Goodbye Hobby

[rottie]

Honestly, this makes me a better husband and father. Similar to traveling for work (back before covid), it allows me to have some "me time" then when I'm home I can give it my all without any animosity.

100% - I was noticing how nice I was to my wife this week...she wasn't feeling great and put off sex. Well since I visited my AMP earlier in the week I didn't resent her, no animosity, just sincerely caring if she feels okay and helping her get back into fucking health again.

 

[kth]

2-3 times being a mortgage payment? In New Jersey?

But in all seriousness, good luck Xander. Take the time off for your mental health. Perhaps go on a vacation and get away from Jersey for a bit (will be easier to avoid the temptation abroad).

Per week, so 8-12 times.

 

[Woodiewoodpecker]

If I was allowed to have sex with SO more than once every 2 years (that's not a typo)...I wouldn't need to go to amps....

Since the birth of our 3rd child 19 years ago, my sex life with my wife is non existent. Every other aspect of our life together is good, but she has zero interest in sex.
I have come close to having an affair twice in this time, but don’t want all the complications that it would entail. I grew tired of jerking myself of year in year out, so the Hobby became a good alternative. I’m still nervous every time I go, but want the companionship and physical connection with the providers without the strings.

 

[이 회장님]

Question Gentlemen,

Everytime I visit an amp, room salon or SB, I have their scent all over me. I can smell it when I get home. I live alone so I’m not worried but if I had a girlfriend living with me then she will know for sure. Amp soap scent, perfume, etc.

So be careful out there.

 

[chocolatetouch]

Wish you best of luck!...

 

[rottie]

Question Gentlemen,

Everytime I visit an amp, room salon or SB, I have their scent all over me. I can smell it when I get home. I live alone so I’m not worried but if I had a girlfriend living with me then she will know for sure. Amp soap scent, perfume, etc.

So be careful out there.

I used to get really paranoid about that but since pandemic and all the hand sanitizers everywhere, I notice similar smells that I can play off as just another knock off Purell as I was leaving my agreed upon errands

 

[chocolatetouch]

Since the birth of our 3rd child 19 years ago, my sex life with my wife is non existent. Every other aspect of our life together is good, but she has zero interest in sex.
I have come close to having an affair twice in this time, but don’t want all the complications that it would entail. I grew tired of jerking myself of year in year out, so the Hobby became a good alternative. I’m still nervous every time I go, but want the companionship and physical connection with the providers without the strings.

Good points, my story is our sex life is pretty normal, however, as a dude, life is too short not to check out other pussies. Problem is the guilt, especially spending $200 on a quick excitement, and say not to my kids when they wants to buy a $50 toy. The guilt of feeling selfish.

 

[rottie]

Good points, my story is our sex life is pretty normal, however, as a dude, life is too short not to check out other pussies. Problem is the guilt, especially spending $200 on a quick excitement, and say not to my kids when they wants to buy a $50 toy. The guilt of feeling selfish.

I can relate more to this. My kids are young...but in reality also kinda spoiled. Me on the other hand? I deserve it.

 

[jester4u2022]

I can relate more to this. My kids are young...but in reality also kinda spoiled. Me on the other hand? I deserve it.

Agreed here. My family and kids get everything and anything they want, I'm always the giver and provider. This is one of the very few, maybe only, way that I am selfish with. That is how I reason it....it's the only thing I can honestly say that's "mine".

 

[mark222]

Hey everyone I wanted to let everyone know I’m officially retiring from the hobby.

I got into this hobby 10 years ago and it was a way to escape a reality I was unhappy with.

I’m sure many of you can relate, but this hobby has put a personal and financial strain over the years.

I had great and bad experiences but I’m only writing to put it out there for closure and writing this is helping me feel good about it.

Many of you have a great experience with this and not judging anyone, however if there is someone thinking about it, do consider.
it use to be a 2-3x a week hobby and I’m now clean for two weeks .. I know it’s short but it took a lot of personal challenges to not do it.

Best of luck to everyone! Again, not judging anyone who still continues this.. but writing and getting off my chest feels great.

There's a significant difference between a hobby and an addiction. It sounds like you've dropped into the latter group.
Once it stops being fun, you should leave (easy to say, I know) even if it's not about the money.

As a life philosophy, work towards having as much fun as you possibly can. You can't recapture that.

 

[Ryan Adams]

There's a significant difference between a hobby and an addiction. It sounds like you've dropped into the latter group.
Once it stops being fun, you should leave (easy to say, I know) even if it's not about the money.

As a life philosophy, work towards having as much fun as you possibly can. You can't recapture that.

When would you consider it going from a hobby to an addiction.

 

[artvandalay]

Good luck brother.

 

[tokyocup]

Good points, my story is our sex life is pretty normal, however, as a dude, life is too short not to check out other pussies. Problem is the guilt, especially spending $200 on a quick excitement, and say not to my kids when they wants to buy a $50 toy. The guilt of feeling selfish.

$200? Try $150-$160. Overtipping is not productive.

 

[mark222]

When would you consider it going from a hobby to an addiction.

IMHO Chocolatetouch demonstrates crossing the line here: "Problem is the guilt, especially spending $200 on a quick excitement, and say not to my kids when they wants to buy a $50 toy. The guilt of feeling selfish."

 

[instinctsrtrue]

If your wives put out for you, would you still hobby?

 

[rottie]

If your wives put out for you, would you still hobby?

She does and I do

 

[Woodiewoodpecker]

If your wives put out for you, would you still hobby?

No I wouldn’t Hobby if my wife put out. Like I said before in the last 19 years we’ve had sex maybe 5 times. She doesn’t even jerk me off and yet I can’t imagine leaving her.

 

[chocolatetouch]

She does and I do

Me 2, it's like eating chicken everyday, sometimes you want to try beef or shrimp.

 

[mark222]

Sorry - I still get hung up on choosing to get off himself rather than give his kid a toy. For me, family responsibilities come first. Hobbys last and then out of your own money, not diving into shared, limited resources.

When your choices don't impact others, then it's a hobby. What I'm seeing here is a addict who cares only about himself.

I'm not moralizing - well, I am - This is my opinion and YMMV

 

[playboy9]

Respect your choice, Good luck Man!