Things I knew earlier in my mongering hobby

[pumpkinking]

If you're on the fence about mongering. Don’t do it! It can get a bit addicting. I started a few years before have a wife and kid. I shouldve quit before that but I never got my whoremonging phase totally out the way. Ok i just had to get that out the way. lol

Over my 10 years of mongering, I wasted a decent amount of $/time on disappointing visits, missed out on a lot of mongering opportunities, and failed to take advantage of situations. These are some things that I wish I knew from the start.

- Quality > Quantity. Its better to spend more money & fewer visits for quality providers than to spend less money & more visits with mediocre providers.

- If you're expecting certain services and not getting them is a deal breaker then you have to speak up. Tell the provider what your expectations are respectfully. Hopefully, this can allow you to refuse service.

- Most pics aren't an accurate depiction of the way the provider looks now. I have common sense so I already knew this but I think I was a little less skeptical back then.

- Research online. I didnt find out about this site or others until years into my mongering.

- Take online opinions and reviews with a grain of salt. Different strokes for different folks. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For some people getting to touch a smoking hot chick is 10/10. For someone else is a 5/10. To each his own. Theres no way to truly gauge unless you see for yourself.

- YMMV… piggy backing off the last point. Some people have great experiences that you cant replicate for a handful of reasons. You could go on the same day, spend the same $$, ask for the same things, be decent-looking yet your experience could still be better or worse for reasons outside of your control.

- If youre taking the “Rolling stone” approach to mongering (like me) you may be destined for a decent amount of failure. Its the nature of the beast. If you want to avoid you're better off seeing the same handful of providers that you know will satisfy you.


Whats your opinions? Do you things you wish you knew earlier?

 

[Sschen]

Goodness. This is the stone cold truth in a nutshell, not much to add.
Points #2 & #6 are crucial, if you're a PWB (P**sy Whipped B**tch) with civvies, you'll have the same experience with providers.
It's too tempting to use "mongering" as a band-aid to avoid working on yourself.

 

[markkennedy]

Good stuff. Your last point is maybe the most important slash valuable. Manage expectations. For me, I have now completed my collection of AMPs for my rotation, and until they change, I'm pretty stuck on three spots for three purposes and I get completely satisfied every time now! But expectations, always. As you say, speak up when it isn't exactly the way you like. MOST providers have like a script or routine they use, and then if you don't say anything, they keep using that same script over and over, and if you are no satisfied the first time or fiftieth time, closed mouth don't get fed! Can be amazingly surprised if you speak up what can happen! The YMMV exists for a reason and this is the reason!

Is much more satisfying to monger for YOURSELF, no mongering for others' expectations or hangups. Dudes be trying to talk me into being into spinners, and it just ain't happening, I'm into mombods! So when I go to a mombod place and have the time of my life, I share that intel, but IDGAF if others tell me she's old or overweight or has a belly or whatever. I think dudes in general, no just in the hobby, get themselves all worked up trying to live someone else's life instead of enjoying their own. My dad would prefer me to be banging the bolt-on boobies girls at the strip club, ya know the ones with roast beef and mayo in their panties, but is no for me, and if he likes to make fun of me, I remind him he's on his fourth wife and the last two could have started at left tackle for the Giants. Defensive tackle.

 

[Don Hollinger]

Research, online opinions.
There's been a tendency since I started many years ago for guys to flock to the hottest, best reviewed providers of the moment. I followed the crowd, and found the experience lacking for the most part because she'd be worn out and/or GPS. I had better luck, and longer term connections with ones that had mixed reviews-but were otherwise stable ladies.

Quality, quantity
Having the resources to do more visits in a week doesn't give me more ROI in terms of contentment. I've decreased my dates recently to concentrate on everything else in life, so when I do make that visit it's more about enjoying that special time with her. Going out less allows me to appreciate the effort that she makes to look her best, the things that she does to provide an ideal setting and experience.

 

[Don Hollinger]

Good stuff. Your last point is maybe the most important slash valuable. Manage expectations. For me, I have now completed my collection of AMPs for my rotation, and until they change, I'm pretty stuck on three spots for three purposes and I get completely satisfied every time now! But expectations, always. As you say, speak up when it isn't exactly the way you like. MOST providers have like a script or routine they use, and then if you don't say anything, they keep using that same script over and over, and if you are no satisfied the first time or fiftieth time, closed mouth don't get fed! Can be amazingly surprised if you speak up what can happen! The YMMV exists for a reason and this is the reason!

Is much more satisfying to monger for YOURSELF, no mongering for others' expectations or hangups. Dudes be trying to talk me into being into spinners, and it just ain't happening, I'm into mombods! So when I go to a mombod place and have the time of my life, I share that intel, but IDGAF if others tell me she's old or overweight or has a belly or whatever. I think dudes in general, no just in the hobby, get themselves all worked up trying to live someone else's life instead of enjoying their own. My dad would prefer me to be banging the bolt-on boobies girls at the strip club, ya know the ones with roast beef and mayo in their panties, but is no for me, and if he likes to make fun of me, I remind him he's on his fourth wife and the last two could have started at left tackle for the Giants. Defensive tackle.

Nice post, but the roast beef and mayo in her panties....trips me up a bit.

 

[markkennedy]

When you see it once, you can't ever unsee it

 

[pumpkinking]

Sschen and markkennedy made some good points about not being timid when dealing with providers. You don’t want to be an asshole but you have to be assertive. If we left it up to most providers, they’d just give us a lapdance, tell us to jerk ourselves off, and stick the. It's only through demand (respectfully) that they offer other services.

 

[beatnik]

Research, online opinions.
There's been a tendency since I started many years ago for guys to flock to the hottest, best reviewed providers of the moment. I followed the crowd, and found the experience lacking for the most part because she'd be worn out and/or GPS. I had better luck, and longer term connections with ones that had mixed reviews-but were otherwise stable ladies.

Quality, quantity
Having the resources to do more visits in a week doesn't give me more ROI in terms of contentment. I've decreased my dates recently to concentrate on everything else in life, so when I do make that visit it's more about enjoying that special time with her. Going out less allows me to appreciate the effort that she makes to look her best, the things that she does to provide an ideal setting and experience.

1) I wish I didn't like the popular girls and wish my tastes didn't align with others but the popular ones are popular for a reason. But yes, mixed reviews and less volume providers can yield greater outcomes.

2) After going on a torrid pace the past 2 years, I'm really trying to cut back on the quantity. Well, not really trying but really thinking about cutting back. Most of my sessions have blurred together and I wouldn't even be able to pick some of the providers I've seen multiples times in a lineup. The big fucking problem is that I'll find that one gem that keeps me going back and when I open that monger gate, I have a problem closing it.

Is much more satisfying to monger for YOURSELF, no mongering for others' expectations or hangups. Dudes be trying to talk me into being into spinners, and it just ain't happening, I'm into mombods! So when I go to a mombod place and have the time of my life, I share that intel, but IDGAF if others tell me she's old or overweight or has a belly or whatever. I think dudes in general, no just in the hobby, get themselves all worked up trying to live someone else's life instead of enjoying their own.

Is that true? Dudes trying to live someone else's life? That concept is so foreign to me I can't even comprehend what you wrote. And I doubt anyone who really is doing that is going to admit it.

 

[markkennedy]

Is that true? Dudes trying to live someone else's life? That concept is so foreign to me I can't even comprehend what you wrote. And I doubt anyone who really is doing that is going to admit it.

Lots of dudes who go for whatever the popular thing is, or whatever their pals or the TV tell them. Might get satisfied this way, but if you're an individual, and a person, is not likely your results and your goals line up with everyone or anyone. And yes, most people who are followers ALWAYS think they aren't and would never admit it. If you ARE one of these, guys, try it just once to do it your way. Remember that in the room, no one else is there to judge you.

 

[beatnik]

Lots of dudes who go for whatever the popular thing is, or whatever their pals or the TV tell them. Might get satisfied this way, but if you're an individual, and a person, is not likely your results and your goals line up with everyone or anyone. And yes, most people who are followers ALWAYS think they aren't and would never admit it. If you ARE one of these, guys, try it just once to do it your way. Remember that in the room, no one else is there to judge you.

It’s like when people go to a restaurant and ask the waiter what their favorite dish is. Who fucking cares? I mean, generally speaking, people want to know what’s popular because it’s time and effort to put in the leg work and people can’t sample all the dishes on the menu. I get that. So they’ll gravitate to what’s popular. Plus, people can only have so many choices before they’re overwhelmed. I’m just rambling.

But yeah, I’ve said it before, especially to the guys who keep asking me the same questions. Do you really want to know every fucking detail that happened in my session? Just go and make your session yours.

 

[Lookhii]

Don't take the really good ones for granted. They can be here one month and next thing you know they''ll be gone the rest of the year.

 

[DrHappy88]

Don't take the really good ones for granted. They can be here one month and next thing you know they''ll be gone the rest of the year.

Or forever.

 

[856mixr]

Or forever.

Yuup. Especially with indy providers. Some of my most memorable visits were from chicks that i saw once and by the time i was ready to repeat they were gone. One, in particular, was a chick Im still kicking myself for not seeing more. Smh…lol

 

[Lookhii]

Baylee for me. I remember when she was $$$ for the hour and sometimes there would be happy hour specials if it was slow that day. Luckily I seen her 2x but she seldom appears on the roster and, I think, is semi-retired. But to this day, the best head I ever got. Including Hara from KG and Sara from NYAF where it's usually a jackhammer session.

 

[Beacon]

The quality over quantity comment took me a few years to figure out. Nowadays I see the same 3-4 ladies on a regular basis and have much more fun than seeing 15-20 different ones through the year. That and don’t be afraid to speak up if something’s not going well, although that has not been an issue for me the last couple of years.