Na dude. It's a misunderstanding. I was writing fast. My kids would never be abandoned because I would have partial custody or would see them on the weekend. Besides my kids already have their college funds so they are set you see. They would never be abandoned. I told her she could come here and I would take care of her. Me and her would live together. She would be able to send money to them when she works here so she wouldn't abandoned them. She only freaked out because she knows the paper work could take years. Maybe. Possibly. But then she also freaked out because since she is so humble, she didn't want to break up a home. She experienced that with her own father who abandoned her and her 2 sisters when her father walked away with another women. Literally left them to starve. You see I would never do that. I just wouldn't be able to afford to take care of her and her 3 kids in NYC and pay child support at the same time. That's the issue. Now if I was a millionaire. Oh hellz yeah I would bring her and her 3 kids to live with me. But I'm not a millionaire. She has seen my pics on social media. She knows I'm an outstanding citizen of my community and I'm the father of the year. She doesn't want to be responsible for being a homewrecker either. That's why she is the real deal. I told her. Good dads in the USA are normal. It's not like Ecuador. Men in Ecuador are horrible creatures. Women have to put up with men who have multiple women and multiple families with kids with multiple women. And always cheating on them. And they don't pay child support or give them anything really. I actually sent her flowers and chocolate for her birthday only 1 month text dating. And she was in shocked. Why? Because men in Ecuador don't do that kind of stuff. But they get to smash all the time though. The culture is so messed up there. Women are used to stealing other women's men. Even if they are married. It's a married man's paradise over there. It's unbelievable.
Ok, so here's the thing. Take a long look at everything you wrote from your first post to this last one. You mention your children exactly twice.
The first time as "damned kids" that you don't want to pay child support for and the second time as not really needing you as their full time father all that much because they have college funds and there's always joint custody.
So the first time you bring up your children you describe them as a burden, and the second time you bring them up is to describe the reasons why you leaving them wouldn't be that big of a deal.
And you only did that be I and a bunch of other people who actually read what you wrote called you out on what you were saying about your kids! Lol
And how you spoke about your children wasn't the only thing you backtracked on when called out about it.
In your first post you made it a point to say that this woman's choice of her children over you was right and good. But with every post afterwards you slowly cut away from that. Suddenly what was once her a right and good choice of her kids over you was just a misunderstanding, a mistake on her part. Her being too "humble" to understand what you really meant!
You basically fake complimented her. Calling her good for being so humble, but in the same breath saying that that same humility caused her to misunderstand you lol.
You know what you did spend a lot of time on? Describing yourself as "father of the year" again... Wow!
Actually, that's not true, you didn't actually describe anything that makes you "father of the year" you just went into detail as to how the fathers in Ecuador, are soo much worse than you!
Let that one sink in for a sec. You called yourself father of the year then pretty much described how the woman you claim to love should see you that way (despite the fact that you asked her to choose between you and staying with children more than six months out of the year) because she doesn't have any better choices (in your opinion)
Wow! Break out the roses and champagne, we've got a real Romeo here! "You should leave your kids and shack up with me four months out of the year because it's not like you have any better choices where you are. By the way, I won't actually be helping you out with the kids you left behind, because of my child support payments for my own damn kids, so sending money back to your family, that's on you!"
Look, I know this post sounds mean, but God damn it man, it is Christmas!
A holiday that is pretty much all about children! And here you are with one foot out the door posting to strangers about how you would leave your "damn kids" if it wasn't for the child support payments, trying to convince a woman to leave her children to shack up with you four months out of the year, and calling yourself "father of the year" because you've convinced yourself that you're better than all the men in an entire country! Lol
You think she "misunderstands" you? I'm guessing she understands you completely and just doesn't want what you're offering.
I also think your kids probably realize a lot more than you think they do about how you view them good and bad.
Consider the very real possibility that they have a better idea of all the ways you feel about them but still show you love and act like nothing is wrong because they love you and hope you love them as much as they love you
Consider the possibility (especially after rereading all of your posts) that you might not actually be "father of the year" despite how horrible you know all the men in Ecuador to be (Again... Wow!)
Again I know I'm being mean but often it is the meanest sounding advice that breaks us out of stupidity and into reality.
Then again you can just keep this beautiful fantasy story you've told yourself where you are a star crossed Romeo and "father of the year" to you "damned kids".
Marry Christmas man! Your fantasies are fake, but your children are real.