A lot of great info and valuable insight on this forum but I would appreciate some input.
I am in a dead bedroom. Sex stopped in September as my wife battled some personal issues. We did it one time last month for the first time since then, and it was great to be honest. Otherwise a good and loving relationship, no resentment outside the lack of sex. There is intimacy, physical touch, cuddling that I know a lot of you crave from what I've read here but aren't getting. But the lack of sex is really gnawing at me.
She's committed to working on it, and I do have hope of improvement and last month was a good step in that direction. But my patience wears thin. Honestly I am weak. I think about it all the time to the point of being distracted and it feels like it is tearing me apart. But equally I feel like if I took care of needs elsewhere that would also gnaw at me. I feel like either choice would make me miserable.
I realize it might be a breach of ettiquette to ask for advice here without providing any contribution first, but I feel like there's some expertise here. I'm not a moron, I know how to search reviews and conduct basic research, but I would love to hear some veteran opinions on this.
I am in a dead bedroom. Sex stopped in September as my wife battled some personal issues. We did it one time last month for the first time since then, and it was great to be honest. Otherwise a good and loving relationship, no resentment outside the lack of sex. There is intimacy, physical touch, cuddling that I know a lot of you crave from what I've read here but aren't getting. But the lack of sex is really gnawing at me.
She's committed to working on it, and I do have hope of improvement and last month was a good step in that direction. But my patience wears thin. Honestly I am weak. I think about it all the time to the point of being distracted and it feels like it is tearing me apart. But equally I feel like if I took care of needs elsewhere that would also gnaw at me. I feel like either choice would make me miserable.
I realize it might be a breach of ettiquette to ask for advice here without providing any contribution first, but I feel like there's some expertise here. I'm not a moron, I know how to search reviews and conduct basic research, but I would love to hear some veteran opinions on this.