Have you ever fallen in love with a provider?

[Perfecto]

A past review thread of mine from a couple of years ago just resurfaced where I expressed that I “thought” the provider cared for me more than she actually did and it begged a question for the board…for those that are willing to honestly share.

Have your ever fallen emotionally for a provider and/or lost touch with reality that it’s just a service? How did you deal with it?

 

[AutomaticSlim]

How did you deal with it?

 

[cher_cheri]

No. If I ever thought I was at risk of developing feelings I would stop seeing the provider immediately. Oh, though I did see a pro-domme once who just pushed all of my buttons. I never went to see her again, though she's still in the business. I follow her on Twitter.

 

[manfrenjentsen]

Have your ever fallen emotionally for a provider and/or lost touch with reality that it’s just a service? How did you deal with it?

Yes. Every session. Then I leave and my reality sets in. It’s the post-nut clarity that keeps me sane.

 

[Koondog]

It's just an illusion. A man might THINK he has fallen in love but deep down he knows it isn't true. If a girl is having sex with other guys every day, whether the man admits it to himself or not, he doesn't respect her. No respect, no love. There's certainly no trust there, and once a girl is entrenched in this business there never can be trust. Even if she gets 'out', she's never really out. And a man would be an utter fool to ever believe she really has put it behind her.

 

[dirkjones]

Only thing I ever fell in love with was the acts they performed and being able to leave soon after.

 

[hamilton2015]

A past review thread of mine from a couple of years ago just resurfaced where I expressed that I “thought” the provider cared for me more than she actually did and it begged a question for the board…for those that are willing to honestly share.

Have your ever fallen emotionally for a provider and/or lost touch with reality that it’s just a service? How did you deal with it?

I think generally speaking It's an illusion from being caught up in the emotional connection from intimacy.

However in rare circumstances, if a provider is very similar to someone you would date in real life, if there are similar interests and a genuine connection then real feelings can develop. Usually that's when a provider might stop seeing a client or put boundaries in place. When this has happened to me in the past I've Usually ended up not seeing the provider anymore because I know it's very unlikely that it can develop into a real relationship given how we've met which hurts some.

 

[hamilton2015]

Also something to consider...if a provider isn't willing to see you for free or see you outside of a session then your feelings aren't based on anything real.

 

[Uniquelyme]

Also something to consider...if a provider isn't willing to see you for free or see you outside of a session then your feelings aren't based on anything real.

This. I almost made 2 pros my gf. Because i was getting it free after a while. However i snapped out of it . Cause i don't have the money for them to stop. I also met them this way. Selfish to ask them to stop and I need a gf that hasn't been with hundreds of guys .

 

[Koondog]

This. I almost made 2 pros my gf. Because i was getting it free after a while. However i snapped out of it . Cause i don't have the money for them to stop. I also met them this way. Selfish to ask them to stop and I need a gf that hasn't been with hundreds of guys .

See that's it, if they really loved you they WOULD stop, and on their own, without prodding. But they won't. They never do, Too greedy, too materialistic, money becomes everything to them. Everything else in life is a FAR distant second, especially relationships with men.

Because of this many if not most of these woman will die alone without a life partner, unwilling to grasp what's really important in life.

 

[Johnny Blaze]

Once when I really first started. It was stupid on my part for sure.

Because of this many if not most of these woman will die alone without a life partner, unwilling to grasp what's really important in life.

From what I've seen they all end up with a dude when they are nearing the end of their careers. Some are married during the middle of their careers.

 

[dirkjones]

See that's it, if they really loved you they WOULD stop, and on their own, without prodding. But they won't. They never do, Too greedy, too materialistic, money becomes everything to them. Everything else in life is a FAR distant second, especially relationships with men.

Can't say I blame em. Be independent, get paid (make a great living) for doing something that comes natural and doesn't require a degree, have no one to answer to. Only down side is the negative connotation that line of work invokes, so you either have to live on the down low or be out in the open and take the criticism.

 

[Koondog]

Can't say I blame em. Be independent, get paid (make a great living) for doing something that comes natural and doesn't require a degree, have no one to answer to. Only down side is the negative connotation that line of work invokes, so you either have to live on the down low or be out in the open and take the criticism.

Rather selfish and narcissistic lifestyle but it's the life they choose.

 

[Koondog]

Once when I really first started. It was stupid on my part for sure.



From what I've seen they all end up with a dude when they are nearing the end of their careers. Some are married during the middle of their careers.

Married to the unaware dupe or a guy with no self-respect. Ignorance can be bliss.

 

[beatnik]

Rather selfish and narcissistic lifestyle but it's the life they choose.

When the girls tell me they're doing this because they want to go shopping, I think to myself, is that handbag really worth it? Would I fuck 10 fat ugly sweaty girls for a Rolex?

 

[dirkjones]

Rather selfish and narcissistic lifestyle but it's the life they choose.

true, but I would imagine if you choose that path, and stick with it, you are already wired to be selfish/narcissistic.

 

[Perfecto]

Honestly, I “almost fell” for a girl I met on Seeking in the past. Supposed to be a site for “non-pros” looking for some extra help$$$, mentorship or emotional support (even though I see pros with profiles all the time now). LOL!!! We texted several times a day…saw each other once a week for several months. Connection in/out of the bedroom was incredible. After about 6-7 months, she told me she was starting sex work and is now a $800 provider. She agreed to still see me at $400 but I was starting to care for her and the thought of her with all those other guys and the lack of attention that was coming was too much and I broke it off. Felt bad for a couple of days but got over it…lol

 

[Koondog]

true, but I would imagine if you choose that path, and stick with it, you are already wired to be selfish/narcissistic.

Yeah, there is no shortage of poor people in the world but I would dare say a very low percentage of women ever resort to prostitution as a means of making a living. For most I think it wouldn't even occur to them to lower themselves in that way. Like you said, takes a special internal wiring to throw one's self-respect out the window for the love of money.

 

[beatnik]

Yeah, there is no shortage of poor people in the world but I would dare say a very low percentage of women ever resort to prostitution as a means of making a living. For most I think it wouldn't even occur to them to lower themselves in that way. Like you said, takes a special internal wiring to throw one's self-respect out the window for the love of money.

Another POV could be that they are empowered to do whatever the fuck they want to do with their body. I mean, is it inherently degrading to sell one's body for sex? Might be more nuanced than that. Or I'm incredibly hungover and high and don't know what the fuck I'm babbling about...

 

[ketchomayo29]

Yeah, there is no shortage of poor people in the world but I would dare say a very low percentage of women ever resort to prostitution as a means of making a living. For most I think it wouldn't even occur to them to lower themselves in that way. Like you said, takes a special internal wiring to throw one's self-respect out the window for the love of money.

This. I think it is the special internal wiring aspect. You really need to be at your wits end before succumbing to offering your body as a service to anyone to use.