Hang in there, brother. That truly sucks and I’ve had similar experiences and I believe it’s a combination of your skin color, your fitness and your age. I’ve noticed A LOT more acceptance in my older years. Basically, if you look like you’re less of a physical threat, you get treated better which is bullshit because if a younger, fit European-American guy walks in, after confirming he’s not a cop, they probably fight over who gets to service him.
And it’s not even just Asians at massage parlors. I experienced the same thing with hotel escorts...even African-American escorts mentioning No AA’ in their ad. mine time, I drove all the way out, was talking on the phone with her, everything confirmed, I knock on the hotel room door and she looks through the peephole and says “oh, I’m so sorry. You didn’t sound black on the phone. I have to cancel our session.”
Try not to let it affect you mentally, bro. Find a way to wash away the anger and shame that naturally comes with that kind d of rejection and know that there tons of women who not only find us attractive but seek us out specifically. Go on a swinger website and you’ll find out how popular we are.