This community needs trust to be work smoothly. Trust is earned. For the newcomers asking, it is like any other fraternity or group--it may not be what you want now, but there are rules and expectations. There IS info here for you, but you also have to do your part. Use the info you have, get involved, build a rep with the women and with the posters. The more of a good rep you have, the more you will be trusted and shared with.