Dead Bedroom

[casualplayer]

Maybe. My parents are in their 70s. Married for 50 years. My Dad, in a tmi moment told me it’s been sexless for damn near 20 years; but is stronger than ever. Why? His equipment hasn’t worked in years and he stopped caring along time ago. I think this place skews things; there are plenty of guys once they hit 60 who are done with sex altogether and are totally fine with that decision. It’s one less thing to worry about.[/QUOTE

100% the wife always gets there first! So you do the AMP thing until you no longer care then start a new marriage. I'm 65 and I really don't want to have sex with my wife. I do the AMP thing still for a bit, but I see the end of the road for that soon. There is a possible rekindling with the wife for a bit and that will be nice then we can live in peace because sex always fucks things up. Remember when you were younger.......?

 

[KittyHawk]

"Remember when you were younger."

Damned long term memory has always been a part of my problem. I'm still trying to get back to what I call the "dog in heat" feeling. At 75 I don't believe I will ever get there but I keep trying.

 

[Clleeflow]

You are in your 20s and get nothing? WTF man. What did you marry your HS sweetheart or something? I'm not trying to be a dick but if it's like that in your 20s you gotta get out. My situation changed close to 40, after 15+ yrs and kids, while not acceptable to me I kinda get it because we are getting older and there is a lot more job/kid/financial stress. I used to get laid almost every day in the 20s, which sometimes, still wasn't enough but I didn't supplement with mongering until close to 40. My greatest achievement sexually outside of mongering was in my 20s... 3 diff girls in a 2 day weekend (and none of them knew about each other). When you are in your 20s there is no reason to accept a dead bedroom. Even if you only live an average life you're talking 50+ years to go. My advice... unless you have very young kids already, definitely roll out.

She is my HS sweetheart. Things got better. I'm with her more than the physical.

 

[PorterD]

She is my HS sweetheart. Things got better. I'm with her more than the physical.

Just don’t get oneitis. I overlooked so many red flags in my 8 year relationship because I thought it was “meant to be”. The high school sweetheart fairy tale that Hollywood sells is very rare. But good luck!

 

[jim_hatez]

She is my HS sweetheart. Things got better. I'm with her more than the physical.

I get that, but you are a man and you have needs. It just seems to early for the sex to nosedive. In my situation I have been with her for almost 20 yrs. Like I said kids, etc. It's not easy to unravel all of that. Sure I could do it but it would be a huge mess. I'm not telling you to end it, but try to spice things up and see if you can get it back on track. Without knowing your situation I don't know if it's worth salvaging only you do. Wish you the best.

 

[Sschen]

Check out the sub Reddit Deadbedrooms

I'll second this suggestion, it's a great resource