Seeking Arrangments (& other Sugar Daddy sites)

[threeforthemoney]

For me, the sugar daddy experience is better than an hour at an amp.

I’m in my early 40s and live alone so I am flexible. I’m not a very handsome guy either. I’ve met several members here so they’ll agree with me. lol

But as we all know, if you are respectful, kind and financially stable, these girls do not care what you look like as long as you do not look like an Oompa Loompa. lol.

You’re right—finding a diamond in the rough is not easy. But once you do, it’s well worth it.

I sometimes enjoy the chase. I do not mind the time and money put into it.

I strike out very often as well but I learn from each experience so it’s well worth it.

For example, with amp providers, I’ll meet them when they have their vacation. No emotions attached. I’ll take them out to a nice steak or sushi dinner in Manhattan (around $300). Sometimes they want to eat at the World Mall or a nearby Korean BBQ or Chinese restaurant in Flushing. For an all-nighter, I’ll give them $500. Not one amp provider has complained about the amount. Many of them have refused payment but I will respectfully tell them that it’s a token of my appreciation.

Some of these providers, I’ll also take them out shopping to the Woodbury outlet and get them a gift under $1,000 such as a Coach handbag or a Burberry shirt or pants. Not a single girl demanded an extreme gift such as a $5,000 Gucci handbag. All of them have been reasonable which I appreciate.

If I’m very comfortable with them, I will bring them to my home for the night.

Several of them have asked me to be their boyfriend but I will respectfully decline it. Some get upset but they call me back to meet up again. lol.

The sex is always great with them. They’ll do things to me that we do not do at an amp. I’m sure all of you know what I mean.

On their birthday or Chinese New Year’s, I’ll give them $1,000 as an extra gift.

But again, there is no emotions attached. They know that I meet other girls and I do not care what they do while they are not with me.

As for the girls from the clubs or private parties, it’s a bit different in my experience. I’ll take them out to dinner to a steakhouse or sushi restaurant in the city ($300).

The first time I spend the night with them, I’ll stay at a hotel in the city. I’ll give them $1,000 for the night. They appreciate it. Many of them are students at NYU. I’ll check their Instagram and LinkedIn to make sure.

I’ll take them shopping in Soho as well. Again, nothing over $1,000.

Most of these girls live with a roommmate so I’ll bring them to my place only if I’m very comfortable with them.

They see where I live, the clothes I wear and the cars that I drive so the good and smart girls will be reasonable and maintain this friends with benefit relationship.

The stupid ones will then immediately ask for help with rent, tuition or ask me to buy them a $20,000 Hermès hang bag. lol. These are the ones I’ll discontinue the friends with benefit relationship.

The sex is great with these girls as well. I’ll give career advice and help them get a job as well.

These girls are in their early to late 20s and most of them are college students who are attending a private university in Manhattan.

Some of these girls will say, “XYZ just paid my tuition for this semester.” My response is, “Good for you. I had to take out a student loan.” lol. They get upset at me but again, they’ll call me again in a few weeks. lol.

On their birthday and Christmas (for those who celebrate it), I’ll give them $1,000 as an extra gift.

No emotion with them either. They know that I meet other girls and I do not care what they do while they are not with me.

That sounds all about right. Thanks for the in depth reply, I like it. Monger on.

 

[jvu0001]

To the girls that ask for $300-$500 for a coffee date, peace out ✌️

 

[ASHP585]

For some of you that are complaining about the SA experience....I am going to assume you are doing it all wrong.

Now, it might not be for you, the whole process of it. And that's fine. But just admit that part of it.

Personally, I haven't found a better bang for the buck. Obviously, results will vary on a number of factors, but for those of you just saying the site is a waste of time, or just doesn't work, that's bad information.

 

[Uniquelyme]

For some of you that are complaining about the SA experience....I am going to assume you are doing it all wrong.

Now, it might not be for you, the whole process of it. And that's fine. But just admit that part of it.

Personally, I haven't found a better bang for the buck. Obviously, results will vary on a number of factors, but for those of you just saying the site is a waste of time, or just doesn't work, that's bad information.

SA is simple. I don't like saying it too often because people get upset. But you can tell the pros right away. I've had sleepover for drinks and $200 I've had sleepover for $250. I've never paid more for a sleepover that happened after we saw each other a few times.

If your older you pay more. If you're younger you pay less. No one's experience is the same.

However I do enjoy fucking a girl who isn't fucking 25-50 guys or so a week.

 

[Srhsrh]

This is similar to what you might get from a SB, both in price and sexual experience. But for me, the key difference is that the SB hasn’t been servicing multiple guys every day. If I’m going to pay that kind of money, I want someone who’s a little “fresher”

Ok, so fill me in, as I’ve never done SB. How long is the commit for? Can it just be one night? And is it guaranteed first night, or do you have to finance a meet and greet? I’d be willing to try it, if I don’t have to invest a huge amount of time and money before getting what I want. How about the skill level? It’s not just looks for me. I want a girl that knows how to perform in bed. And the best BJs I get are from experienced girls. Not interested in a pretty girl that thinks good head is kissing the tip and doing a HJ, while worrying about her makeup.

 

[Uniquelyme]

Ok, so fill me in, as I’ve never done SB. How long is the commit for? Can it just be one night? And is it guaranteed first night, or do you have to finance a meet and greet? I’d be willing to try it, if I don’t have to invest a huge amount of time and money before getting what I want. How about the skill level? It’s not just looks for me. I want a girl that knows how to perform in bed. And the best BJs I get are from experienced girls. Not interested in a pretty girl that thinks good head is kissing the tip and doing a HJ, while worrying about her makeup.

Don't try SA dude. You just sound like you are planning for it to fail.

You have questions that have been answered at nauseum.

What I will say is EVERY SA girl I've seen gave phenomenal head. That isn't going to always happen. But when a girl is comfortable and likes you even just a bit that jaw will do well.

 

[ASHP585]

Ok, so fill me in, as I’ve never done SB. How long is the commit for? Can it just be one night? And is it guaranteed first night, or do you have to finance a meet and greet? I’d be willing to try it, if I don’t have to invest a huge amount of time and money before getting what I want. How about the skill level? It’s not just looks for me. I want a girl that knows how to perform in bed. And the best BJs I get are from experienced girls. Not interested in a pretty girl that thinks good head is kissing the tip and doing a HJ, while worrying about her makeup.

I have had the "average" blowjob much more often from the pros then any meets on SA.
The thing is, while there is a financial aspect to all of this, and you will weed through some hustlers and pros on the site, many of the women on there just like to have sex, and can reap the benefits of offering it on there. One thing that has been absolutely consistent is the EFFORT the SA girls put in. I have yet to get the experience where you get left feeling like you didn't get value for the dollar.
I am sure it also helps to be younger, attractive, well kept, etc. BUT, you are also going to have a much more personal experience. So if you're going to treat that woman right and she appreciates it, you will get much more mileage in this type of transaction then the typical AMP transaction, where the limits are normally the limits with SOME, but not much, variation.

And really, it is also going to help to be skilled in the bedroom. Bottom line, they want to get off too in many cases. If you can't provide that for them, they are probably going to require some more coin, or continue seeking out somebody who can.

I have 3 I am seeing pretty regularly. One, around every other week. I usually go to her place. We do $300. There's always sex, but there's also dinner, hanging out, etc. Depending on her schedule, I may or may not spend the night.

Another is strictly when I am working in her area. I reach out and see if she's available, we make arrangements, and that's that. Sometimes there is a transaction, sometimes its just to grab coffee and talk.

The 3rd, I have been speaking with for months now. Never an expectation. I've met her friends, she's met mine. We discuss anything and everything pretty much. She had the profile because she worked too much and didn't have time for that committed relationship. We found something that works for us. To this day, outside of paying for dates we go on, I've done a few bills here and there. Never was it ASKED for, but offered.

In between these three, there were many times wasters that never got beyond texting. Many coffee dates that there wasn't a spark that had me interested. Many that we had a few meets and ended things for one reason or another.


Imagine if we didn't have a site like this for intel before walking into the parlors. How many dead ends would we hit in the hunt? After a handful of them, do we just STOP going to them all together? Probably not. So if you're going to give this avenue a shot, have proper expectations, put in a little bit of effort, and I highly doubt you'll end up disappointed.

 

[nycballetlover]

Just my 2 cents, as I am still a newbie to sugar life. Have had my fill of spa girls and escorts which I never found satisfying. I also always worried about catching something. Ive been on SA for 3 months, messaged hundreds of women, and got less than 10 percent responses and of that, a smattering of meets and dates. However, and I can only speak for myself, Im never going back to spas and escorts. And I have not spent a penny on spas or escorts in the 3 months. I also havent gotten sex yet (situation presented twice but I cracked under pressure). However, I have continued to perfect my game and I have more POTs than ever. Furthermore, my fear of disease is mitigated by STD testing which can never be done with an escort or spa girl.

 

[threeforthemoney]

I have had the "average" blowjob much more often from the pros then any meets on SA.
The thing is, while there is a financial aspect to all of this, and you will weed through some hustlers and pros on the site, many of the women on there just like to have sex, and can reap the benefits of offering it on there. One thing that has been absolutely consistent is the EFFORT the SA girls put in. I have yet to get the experience where you get left feeling like you didn't get value for the dollar.
I am sure it also helps to be younger, attractive, well kept, etc. BUT, you are also going to have a much more personal experience. So if you're going to treat that woman right and she appreciates it, you will get much more mileage in this type of transaction then the typical AMP transaction, where the limits are normally the limits with SOME, but not much, variation.

And really, it is also going to help to be skilled in the bedroom. Bottom line, they want to get off too in many cases. If you can't provide that for them, they are probably going to require some more coin, or continue seeking out somebody who can.

I have 3 I am seeing pretty regularly. One, around every other week. I usually go to her place. We do $300. There's always sex, but there's also dinner, hanging out, etc. Depending on her schedule, I may or may not spend the night.

Another is strictly when I am working in her area. I reach out and see if she's available, we make arrangements, and that's that. Sometimes there is a transaction, sometimes its just to grab coffee and talk.

The 3rd, I have been speaking with for months now. Never an expectation. I've met her friends, she's met mine. We discuss anything and everything pretty much. She had the profile because she worked too much and didn't have time for that committed relationship. We found something that works for us. To this day, outside of paying for dates we go on, I've done a few bills here and there. Never was it ASKED for, but offered.

In between these three, there were many times wasters that never got beyond texting. Many coffee dates that there wasn't a spark that had me interested. Many that we had a few meets and ended things for one reason or another.


Imagine if we didn't have a site like this for intel before walking into the parlors. How many dead ends would we hit in the hunt? After a handful of them, do we just STOP going to them all together? Probably not. So if you're going to give this avenue a shot, have proper expectations, put in a little bit of effort, and I highly doubt you'll end up disappointed.

So true, if they seem into it, your older and experienced, and you get them off, they really look forward to the evening. Typically a good tongue, plenty of licking and sucking, fingers, etc., that experience is so much better to them than a 21 year old that finished in 3 minutes. And you treat them like the angel they are, you cater to their needs, get them a bottle of water before we got to bed, it's the little things that count.

 

[threeforthemoney]

Just to be able to spend 12 to 16 hours with a beautiful 21 to 23 year old. Funny stimulating conversation, snacks, drinks, small talk. Then one of the best non condom sexual experiences to have since I was 21, about 40 years ago, is priceless. So, so much better than an AMP. just no comparison. I'd rather just sit back and wait until she comes over again. Always on time, always fun, bubbly, and ready for anything you through at them. When you keep them happy, they never seem to disappoint.

 

[VJLUTZ]

Interesting responses. I was only on SA premium only a month and had four experiences. After a few months, I've whittled it down to one "keeper" who I still see regularly. She is early 30s, Asian, speaks excellent English and is awesome looking in a way most spa girls are not. Beyond that, part of the motivation was the limitations of the spa, as well as, the pervasive fear of a bust (small, but not zero).

In some ways, my experience has been the opposite of many of the other posters. The SA girls are I've met all about the $$. I do hang out and talk with my regular SB, but its mostly about her problems, so not that satisfying. On the other hand, the women who I've coaxed out of the spas are much more interested in me and making me comfortable & happy. It's definitely not all about the $$ with them. [Notice I said spa, including nail and legit massage; not just AMPs]. In many cases, they want a mature, successful American man who can show them a good time, display interest in them (including endless texting on WeChat or KakaoTalk) and otherwise treat them like a human being. I've had multiple of them buy ME gifts (including Prada sunglasses) and two even offered to take me back to their home country (to show off). I'd never expect that from an SB.

 

[Srhsrh]

I’ve had similar experiences from spa girls. I’ve had girls go ecstatic for getting a hotel room and getting a chance to sleep out of the spa for a night, even if I had to leave early (or maybe because ). Asking a girl what food she misses, and making arrangements for her. Staying at my house. These girls live sheltered lives, and really respond well to be treated as a peer. Then if you go out of your way for them, it’s friends for life. I put the MMS of a spa onto a business seat on a flight to Seoul when her mom was dying and she needed to rush home. She couldn’t find tickets, I used my points and clout. Cost me nothing, just points I’ll never used. And boy did that pay off after she returned. She was crying about it, so happy she had a chance to see her mom, and that I treated her as a friend, helping with no strings.

I’ll try SA and see what happens. But I just have this image it’s all rich family privileged girls, in school or just out, with budgetary problems and lots of head issues.

 

[nycballetlover]

I’ve had similar experiences from spa girls. I’ve had girls go ecstatic for getting a hotel room and getting a chance to sleep out of the spa for a night, even if I had to leave early (or maybe because ). Asking a girl what food she misses, and making arrangements for her. Staying at my house. These girls live sheltered lives, and really respond well to be treated as a peer. Then if you go out of your way for them, it’s friends for life. I put the MMS of a spa onto a business seat on a flight to Seoul when her mom was dying and she needed to rush home. She couldn’t find tickets, I used my points and clout. Cost me nothing, just points I’ll never used. And boy did that pay off after she returned. She was crying about it, so happy she had a chance to see her mom, and that I treated her as a friend, helping with no strings.

I’ll try SA and see what happens. But I just have this image it’s all rich family privileged girls, in school or just out, with budgetary problems and lots of head issues.

SA girls run the gamut. Spoiled rich girls, escorts, older girls with jobs, college students of which althere are several types as well. It takes time and effort to find the right match, but when you do, it is heaven!

 

[Koondog]

Just try to avoid all the gorgeous NYC asian girls. They expect the moon and can't be bargained with in my experience. Better luck in the hinterlands.

 

[didi88]

Just try to avoid all the gorgeous NYC asian girls. They expect the moon and can't be bargained with in my experience. Better luck in the hinterlands.

Not in my experience. Most of the SBs I’ve seen have been Asians in NYC area. All accepted what I offered initially and most never asked for any more

 

[Koondog]

Manhattan? I haven't met one who didn't want AT LEAST 5 bills. You can find some nice ones in Jersey for about half that price (but very few---most of these girls think their pussies are golden).

 

[Koondog]

And what do these girls in Manhattan need SA for anyway? If you can afford to live in Manhattan you're already on easy street to begin with.

 

[krideynyc]

And what do these girls in Manhattan need SA for anyway? If you can afford to live in Manhattan you're already on easy street to begin with.

Everything else. Because rent takes out a big chunk of their income.

 

[didi88]

Manhattan? I haven't met one who didn't want AT LEAST 5 bills. You can find some nice ones in Jersey for about half that price (but very few---most of these girls think their pussies are golden).

Mostly Queens and Manhattan. 300-400 each time. I’m not looking for bargains, just girls I can connect with

 

[Uniquelyme]

Mostly Queens and Manhattan. 300-400 each time. I’m not looking for bargains, just girls I can connect with

Manhattan is a dub. Don't meet Women who live in Manhattan. Try NJ or Long Island or Westchester. Even Queens & Brooklyn are good.