Revenge on SB?

[Anodyne672]

She went directly from the apartment to living with a guy who I am 99% sure she met on SA, 15 years older than her.

He knows about how I kicked her out and she directly moved in with him, that she called my wife while living with him and said to her that I “ruined her life,” and also knows she works on my block.

And she still lives with him and he supports her $$ !!!!!!!!

All of that really sucks, but you are letting her continue to ruin your life and your marriage. If you won’t drop it because it’s the smart thing to do, consider dropping it for the sake of your wife and HER feelings.

As for the SB working on the same block as you, shit like that happens. My ex moved into a house one block away from me and I had to deal with seeing her multiple times every month until she eventually moved about four years later, so I can relate to the aggravation it causes. However, unless she is doing it to stalk or harass you (and you would need proof, not just suspicions), there is nothing you can do about it - other than change jobs or office locations if your company has multiple locations - because we live in a free country and people can work/live wherever they want under most circumstances.

 

[PapaChen]

Dude.. just get another SB. Tell you’re wife it’s the only way to get over it and fix it. Lol

Just drop it!! Not worth the headache and nonsense that will follow. She wants to get your attention and that will “prove” to her you still care. Negative attention is still attention.

You’re married I’m so it’s difficult but when it happened to me, I made sure my ex sb saw me with a super hottie new babe.

 

[Delt37]

If you contact her new sugar daddy, she's going to contact your wife again. Are you ready for that?

And then what? If I'm a sugar daddy and some former SD texts me to say the girl has been around the block, not sure I'd be very shocked. So it doesn't seem to do much for you.

 

[herbstriker]

Should I get revenge on my ex-SB by sharing our texts with her current bf? Get ready for a description of ridiculous drama I got into at a low point in my life due to midlife crisis and a bad marriage.

no.

 

[PapaChen]

@herbstriker ,
I love you’re style. Lmao

 

[jerryedwards335]

She went directly from the apartment to living with a guy who I am 99% sure she met on SA, 15 years older than her.

He knows about how I kicked her out and she directly moved in with him, that she called my wife while living with him and said to her that I “ruined her life,” and also knows she works on my block.

And she still lives with him and he supports her $$ !!!!!!!!

Ok..case closed! How about them Mets?

 

[NYCMonger91]

Catch and release. Learn these 2 words. Nothing on paper, no texts, no digital records.

If you are well off enough to rent apartments just like that, think about how much quality snatch you can get with that rent $.

You probably could have had 3 asian girls stacked upon each other while a fourth one hand feeds you omakase from her snatch.

That is after your wife gets her fist out of your asshole for being caught lmao.

 

[Johnmong]

@instinctsrtrue I think you got your answer but I want to provide some support.

It sounds like you feel like you got the short end of the stick out of this (you have an apt that wasn't appreciated or grateful for, your wife is now aware of your hobby, this dumb girl is now with someone else[literally the least of your problems from this situation]). It sounds like a shitty situation just because your wife is now having to go to couples therapy because of this... The apartment.. yeah that sucks too, you lost out on some money but think of it as "paying to play". You payed the price for admission, got into the venue and had a decent time but not the exact sort of time you were hoping for. That happens all the time right? you watch a movie and are bummed about it not being as great as you hoped or you go to a broadway show and the seats aren't that good and you wished you payed more for better seats and didn't go at all. Better yet, its like going to a provider after reading glowing reviews only to have a mediocre session because of a lack of chemistry or the girl was tired. You still got to experience the show, the session, etc but it just wasn't that great... You can chalk that up right?

as for this girl thats with someone else... It sounds like there is some jealousy. Ill state it bluntly.
That's ok, I think as humans we all have times where we feel possessive and feel like we are entitled to something whether it be an appointment slow in a busy schedule or being the only one to make the appointment.
This girl is not worth the emotional effort. I know you want to come out FEELING ON TOP of her, because thats what the " relationship" dynamic feels like right? we pay these women to bring down their walls and let us dominate for the time.
You feel like you lost that power dynamic. That is fine though... You can restore that feeling somewhere else. Do not stay trying to restore that sense of power or GETTING THE LAST LAUGH in this situation.
What does she have to lose? What do you have to lose? Already that should show you that you still have the power in this dynamic. Your potential loss is much higher and that should alone make you feel more powerful.

Id suggest getting a massage. Go book an appointment with a PROFESSIONAL. Screw these SB for the time being and go to GGR/PH and treat yourself. I promise it'll help

 

[JokerInThePack]

You have nothing to gain with revenge and continuing to engage in her world is just going to set you up for more chaos in yours. Why bother? Serves no purpose.

 

[instinctsrtrue]

@instinctsrtrue I think you got your answer but I want to provide some support.

It sounds like you feel like you got the short end of the stick out of this (you have an apt that wasn't appreciated or grateful for, your wife is now aware of your hobby, this dumb girl is now with someone else[literally the least of your problems from this situation]). It sounds like a shitty situation just because your wife is now having to go to couples therapy because of this... The apartment.. yeah that sucks too, you lost out on some money but think of it as "paying to play". You payed the price for admission, got into the venue and had a decent time but not the exact sort of time you were hoping for. That happens all the time right? you watch a movie and are bummed about it not being as great as you hoped or you go to a broadway show and the seats aren't that good and you wished you payed more for better seats and didn't go at all. Better yet, its like going to a provider after reading glowing reviews only to have a mediocre session because of a lack of chemistry or the girl was tired. You still got to experience the show, the session, etc but it just wasn't that great... You can chalk that up right?

as for this girl thats with someone else... It sounds like there is some jealousy. Ill state it bluntly.
That's ok, I think as humans we all have times where we feel possessive and feel like we are entitled to something whether it be an appointment slow in a busy schedule or being the only one to make the appointment.
This girl is not worth the emotional effort. I know you want to come out FEELING ON TOP of her, because thats what the " relationship" dynamic feels like right? we pay these women to bring down their walls and let us dominate for the time.
You feel like you lost that power dynamic. That is fine though... You can restore that feeling somewhere else. Do not stay trying to restore that sense of power or GETTING THE LAST LAUGH in this situation.
What does she have to lose? What do you have to lose? Already that should show you that you still have the power in this dynamic. Your potential loss is much higher and that should alone make you feel more powerful.

Id suggest getting a massage. Go book an appointment with a PROFESSIONAL. Screw these SB for the time being and go to GGR/PH and treat yourself. I promise it'll help

A few things.

1. Everyone is completely right that revenge will do nothing for me and carries potential risks so I am not going to do that

2. Not jealous of the new guy. Rather, am saying I am amazed that a guy would have a SB move into his place right after her SD kicks her out and then keep her around after she calls the former SD’s wife and says he “ruined” her life

3. Not unlike many married guys, I was in a cold marriage and thought I’d spice it up with the sugar world. I got love bombed by her early and believed she was someone different than she was and was only paying her 900 per month for her rent, and would see her multiple times per week and she was down with traveling with me when we could. I made the mistake of thinking it made sense after 1.5 yrs to rent an apartment for us as I was spending so much on hotels. I was Stupid and in a bad place. LESSON LEARNED!!!

 

[Oneafter909]

Sounds like a real shit show.
Just walk away before someone gets arrested , hurt or worse. This type of thing can escalate fast .

 

[Delt37]

I got love bombed by her early and believed she was someone different than she was

Every sugar baby knows she could make more money escorting. The ones who get into the sugar game other than to use it as a stepping stone to working as an independent escort often do it because they believe they will either be a kept mistress for life or, even better, that the guy will leave his wife for her. The jilted mistress realizing she played herself by believing this lie is a story as old as time.

This girl saw fucking you for $900/month as a loss leader to her "happily ever after" and when she realized it was a sink cost she took a last stab at breaking up your marriage for her payday. If you contact her again, she'll take another crack at ending your marriage.

Maybe her new SD really is naive enough to think he's "saving her." If he takes another crazy girl off the market, good for the rest of us.

 

[Sporty3064]

A SB is just a side piece and borderline escort. Enjoy it while it lasts and never get too involved.
Most on SA are all the same motive. And usually lie

 

[veomorphine]

Too bad you didn’t let a guy fuck your wife

I'll fuck your wife for you op

 

[Martinmcsherry]

She still on SA? What's her scree name? Seriously, some guys like crazy, and at least we know she's real and puts out. And others of us on SA might be looking and do well to avoid this one.

 

[有钱人]

Move on.

 

[HardDom_NYC]

Dude, when you’ve dug yourself into a deep hole, its time to put down the shovel. You fucked up in catastrophic fashion, but you’re only hope is to drop the shovel and move on. You can only make it worse.

 

[xpoundcakex]

I’m young and don’t have much experience to chime in but she sounds bat shit crazy. You have a wife so she’s only a side hoe (SB) so why is she surprised if there is more side hoes besides her. On top of that she’s disrespecting you by having sex with multiple guys while you take care of her and feels a type of way when you have sex with other woman????? It sounds like she doesn’t want you to see other women so you can provide more cash to her and won’t find a better side piece and dump her crazy ass. It’s best to just completely ignore her and not open your mouth to even speak a single word to her, wether it’s out of anger, pity, remorse or whatever emotion it may be. She’s toxic !!! Leave her ass with the other dude she moved in with and let him deal with her sorry crazy twisted fried brain.

 

[bacongrease]

whats SB or SA?

wow, you fell hard... I would say, how much is it worth it for you to try to get back at her? take your losses and run, close out the apt and rent somewhere else, disconnect all links to her. this is just a lot of drama, that you dont need. It is entertaining though, if it happens to someone else and you watch it unfold as a spectactor, thats why Kdrama and soap operas are so popular.

 

[Defyeler]

Should I get revenge on my ex-SB by sharing our texts with her current bf? Get ready for a description of ridiculous drama I got into at a low point in my life due to midlife crisis and a bad marriage.

Long story short, I got way in over my head with a SB 20 years younger involving declarations of love and so forth, referring to each other as bf/gf. I even got her an apartment near my office because it made sense as I was getting hotels 2-3x week.

I ended it a year ago as it became too much like a relationship - like constant arguing and I had to chase her for sex almost - and two months pass and she calls my wife and exposes the “affair” and says I “ruined” her life. Wife read all of our texts and we are still together but it has been HELL with counseling and it brought up daily.

Subsequently, I told the SB’s family she is a sex worker.

She acted like we were a couple and almost was suicidal when she discovered that I fucked other SA girls. But she was fucking someone else too I later discovered. Probably
Multiple guys. I think the main guy is from SA because I told him what she did to me and how she was living in an apartment I rented while they were “together” and yet they are still together!

In fact, she started living with him the day after I ended it and “evicted” her and so he knows this and that while
Living with him she called my wife.

Anyway, I deleted all my texts and then just discovered some exist on my computer and in them she says that she has no desire for this guy and the only sex she has desired is with me. She says she cares very little about him and loves me.

should I send these texts to her and the boyfriend or just let it go? Remember, my wife read them and so why shouldn’t he? But I think he is so desperate for free young pussy that she could shoot someone on 5th Ave and he would stay with her. So it’ll likely be for nothing and I risk that she will get more revenge. After all, SBs have less to lose than us

Huh.. I'm reading this and nobody has looked at it from the side of the SB.

Forget the person is an SB. If it were just a regular civie, and you did sleepovers with her in hotels often (sounded like it in OP), and then an apartment, I'm not sure how anybody wouldn't think you're in a relationship.

Did you tell her you had a wife from go? (That doesn't do much, considering divorce is a normal thing, and people can always have a relationship afterward. Usually with someone they already know.)

Look these girls do what they do for their own reasons. They are still human beings no matter what we think of them (and judging by most of the posts and responses mongers don't really think much of these girls other than Tits and Ass to bust a nut). Sure we pay, do you treat your doctor or even mechanic like a worthless POS?

What you have sounds like a problem you yourself created. If you never mongered, then liked one so much that you made it a point to try to "lock her in" by getting her, her own apartment, while getting angry that she sees other people, while you yourself screw other women. That's grade-A hypocrisy. It's that simple. I feel for your wife.