a man marrying a woman and him turning on her? Or that there are multiple ways of relating and having marriage relationships? Again - this sounds fucking horrible man; I am sorry. And you dont need an excuse to see AMPs or anything. But I wouldn't paint the world with that brush of pain otherwise you're just going to see that pain everywhere.

 

[BonerMaloney]

they are definitely NOT wife material.

I'm sorry for your pain, but you don't have a good track record as a Wife Material Appraiser

 

[twotimesone]

Im sorry this happened to you. But can you consider the reality that maybe your story is just the same as a man marrying a woman and him turning on her? Or that there are multiple ways of relating and having marriage relationships? Again - this sounds fucking horrible man; I am sorry. And you dont need an excuse to see AMPs or anything. But I wouldn't paint the world with that brush of pain otherwise you're just going to see that pain everywhere.

I am taught by my mom that I have to respect women. Yes, I did that and what happens is that my wife will walk all over you and have no respect for you. It is a pretty much a slippery slope afterwards.

I'm sorry for your pain, but you don't have a good track record as a Wife Material Appraiser

How do you know? You actually married to an AMP girl? You really have no authority on this.

 

[krideynyc]

How do you know? You actually married to an AMP girl? You really have no authority on this.

As do you. Have you met all AMP workers to classify them all as NOT wife material? Plus, it doesn't mean all AMP wives will behave the same way your ex-wife did. I know a few monger/provider who are still happily married.

 

[twotimesone]

As do you. Have you met all AMP workers to classify them all as NOT wife material? Plus, it doesn't mean all AMP wives will behave the same way your ex-wife did. I know a few monger/provider who are still happily married.

I said they amp girls are not wife material in general. I did not say all of them and if you read my posts in this thread they need screw their heads straight to be in a monogamous relationship.

 

[krideynyc]

I said they amp girls are not wife material in general. I did not say all of them and if you read my posts in this thread they need screw their heads straight to be in a monogamous relationship.

I did read your post. Like I said, I know a few that are happily married. Are you implying your wife cheated on you? If she didn't before she divorced, she was monogamous.

 

[twotimesone]

I did read your post. Like I said, I know a few that are happily married. Are you implying your wife cheated on you? If she didn't before she divorced, she was monogamous.

Happily married means it means years with kids and if you refer that simp husband married to that J-girl, it doesn't really count. Another person mentioned about Barbie who have dreams of getting railed by other men while her husband watch is not exactly wife material. And by your admission you said a few of them married but the the fact that the majority of them didn't marry or might ended married to some simp.

And, no my ex didn't cheat, at least I could not find any proof. But she is anything but faithful and threatened to leave a few times.

 

[krideynyc]

Happily married means it means years with kids and if you refer that simp husband married to that J-girl, it doesn't really count. Another person mentioned about Barbie who have dreams of getting railed by other men while her husband watch is not exactly wife material. And by your admission you said a few of them married but the the fact that the majority of them didn't marry or might ended married to some simp.

Sure, let's just go on strict assumptions. But I have also known many many happily divorced coupled. The husband got their money, had free sex for a few years, and the wife got her Green Card. I didn't count those.

And, no my ex didn't cheat, at least I could not find any proof. But she is anything but faithful and threatened to leave a few times.

If she didn't cheat, then the issue isn't monogamy. Threatening to leave could means she's unhappy with the marriage, and/or you, and has nothing to do with monogamy. So I don't understand why you keep harping on it.

 

[twotimesone]

Sure, let's just go on strict assumptions. But I have also known many many happily divorced coupled. The husband got their money, had free sex for a few years, and the wife got her Green Card. I didn't count those.

If she didn't cheat, then the issue isn't monogamy. Threatening to leave could means she's unhappy with the marriage, and/or you, and has nothing to do with monogamy. So I don't understand why you keep harping on it.

I was talking about the monogamous marriage about the simp and the J-girl. I am referring to monogamous relationship as being faithful to each other in general. You are the person who brought up this monogamy and my wife and nothing to do with the discussion so no I am not harping about it in my relationship.

 

[krideynyc]

I was talking about the monogamous marriage about the simp and the J-girl. You are the person who brought up this monogamy and my wife and nothing to do with the discussion and no I am not harping about it in my relationship.

You bought up monogamy, and providers needing to get their head straight. Go re-read your past few posts.

 

[twotimesone]

You bought up monogamy, and providers needing to get their head straight. Go re-read your past few posts.

I brought up monogamy and the problem with my wife, which are 2 different subjects. But you brought up the 2 subjects in the same sentence. So you are really making up a straw man's argument.

 

[krideynyc]

I brought up monogamy and the problem with my wife, which are 2 different subjects. But you brought up the 2 subjects in the same sentence.

Yes, because it read like that was what caused your marriage to break up. Hence my follow up clarification question. Still, I disagree that all providers are bad wife material, need to have their head straightened, and they can't be monogamous after the wedding. And not all those in a happy marriage are simps.

 

[rigandine]

Yes, because it read like that was what caused your marriage to break up. Hence my follow up clarification question. Still, I disagree that all providers are bad wife material, need to have their head straightened, and they can't be monogamous after the wedding. And not all those in a happy marriage are simps.

99% of them are off limits. finding a provider thats good in a LTR is like finding a winning lotto ticket , nearly impossible

youre free to fuck around and find out why its a horrible idea though

 

[krideynyc]

99% of them are off limits. finding a provider thats good in a LTR is like finding a winning lotto ticket , nearly impossible

youre free to fuck around and find out why its a horrible idea though

Been doing that for decades. Except I just date them for a good time, with no intentions of marriage or a Green Card. As post in another similar thread:

I just tell them I'm married, even when I wasn't. This takes the Green Card option off the table.

And they still go out on dates. Imagine that.

 

[twotimesone]

Yes, because it read like that was what caused your marriage to break up. Hence my follow up clarification question. Still, I disagree that all providers are bad wife material, need to have their head straightened, and they can't be monogamous after the wedding. And not all those in a happy marriage are simps.

Since you like to bring up the subject of monogamy in the relationship, hypergamy is not far off from a typical woman's mind's. I recall that one of my relatives told me "you are lucky that you are married to my ex" when my ex already checked out in our relationship. Just because someone is physically monogamous, doesn't mean that she is mentally is. Since you also talk about cheating, I am sure that most guys here can agree that we can screw someone without being emotionally attached to someone whereas it is harder for a woman to do this, including amp women.

 

[krideynyc]

Since you like to bring up the subject of monogamy in the relationship, hypergamy is not far off from a typical woman's mind's. I recall that one of my relatives told me "you are lucky that you are married to my ex" when my ex already checked out in our relationship. Just because someone is physically monogamous, doesn't mean that she is mentally is. Since you also talk about cheating, I am sure that most guys here can agree that we can screw someone without being emotionally attached to someone whereas it is harder for a woman to do this, including amp women.

1) You're still the one that brought up the topic, not me, as you've accused. 2) Hypergamy in a woman's mind is real. As long as that partner doesn't make into adultery, it's not grounds for divorce. 3) If AMP woman can't be emotionally detached, they are in the wrong business. My personal experience when I've had transactional sessions, is the exact opposite. They can forget about me in an instant, and turn it on for the next customer.

 

[twotimesone]

1) You're still the one that brought up the topic, not me, as you've accused. 2) Hypergamy in a woman's mind is real. As long as that partner doesn't make into adultery, it's not grounds for divorce. 3) If AMP woman can't be emotionally detached, they are in the wrong business. My personal experience when I've had transactional sessions, is the exact opposite. They can forget about me in an instant, and turn it on for the next customer.

You are talking about absolutes. Hypergamy is almost as bad as adultery. A monogamous woman would dedicate herself to the relationship to her husband whereas hypergamous woman would not. Sooner or later, the hypergamous woman would find herself that she is not happy in the relationship and will blame the husband for her unhappiness. The thing is that it is not the husband's responsbility to fix his wife's happiness in the relationship, it is her's. How many of those 'happily married' amp girls you mentioned who got married are in that stage? Even if she is 'happy' now, sooner or later this happiness will go away one way or another.

 

[krideynyc]

You are talking about absolutes. Hypergamy is almost as bad as adultery. A monogamous woman would dedicate herself to the relationship to her husband whereas hypergamous woman would not. Sooner or later, the hypergamous woman would find herself that she is not happy in the relationship and will blame the husband for her unhappiness. The thing is that it is not the husband's responsbility to fix his wife's happiness in the relationship, it is her's. How many of those 'happily married' amp girls you mentioned who got married are in that stage? Even if she is 'happy' now, sooner or later this happiness will go away one way or another.

Well, the flaw in this argument is that the state of the marriage may not be that healthy if the woman is contemplating hypergamy. Or, even worse, threatened to leave. I'm in the school of thought where a happy marriage requires both partner's input. If I expected my wife to ensure her own happiness, I wouldn't be surprised if she packs up and leave me.

 

[twotimesone]

Well, the flaw in this argument is that the state of the marriage may not be that healthy if the woman is contemplating hypergamy. Or, even worse, threatened to leave. I'm in the school of thought where a happy marriage requires both partner's input. If I expected my wife to ensure her own happiness, I wouldn't be surprised if she packs up and leave me.

You admitted that you were never married yet you said that "a happy marriage required both partner's input." During my marriage, I begged my ex to go to a marriage counselor together but she refused. Another thing you are wrong about if the wife is not happy in the marriage, she would pack up and leave. I'm sure that if you ask many of the mongers here, they are not exactly thrilled with the idea of staying married with you. What's worse is that the stigma of being divorced and the high chance that she will end up living by herself for the rest of her life without getting married, especially when divorcing in an old age. I'm sorry, but you have no first hand knowledge in that subject. If you are asking, I am intending to re-marry in a few years, probably be a passport bro.