Review: Berlin News Agency (BNA)

[Old Time Monger]

The first thing I notice on a girl is her smile.

Her vertical one, right?

 

[PorterD]

Look around you at any kind of event with couples. Absolutely no way. Lot of extremely average and below average guys in terms of looks/money have wives. Have done plenty of dating in my life and I'm def not a looker nor rich. That incel shit is just an excuse for guys who have absolute vagina-repellent personalities to explain why they're not getting laid.

Women (and men... not really a female thing) smell desperation. If a guy has no life and no better prospects a woman knows that and won't be attracted. Two main ways you can attract women.

One is to be (like you say) a top 10%, 5%, whatever guy when it comes to looks/virility/money/charm.

Other way is to be a good dude with a good life. You gotta check at least some of these boxes. Be able to have a conversation, have friends, bonus points if you have female friends, spend time with your family, have interests, do volunteer work, have hobbies, have a career, have an education. And don't be desperate. It's like any kind of negotiation in life. You have to be able to walk away. You should want to date somebody... not need to date somebody.

You gotta understand women are judging you on a lot of indirect shit. If you have a nice job, nice car, but no friends and no family... what does she see? An American Psycho kinda guy. But let's say you have a modest job and a great circle of friends and family? Well she knows this is a good dude that people like. Bonus if you have female friends. Now people know you're not a fucking creep just trying to get into every chick's pants. Bottom line is... live a good life in terms of friends and family and guess what, lot of other stuff takes care of itself.

Maybe you already know all this, but maybe it will help somebody, and every incel needs to learn this shit

Maybe this is a can of worms…..But How can I be an incel and in this forum? Makes literally no sense. And if you want to say this hobby “doesn’t count” then we might have to say that 90% or more of dudes on this forum are incels. Lol. In fact one could potentially argue that rich incels keep this hobby going. Such a weird term to throw around here. But I had to bite. As for my lack of reviews; I can’t bring myself to discuss myself in that way. But I appreciate the guys who do and pay to get good intel. Anyway as for the rest of that; while I appreciate the advice I definitely think you are stuck in a dating mindset of a decade ago that is now totally obsolete.

 

[PorterD]

Anyway I might actually check out that bna party on the 16th. I have serious doubts but I need to check it off some kind of bucket list. Thanks!

 

[SJ5553]

Anyway I might actually check out that bna party on the 16th. I have serious doubts but I need to check it off some kind of bucket list. Thanks!

I was at BNA last night and there is nothing posted on any upcoming “parties”. Probably will post something after Thanksgiving. Nothing was happening last night.

 

[Daytimefun696969]

Porter, I am interested in learning why you think you and or guys in similar situations are invisible to woman these days? It is an interested comment, and I am curious as why that is the case. As long-time married guy, I had the impression that guys in their 40-50's that were single/divorced had a plethora of woman seeking companionship in a small pool of decent men. A few of my buddies who ended up divorced told stories of using dating apps and literally it was catching fish in a barrel. They were able to hook up anytime they wanted and the woman were desperate. That was before covid but I would not imagine things changed that much. Crazy!

All true man

 

[PorterD]

All true man

If it’s true; why hobby? If you can sign up to a dating app and get an endless supply of free sex with a few swipes; why do this? Makes no sense at all.

 

[Panty Lover]

If it’s true; why hobby? If you can sign up to a dating app and get an endless supply of free sex with a few swipes; why do this? Makes no sense at all.

I was thinking the same. There are reasons why we visit amps and most often it's out of necessity and lack of other options.

 

[Panty Lover]

If it’s true; why hobby? If you can sign up to a dating app and get an endless supply of free sex with a few swipes; why do this? Makes no sense at all.

Most of the attractive women on dating sites are looking for a relationship with what they consider a perfect match. They are certainly not looking for a random sexual encounter with just the average guy. I tried dating sites and it's not worth the headache.

 

[onemangang]

If it’s true; why hobby? If you can sign up to a dating app and get an endless supply of free sex with a few swipes; why do this? Makes no sense at all.

Because it is not completely "free." You have to invest some time and attention, as well as the cost of the date. I have not used any dating sites, but I don't think there are many woman on there that would accept a guy saying "I am gonna stop by your place for an hour for sexual release and then leave immediately. After I leave please do not bother me. I'll call you the next time I need release."

 

[PorterD]

Because it is not completely "free." You have to invest some time and attention, as well as the cost of the date. I have not used any dating sites, but I don't think there are many woman on there that would accept a guy saying "I am gonna stop by your place for an hour for sexual release and then leave immediately. After I leave please do not bother me. I'll call you the next time I need release."

Even if it was dinner and some attention. Most guys would gladly take that instead. Always talking the gfe experience. But truth is; online dating won’t even get you that.

Trust me on this; I’m a decent looking 41 y/o guy. I could go on there now and like 100 profiles and wait for them to like me back to start a conversation and get absolutely zero. Nothing. It’s as if the button is broken.

The average woman on there gets hit with 300 likes an hour. Guys stand absolutely no chance.

 

[Poundher365]

Even if it was dinner and some attention. Most guys would gladly take that instead. Always talking the gfe experience. But truth is; online dating won’t even get you that.

Trust me on this; I’m a decent looking 41 y/o guy. I could go on there now and like 100 profiles and wait for them to like me back to start a conversation and get absolutely zero. Nothing. It’s as if the button is broken.

The average woman on there gets hit with 300 likes an hour. Guys stand absolutely no chance.

Its not that the button is broken bro, its just that everything has to be tight at 41, you have to be in the gym lifting heavy and eating healthy, you also need anywhere from 80K to 6 figures, your own assets, and probably some interesting hobbies and a friend circle, that sounds like alot but its easier to accomplish than you think. Its also things that you can control. Being decent looking alone isnt enough anymore because everyone has raised their standards body wise and life wise the days of the 90's are over.

 

[Mr.chan]

I'm 42

 

[PorterD]

Its not that the button is broken bro, its just that everything has to be tight at 41, you have to be in the gym lifting heavy and eating healthy, you also need anywhere from 80K to 6 figures, your own assets, and probably some interesting hobbies and a friend circle, that sounds like alot but its easier to accomplish than you think. Its also things that you can control. Being decent looking alone isnt enough anymore because everyone has raised their standards body wise and life wise the days of the 90's are over.

I make over 6 figures. Have a circle of friends and am fit. Nope. Still doesn’t work.

 

[The Old Man]

I am 70, 6', no facial hair, no tattoos, full head of white hair, have a small construction company so always working out, slightly over weight, still a handsome lad for being this old and I find it easy to find women. If you put up some decent pictures on a dating site without holding a fish, not sitting on a cycle, no sports attire and don't have your foot resting on a dead animal and a rifle in your hand, you should do fine. My profile is two lines, I don't have kids, I have no pets and I state that I won't date a girl that is a liberal, has a cat or is interested in going to Paris, London or Rome but prefers Timbuktu, Zanzibar or Kathmandu. I have been dating a 48 year old beautiful VN girl for 4 years who I see one or two weekends a month. The other girls are from 55 to 65 who I see throughout the weeks and months. I only get one or two likes a week so out of 4, 5 or 6 over a three week period I will get one date and about 60% of those I will have sex with on the first date. They are not all beautiful but certainly cute enough that I feel proud to hold their hand in public. It is all about being a good conversationalist. No matter my age if I was out at a club or bar and I got shot down 25 times I would still try girl number 26.

Continentaljo, you are right on the money. I had advice for our older daughter who had a long term relationship with a guy. I knew he wasn't good for her and despite trying to make her see the light, her reply was "but dad you don't understand". Well eventually time showed that dad did know what he was talking about and they split up. She had hard time getting over it. I told her time will heal and the next piece of advice is that don't go looking for a date, let it all happen on its own as you associate with your friends or business associates, because a guy will read you like a book if you are searching hard for a date/mate. I think the same goes for us older guys. If you look or sound desperate, one of two things going to happen---she will see a mark and take advantage of you or a decent woman will get her antenna up and probably think twice about moving forward. Those that are having a difficult time meeting/dating a woman, need to look at themselves and ask "would I date me?" If there is any reluctance then you need to work on whatever it is you don't like. Plain and simple.

 

[dotcom]

I dunno, it seems so much easier, probably cheaper and definitely more fun but I'd book a trip to CR or DR and live life the way it was meant for men to live!!

 

[PorterD]

Continentaljo, you are right on the money. I had advice for our older daughter who had a long term relationship with a guy. I knew he wasn't good for her and despite trying to make her see the light, her reply was "but dad you don't understand". Well eventually time showed that dad did know what he was talking about and they split up. She had hard time getting over it. I told her time will heal and the next piece of advice is that don't go looking for a date, let it all happen on its own as you associate with your friends or business associates, because a guy will read you like a book if you are searching hard for a date/mate. I think the same goes for us older guys. If you look or sound desperate, one of two things going to happen---she will see a mark and take advantage of you or a decent woman will get her antenna up and probably think twice about moving forward. Those that are having a difficult time meeting/dating a woman, need to look at themselves and ask "would I date me?" If there is any reluctance then you need to work on whatever it is you don't like. Plain and simple.

Couple things; many women love toxic guys. My ex left a great thing with me to go date a loser who treated her like absolute trash.

Second; I’ve been single since 2017 and I’ve done your method of sitting back and letting it happen naturally . Now we are 7 years down the road and it hasn’t worked. At a certain point you actually do have to try or I’ll be 80 yo and still sitting here alone.

 

[Panty Lover]

Couple things; many women love toxic guys. My ex left a great thing with me to go date a loser who treated her like absolute trash.

Second; I’ve been single since 2017 and I’ve done your method of sitting back and letting it happen naturally . Now we are 7 years down the road and it hasn’t worked. At a certain point you actually do have to try or I’ll be 80 yo and still sitting here alone.

They certainty seem to be more attracted to bad boys, don't they? I think that I have a lot going for me but it's never quite enough. I also make close to six figures, own a business, have a college education, am clean and articulate, dress nicely, am virile well endowed, hace a good sense of humor and have been told all my adult life that I strongly resemble Robert Redford...lol! But, I treat women with respect, am super nice and am easy going....apparently, this is not good and demonstrates that I am too eager to please, needy and desperate. I would get lsi

 

[Panty Lover]

Continued: i would get laid more often if I was an inconsiderate asshole, grew a beard and was heavily tattooed.....Anyway. amp girls seem to appreciate my type and even if it's all fake and just a show, it makes me feel better about myself. I would spend the same amount of money going out on a date to a movie and a nice restaurant and then might not even get to have sex....lol

 

[PorterD]

Continued: i would get laid more often if I was an inconsiderate asshole, grew a beard and was heavily tattooed.....Anyway. amp girls seem to appreciate my type and even if it's all fake and just a show, it makes me feel better about myself. I would spend the same amount of money going out on a date to a movie and a nice restaurant and then might not even get to have sex....lol

Yep- exactly. Sounds like we are in the same place. Amp girls also seem to think I’m adorable. Maybe it’s an act. Maybe not. In my experience I get the most attention in regular life from Asian women. They seem to like thin white guys. So I think it’s partially real even if it’s still a transaction. Which is fine with me. As you said just as much to go on dates!

 

[Mr.chan]

Yep- exactly. Sounds like we are in the same place. Amp girls also seem to think I’m adorable. Maybe it’s an act. Maybe not. In my experience I get the most attention in regular life from Asian women. They seem to like thin white guys. So I think it’s partially real even if it’s still a transaction. Which is fine with me. As you said just as much to go on dates!

Lmfao.......