Why do you go to AMPs?

[Uniquelyme]

First thing, get this mindset out of your head-What you send into the uninverse will cone back to you, anyone who tells you different has no spiritual foundation and should be ignored at all costs. Secondly, if there is anything I know, to strong degree, is there is someone for everyone, unless you are an axe murder or totrtue small animals, no one really wants that. And remember it just takes one yes. Hone your skills at the AMP level, but it is absolutely not a substitute for a meaningful relationship. Go to the places that are in your wheelhouse, with somewhat like-minded people, there's woman there, she's thinking you will never show up. Just go over and say hello, she'll smile broadly and say, hello back-that's the one. And evey now and then, jump right out of your comfort zone-its good for you. And we probably need to fix youron-line dating copy . . .

Let me add to this. This is my experience as well. Put out positive energy into the world. Don't feel sorry for yourself op. Fix what you can Work out, dress well. But practice on you acting normal around Women... Attractive Women. They are human just like us. No need to act like they are some other world being. Be comfortable around them. This happens with practice. Smile at Women quick smile not creepy smile.

You have to find a way to stop being too nervous. Fuck what you used to think about you. Tomorrow is a new day. A brand new day.

 

[Uniquelyme]

Hello jsmith77!

I started dong this when I was a 20 y/o junior in college. That was 33 years ago!
Started with streetwalkers on 11th ave and also Park ave.
Then progressed to upscale brothels and escort services in the mid nineties.
Went to my first AMP in 2003. I do this 3 to 4 times a week and at my age, this is not going to change. I know exactly how my life will play out.

Here is my advice to you. Don't fall into the traps that I did!

1) If you are not going to the gym, start! Hit the weights hard! I have worked out since I was a teen, but always did it home by myself. Not the same.
Join a gym, and do serious weightlifting. Listen to the more experienced guys there. They will most likely be very helpful towards you. I was f-ed with
pretty bad in grade school and high school and always expected the worst from people. I can see now that this was a mistake. Many guys are willing
to help out a newbie. Also, if you can afford it, get a personal trainer.

2) Enroll in some sort of fight training. Martial arts, boxing, Judo, whatever. It will absolutely help you with your confidence. Also, if you are not good at fixing
things (cars, home repairs, etc..) then take some courses. Females love males that are good with their hands.

3) Go out to bars/lounges/clubs with your friends and coworkers. Force yourself if you have to. You will have fun. Trust me. It took me a long time
to realize this.

4) While you are doing (3), approach girls you don't know and talk to them. Tell jokes. But them drinks. If they reject you, who cares? Move on the the
next one.

5) Don't be satisfied being a "worker bee". If you have the opportunity to advance, or start your own business, go for it! I;m an independent consultant and do well
financially, but I never took that extra step. I am basically just a higher paid worker bee. Strive to be more.

6) Forget the Philippines for now! That's for old guys like me!!! You are young and have your whole life ahead of you. Try the above before worrying about
having to go overseas to meet a girl. At my age I really have no other choice if I wanted to marry a hot, young girl. But you do.

7) Never, and mean NEVER be a sap that allows himself to be taken advantage of by a female. Doesn't matter the reason. Could be to use you for money (been
there, done that -- never again!) or anything else. If they don't submit to you out of respect for the fact that you are the man, 'F' them!


Good luck!

Dude go after some 7's you could def bag em with your mindset and success at work. Fuck some 8s but make a 7 your girl if need be. Just some advice. A 7 31-35 yr old isnt a bad choice.

 

[AutomaticSlim]

Dude go after some 7's you could def bag em with your mindset and success at work. Fuck some 8s but make a 7 your girl if need be. Just some advice. A 7 31-35 yr old isnt a bad choice.

Thanks for the encouragement!

 

[lgarthy]

Nerds are unattractive? Maybe 20 years ago... We are in the post-Jobs/Zuckerberg/Gates/Bezos era. It is very cool to be a successful nerd.

I sympathize (but not really empathize) about your post and applaud you for your honesty. My advise to you is to go out with anyone you know who has either "a rap" or "game." In other words, someone who knows how to talk to people. Anybody. Doesn't have to be hot chicks (but it can be). Learning how to break the ice is key. Learn how to talk to anyone; old guys, Latin King members, housewives, hindu cashiers--ANYONE. Don't put so much psychological stress on having to have a "relationship." That will happen. Shit, you might want to read all the previous post and consider that you may not want it to happen. Having a relationship and having a pay-for-play experience are two separate domains. I bet someone will respond that they are the same because of the their marriage, divorce, etc., but it's not. Have fun and get your release at an AMP, but that will never help your social skills or your ice-breaking ability. However, having wicked social skills (and a physically fit body) will definitely improve you AMP visits.

Do something social as well as physical (as mentioned above). My guess is that you need to work on your social skills most of all. That doesn't mean your inept. There are coaches for this kind of thing to, but I bet you know someone with "game." Watch them. listen to them. Try it out, what's the worst that can happen? You still won't have a date? No loss in trying then. Learn a rap. The rest will fall into place as there really is someone for everyone, but if your live in an emotional or social box, it's hard...

PS- if you have cash, there will always be options. BUT that doesn't sound like the route you want or need. Maybe take a dance class (ballroom, swing, line, square, doesn't matter)-- might fix 2 to 3 issues all at once.

 

[lgarthy]

PS-- remember that pay-for-play does NOT build social skills. In fact, it might distort your self-perception in a clandestine and corrosive way... Again, building your rap will definitely enhance your pay-for-play!

 

[AutomaticSlim]

PS-- remember that pay-for-play does NOT build social skills. In fact, it might distort your self-perception in a clandestine and corrosive way... Again, building your rap will definitely enhance your pay-for-play!

Agree.
But "rap" only goes so far without things of substance to back it up.
Building that foundation is very important.

 

[We Need More MPS]

Im married with kids and i like whores.....nuff said. The no strings is the best

Whores Look Great complain less and are a lot of Fun .

 

[Undercoverbrova]

I'm in a relationship but it's very long term and for many reasons my sex life is damn near dead. Mistresses are risky so this is the best option outside of sugar babies, which seem too rich for my blood.

 

[We Need More MPS]

Forget about Mistresses they can turn on you and blackmail you

 

[bronzeharbor]

Sounds like 90% of the guys here married the wrong chick lol
For my reason, no strings attached, and check off my bucket list of chicks
I've also probably gotten used to the single life but my friends have some potential line ups for me
I'm mid 20s and I'm not in a rush

 

[Daveinqueens]

Sounds like 90% of the guys here married the wrong chick lol
For my reason, no strings attached, and check off my bucket list of chicks
I've also probably gotten used to the single life but my friends have some potential line ups for me
I'm mid 20s and I'm not in a rush

No some of us married guys just need something different. The same poon for 17yrs can get boring.

 

[Levin79]

No some of us married guys just need something different. The same poon for 17yrs can get boring.

And some married women feel the same way-lol.

 

[We Need More MPS]

So much for being married

 

[Daveinqueens]

And some married women feel the same way-lol.

Long as i dont see im cool

 

[RickeyRomance]

For me, it's mainly due to lack of success with women. I was a 26 year old virgin when I started going to AMPs. I am 27 now and I still haven't kissed a girl or been on a date with a girl in my life. I have a graduate degree, make good money, but I am a "nerd" and women find this unattractive.

I tried online dating and got absolutely zero responses from women. I thought I would at least be able to get one or two dates from ugly or fat girls, but I was wrong. Not being able to have sex with women is one thing, but not being able to even meet them is so much worse. I eventually gave up on dating women in New York. But when I tried online dating in the Philippines, the results were dramatically different and I got enthusiastic responses from young, attractive women there. So it is clear that women are not the problem for me - the problem is simply American women. There are practical considerations for bringing over a woman from Philippines (e.g., I will have to spend thousands of dollars on a K1 visa application that can take over a year), so for now it's just AMPs for me.

I was never a ladies man but you have to be very careful with blaming women for wanting an attractive, outgoing guy. You want an attractive, outgoing woman, don't you?

In my experience, the key is to work on yourself, bro. No one is beyond hope. Start working out, change your wardrobe, style your hair and develop your interpersonal skills and, with your money, you'll find success with regular girls. Folks can instinctively detect confidence and a positive, bubbly personality and those are things that attract people. The more you improve your outer appearance and your outlook, the more folks will naturally gravitate towards you.

Trust me, I'm not dissing you or coming down on you. I'm a fellow nerd but I really began to realize that being funny, being in-shape and working on myself turned everything around. I was alone for a long time and now I'm very happy. But definitely don't fall into that trap of blaming women for wanting an attractive guy. Why wouldn't they? You got this, man.

 

[Koujiao]

Slim gave you a great set of plans, it is about being accountable for yourself. Working on your body works on your mind. Another way of putting this can be found in chapter 1 from Jordan peterson's 12 rules for life, and it wont be a waste of time if you read a few more. It is not a typical self-help book for the helpless.

I will also add..... Never blame or turn on women for your shortcomings. Too much of that BS goes on here, it is easy and irresponsible to buy into that blame game. If all you are looking for out of your definition of a good relationship is obediance and sex, get a trained dog and an easily cleaned blow up doll.

 

[bronzeharbor]

I low key get off to being able to have chemistry with providers that others fail at
Not in a kinky way
More like a self esteem boost
Kinda like "Well at least I'm not THAT bad"
It's toxic but I'm working on it lol

 

[B.Ang23]

my friends hit up spots in flushing. and always told me to go. and one of my coworkers actually gave me a number to a place and i’ve been hooked since. lol its a rush.

 

[727]

Anyone notice, all this chatter and mr. smith never came back, he is a shy one.

 

[Rombulous]

I like whores too.
And have for a very long time.
But it gets lonely when I come home to nothing but an empty apartment and cheap booze.

You have enough money. nobody is stopping you from keeping the pantry stocked with Möet et Chandón