If you don't let a girl give you a good rimming and rusty trombone combination you are missing one of the great pleasures. Same goes for a nice prostrate massage and bj combination. My point is to enjoy the things they want to give you.
In return many appreciate the same things, sensual mouth kissing all over their body, breasts, neck, ears, inner thighs, daty and dato. Giving them pleasure usually increases the pleasure they want to give.
It's caled forplay, part of creating the necessary anticipation.