I don't know what backwater towns or dive bars where you guys are meeting women like this (no direct offense JB), but I meet extremely successful women that are 100% self sufficient without a guy. A man to them is a conveience that can work their way up to being a companion.
Men have helped form the Women the way they are today. By sweating em and bending over backwards for em
But some men hold onto the 1960s myth because they are unsuccessful and they don't want to see other successful people--especially women.