That’s a very good point on the conversation; some women could potentially just be nervous. Potentially just trying to impress you. But then I ask myself…. Do I want a women who is that insecure about themselves? Probably not. Most women would reject a guy instantly who is unsure of themselves. Happens all the time. It’s unattractive.
I’ve dated insecure women. Have you? It’s utterly pointless outside of free sex.
What we are discussing here is basic stats. You are ignoring stats. You were provided with ample data and you just skip over it- like it doesn’t exist.
I’m happy to hear that whatever system has worked for you makes you happy. I mean that- that’s good.
But to be pretty honest- my system has made me happy too. As outlined above- I just had major surgery. If there is ever a time when a man might feel like he needs a woman in his life; it’s during times of being debilitated. But to be fair I’m just fine dealing with it myself. I don’t really need anyone.
And I would so much rather be single then date the shit that is currently on the modern dating market. I’m not going to reduce myself to it. I do have confidence; confidence enough to know that the modern dating market is shit and I ll die alone before I settle. It’s okay. When I need sex I can get it. That’s it and that’s enough and I am pretty happy.
I’ve dated insecure women. Have you? It’s utterly pointless outside of free sex.
What we are discussing here is basic stats. You are ignoring stats. You were provided with ample data and you just skip over it- like it doesn’t exist.
I’m happy to hear that whatever system has worked for you makes you happy. I mean that- that’s good.
But to be pretty honest- my system has made me happy too. As outlined above- I just had major surgery. If there is ever a time when a man might feel like he needs a woman in his life; it’s during times of being debilitated. But to be fair I’m just fine dealing with it myself. I don’t really need anyone.
And I would so much rather be single then date the shit that is currently on the modern dating market. I’m not going to reduce myself to it. I do have confidence; confidence enough to know that the modern dating market is shit and I ll die alone before I settle. It’s okay. When I need sex I can get it. That’s it and that’s enough and I am pretty happy.
I'm not saying you aren't straight, just that it sounds like you don't really like women.
This whole exchange, I was working from the position that we were fundamentally the same in that we both liked women, not just sexually, but enjoyed being around women and sharing time with them.
But I think I am beginning to understand that you and the people who believe the things about women that you do don't actually like women. I mean how could you like women as a whole and at the same time believe all the things you believe about them as a group.
So it makes sense that you won't go to what I see as even a basic effort to meat women and form a connection with them. It also makes sense that you see my actions as begging or "putting pussy on a pedestal".
Because I enjoy being with women the efforts I go to be with them don't seem like efforts to me at all.
But since you don't really like women, any real effort comes off as insulting and a waste.
Why put in even a once of effort to be with someone that you may be attracted to but actually have a pretty low opinion of as a group?
I enjoy being with women so my interactions with them feel to me like a dance.
You don't like being with women so your interactions with them must feel to you like a boring work argument.
An interaction you don't really want to be a part off with a person you don't really want to be around any longer than absolutely necessary.
I think that is the fundamental difference between us and why we keep hitting a wall in trying to explain our views to each other.
Plus if you really feel about women the way you do, chances are most women woul not want to waste their time with you in the same way you don't want to waste your time with most women.
With that in mind I guess I'll end my side of this conversation by saying that in my experience women aren't nearly as bad as you think.
The ones I've met and spent time with weren't perfect but on the whole they were kind, wanted to be with me, wanted me to want them, and tried (each in their own way) to make me happy for the time we were together.
I've been lucky in this, but I also think these experiences came in part from my genuinely liking women.
See ya in the funny papers!