What a great thread. I’m not going to say what I do or don’t do. It’s not about that. More what this is about, is about thinking. I’d like to offer some variety of opinion & spur some thought.
OP is getting beat up. It’s not what you say, but how you say it. That said, perhaps he came off harsh. But, he offers some validity. So many guys think that a provider will remember him if he tips. I have news: you think she will. But, you will have to go back an awful lot for her to remember you. Or, give an awfully big tip. And even then…. Be realistic. She is not dreaming of your brown eyes and pimply back. You might have to look awfully unique. The same monger with a stunning charm, respectful attitude, nice presentation may be remembered before the high rolling tipper. Especially if he shows up more to the spa than you & does not tip. The amount of new faces a provider sees is incredible.
I know this and support OP because I’ve left tips of $500 for providers & within 2 weeks, “Been here before honey?” Was I upset? No, because in the moment I tipped, I had a reason for doing so. And, hopefully it was paid forward. I’m sure there are mongers on here that was tipped way more than me in one shot and in total. You all are on some stupid b/s though if you think they will pull out a red carpet each time you walk in. Or, give you some 4-hand crazy freak show. No, cuzzin, you have to earn that. And in life, respect and trust is earned with a little more then just a dollar sign. Well, don’t get me flat out wrong, it is a business…
Second of all, I’d also like to tell the OP there are tons of mongers attesting to tipping on here, and tons silent who do not tip. Whatever you do… who really cares? If you hobby and have fun, then most certainly keep doing so.