I offer, with respect, some advice as an older guy: in the end you will look back on your life and always think about the missed opportunities, no matter how much you love your wife now and in the future. If you are letting the best part of your youth evaporate, one day you will perhaps learn to resent your wife. Don’t make that mistake. If you are going to monger, do it well, not half way. Ultimately if you have guilt over it or if you get caught, the end result will be the same if you have one outing or one hundred. The difference is you will have 100 memories made while you were in your prime and the act itself was effortless. It won’t always be easy or available.