Thanks for the help! There is a lot working against me. I’m 41. It’s not like college days where you turn you head and see 100 options. Women are married and taken. The type of woman I want; kind of nerdy/old fashioned who enjoys Netflix and hikes. Is a rare commodity. Online dating doesn’t work. So that leaves real life where the chances are extremely rare to non existent. Ive put myself out there joining book clubs, sewing circles, and yoga classes Again; most women in my range are Married, taken or not interested.
There is absolutely nothing I can do differently to fix this.
Amps are the way! At least I can feel like a king for an hour and go home with memories!
If haven't already done so, eating well and exercising to stay in shape are good first steps in finding what you are looking for. Then ad the personality and treating her like you want to be treated, finishes off the search mode. Since looong time married, not interested in a dating partner but enjoy the massage time with my retired barter masseuse and only look at another masseuse when gal is out of town. That said, if wasn't married and wanted an athletic gal (who doesn't), I would be in the gym on a regular time basis in event someone appears interested in getting to know you eventually, while you are also seeing what might interest you. If you are in decent shape (if not work to get there for your own health ) then go where outdoor women go. Hiking clubs, Meet Up groups of all kinds could be worth checking out. If into skiing and hear "single" at the lift where need a second person to ride, more than once rode that lift with someone who didn't care if I was single or married, was looking for some company down the line.
Keep in mind, single ladies can be all ages, but divorced women for most part are older and miss the companionship and know for most part what they want. You need to make yourself that want. Again, ask yourself, "would I date me". If not, change.