Generalizations Gentlemen...this post is loaded with them from the beginning...and it's no one's fault...We are all trying to get a grips on our feelings for our ATFs... and tend to generalize to accommodate our individual situations.
I'm currently single and don't share the married guys problems with emotional provider relationships but I lived it and I get it...got divorced after my first trip down the Rabbit hole,, LoL..
Had a 4 year relationship with a provider that I retired and I'm currently in a 2 year relationship with a working GF...Just returned from a 30 day trip to her hometown in China which was amazing..
I spend 3-4 days a week in Flushing and a lot of time with my GF, her Roomies and Friends and I know of at least of a dozen current relationships between Caucasian guys and providers ...and each one is different...some have a chance and others are doomed ... Some are "Green Card" relationships, some potential marriage arrangements, some successful "Cinderella Marriages"... It's a crap shoot... little different from the "Civvie" odds on getting hitched...which are around 50/50 at this time...LoL..
Soooo let's not dismiss the potential for a Spa initiated relationship off the bat...it's all relative given certain conditions...Spa girls are doing sex with customers for cash, Civvies are not (at least that's what they tell us) ...Spa sex is anomyous for the most part ( you all are married and don't want more) ...Civvies have an emotional horse in the race if they are seeing someone else (cheating)... and you're being played, if they have been on dating sites when you met them... which is more fu*ked up than a lot of Spa connections..just MHO...Lol..
...My point is, that as strange as it seems, it's no more risky to hook up with a provider than it is with a Civvie and usually a lot more rewarding...as long as you know the risks involved...
In my case..I have nothing but "Blue Sky's" to report and no regrets...
Life is Good,
Enjoy!
Xooz