I went 15 years without intimacies as well.
In terms of psychology it's empty love-commitment. I care for my wife's well being and have more than complied with the social contract that comes with marriage.
Using the same language, we experience infatuation with our hourly girlfriends.
And those of us who have the same hourly girlfriends that we actually like (and who actually like us), kick it up a notch-romantic love: passion+intimacy.
Here's the link:
Triangular theory of love
In terms of psychology it's empty love-commitment. I care for my wife's well being and have more than complied with the social contract that comes with marriage.
Using the same language, we experience infatuation with our hourly girlfriends.
And those of us who have the same hourly girlfriends that we actually like (and who actually like us), kick it up a notch-romantic love: passion+intimacy.
Here's the link:
Triangular theory of love