Wives + Sex?

[ricochino215]

Is it me or do most wives end up disinterested in sex? 1x a week seems like too much for my wife which is a problem for me. I've been in this game way before she and I hooked up. If sex was more frequent, I'd have less of a need/urge to visit Amps.

How are things for the married guys out there?

 

[KittyHawk]

How are things for the married guys out there?

Terrible!! That's why I hobby.

 

[fffinster]

This varies from woman to woman ... a lot of times the disinterest is hormone driven (like pre or post menopause) or some other medical condition that just makes them too tired. Could also be her moan driven - that is the man doesn't take care of business and she's bored.

 

[Anonajohn]

An individual's sex drive can be as unique as a fingerprint. There's no blanket answer. I have known girls who were 100% nympho while others who were sexual camels who could have sex once and save it up for a year.

 

[Anonajohn]

that is the man doesn't take care of business and she's bored.

Agree with this. Do a "date night" for your wife. Make her feel like you did back when you were dating, get all up in her feels the way you used to, and I'm sure she'd likely give up the poon

 

[skeemed]

I like the fingerprint metaphor, but fingerprints do not change. I remember a time when the spouse would do just about anything except public sex. Women have a temporal component to their sexuality which can change significantly when they are out of their prime child-bearing years. Men don't. I bet many of you know (or are) seniors who can fuck multiple times a day. Our appetite and libido just don't change much until we are much, much older, ill, or dying.

 

[Bultaco103]

I think if you have a honest relationship and you let your wife know from day 1 sex is very important to you in the relationship , then you get tons of action. If you work it well you also let her know you need some occasional massage as it reduces your stress levels.

 

[Anonajohn]

also let her know you need some occasional massage as it reduces your stress levels.

TBH I give more massages than orgasms to my girl. She's fine n dandy with that arrangement

 

[Lusty215]

I'm in a full-on dead bedroom. There's so much drama around sex that I don't even want it anymore. It's funny, when we were trying to get pregnant we fucked so much I got a six-pack. Now I can't imagine fucking her. Thank god for amps

 

[ricochino215]

I think if you have a honest relationship and you let your wife know from day 1 sex is very important to you in the relationship , then you get tons of action. If you work it well you also let her know you need some occasional massage as it reduces your stress levels.

I did but for some reason it didn't resonate with her. We couldn't even have a logical discussion about sex without it being dramatic. We ended up seeing a sex therapist to help navigate the discussion but ppl are like rubber bands. You can stretch someone out for a short duration but they ultimately go back true to form.

 

[Steelforce]

My wife and I did it like rabbits the first few years of marriage. Then she went on Lexapro and that killed her sex drive.... hense the need for this hobby. Even as I get older my drive is still very strong. I wish i could go without sex but I need it at least once a week bare minimum or I can't concentrate on work, etc. She will only have sex once every 4 months or longer and that is because I bug her. She only goes through the motions though. This hobby keeps me sane. Nothing like a fired up, wet, sexy asian to cure the itch.

 

[Steelforce]

I'm in a full-on dead bedroom. There's so much drama around sex that I don't even want it anymore. It's funny, when we were trying to get pregnant we fucked so much I got a six-pack. Now I can't imagine fucking her. Thank god for amps

Dead bedroom? No sex at all?

 

[kantuchdis]

If wives stopped the nagging, spent a little time on their looks and clothing, initiated sexual contact once in a while, every AMP, EROS, half the hotels in KOP would close.

 

[ricochino215]

My wife and I did it like rabbits the first few years of marriage. Then she went on Lexapro and that killed her sex drive.... hense the need for this hobby. Even as I get older my drive is still very strong. I wish i could go without sex but I need it at least once a week bare minimum or I can't concentrate on work, etc. She will only have sex once every 4 months or longer and that is because I bug her. She only goes through the motions though. This hobby keeps me sane. Nothing like a fired up, wet, sexy asian to cure the itch.

I feel your pain. I was in that situation early on when the kids were born. Just out of curiosity, have you ever brought up the idea of an open relationship? I've wanted to suggest this but my wife is way too conservative to even give it any consideration.

 

[Anonajohn]

have you ever brought up the idea of an open relationship?

That's a rocky road to go down. To even bring up the subject might make her watch your movements/ activities more closely

 

[Steelforce]

I wouldn't go there. She would never go for that.

 

[KittyHawk]

That's a rocky road to go down. To even bring up the subject might make her watch your movements/ activities more closely

I thought about it but sometimes I think that she may already be a little suspicious. Like you said, I don't need her watching my every move.

 

[Bultaco103]

I feel your pain. I was in that situation early on when the kids were born. Just out of curiosity, have you ever brought up the idea of an open relationship? I've wanted to suggest this but my wife is way too conservative to even give it any consideration.

I am guessing you would have had to get the hall pass approved during early dating and before marriage. Bringing it up afterwards is basically admitting you have some fun on the side and are seeking an OK afterwards.

 

[Anonajohn]

Bringing it up afterwards is basically admitting you have some fun on the side

I have the somewhat unique position of having punched her V-card, which gave me opportunity to make the discussion about her. I asked if she was ever curious about a variety of experiences that she never had. Of course, she almost immediately turned it on me and asked if that's what I wanted (there's that danger I mentioned). I blew off her question and reminded her she hadn't punched my V-card and turned the conversation back to her needs/wants. Still, she didn't bite at the idea. She expressed no interest at the idea of playing the field and trying out new things with others

 

[Anonajohn]

I think that she may already be a little suspicious. Like you said, I don't need her watching my every move.

When you come home after being out for a while, you get the question, "Where'd you go?" "I went to the store." "What store?" "THE PUSSY STORE!"