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Smart men Monger
- Thread starter Bigblackman
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I’m marred with a kid. Love my kid; pretty much can’t stand my wife. I got married before I knew myself well enough to know that I crave independence and let’s face it, marriage is codependency. Also, the harsh reality is that most women do not actually want to be married. They want a wedding. Once that’s over, they’re stuck with a guy they don’t actually like all that much. They’re miserable because you are not the guy they want you to be and you’re miserable because they want you to be someone you are not. If I could go back, I would only have short term relationships with women, break up when things got too comfortable, and supplement with mongering. As long as you can avoid the pitfalls, mongering allows to get sex from your choice of women without all the junk of committed relationships. Sorry for the rant.
Im similar situation. Pretty much in it for my kid. If I didn’t have a kid I’d probably be single but idk if I’d monger any more than I do now. I would try to have a pool of friends w/benefits that I could tag in whenever available. That’s what I kind of had back before my kid but loss touch with most of them. Lol But really it would depend on my age. At a certain age it’s just easier to do the mongering thing and not be bothered by the other shit.
We are not meant for monogamy. Now, I am not at all trying to be pompous and suggest that we are all or should be don juans, gigolos or studs. But the pure mathematics is on our side. The billions of women on the planet , even after eliminating ugly, fat , too old or too young - is anyone man or woman going to tell me that there is only “the one” for you? I respectfully disagree.
Was married 25 years . 3 adult daughters . 4 grand daughters . My ex wife & I called it quits 4 years ago . I did the right thing . All 3 girls went to college , I paid . 3 princess weddings .I paid . Beautiful home , I paid. Now I’m single , almost retired , debt free , and I don’t drink , smoke or gamble and I have fun with the Asian girls whenever I please . I played my part as a great Father and now I do what I want . Dating in your 50s in not so easy . And this is so much fun ! Everyone walks away happy !
Women tell everyone they are marrying the greatest guy in the world and then spend the rest of their lives trying to change him. I am happier now being single than I ever could have imagined. I have a big circle of friends. Mongering allows me to do what I want when I want. And when I want to mess around it is totally unconditional. I am having more fun than I could ever have imagined. I don't regret any of the time spent raising my kids, but it is my time now. As Toby Keith sings "I'm not as good as I once was, but I am as good once as I ever was". As such, I take every opportunity to explore spontaneous activities here and abroad.
Giving the uptick in college students joining the mongering population and the younger unmarried set spending their cash in AMP’s it would appear that more and more are opting for mongering. Had AMP’s been around when we were younger … who knows ?
Marriage of my friends children is a constant topic of discussion. They all, and I mean all of them complain:
1. Their sons have no interest in dating.
2. Their daughters can’t seem to find a decent guy. They get plenty of dates, but none of the guys seem to want to settle down.
Keep in mind that their sons and daughters are successful, good looking and upwardly mobile.
Marriage of my friends children is a constant topic of discussion. They all, and I mean all of them complain:
1. Their sons have no interest in dating.
2. Their daughters can’t seem to find a decent guy. They get plenty of dates, but none of the guys seem to want to settle down.
Keep in mind that their sons and daughters are successful, good looking and upwardly mobile.
The dating to marry market is wrecked. So many people with unrealistic expectations. Might find a diamond in the rough, it still happens, but it’s like a 99.9% of not happening and with so much on the line; why risk it?
Single 40, never married and no kids. I love my freedom and I love all the disposable income I have.
Single 40, never married and no kids. I love my freedom and I love all the disposable income I have.
I am in my late 40,s . I done have children never married I used to try dating sites and I never met anyone worth my time . So for now I just go and have sex with amp girls and enjoy my life I am not against relationships but right now it’s not my time I guess . Both my parents are dead I really have not much family .I enjoy what I do it’s cheaper than dates and I have had sex with a lot of different amp girls I usually go once a week on the weekends . After working hard all week that’s how I reward myself
I have taken this route. Never married and no kids. I am almost 40 and have been mongering since my early 20s. It is a really interesting question, and I will share my perspective on it. When you are in your 20s and early 30s there is a lot of pressure to form relationships that lead to marriage. There is the social aspect of it (all your friends getting married), family pressure (why aren't you dating, why aren't you married), financial pressure (hard to buy a home on one income in your 20s), etc. Most guys that can are going to get married, it's just that simple. Almost all women want kids, there are exceptions, but by age 28-32 most women want to have had a child. So by age 34/35 most guys will have been married and have at least 1 kid. It really is the path of least resistance. Being single from age 20-35 is hard, especially if you aren't good at attracting women and getting laid, which a lot of guys struggle with. Now, past age 35 things start to change a bit and mongering becomes an easier lifestyle to maintain. The big reason for this is money. To monger consistently requires a good income, in many cases a really good income. $200 is becoming the going rate at AMPs and if you go twice a week for 50 weeks a year that is $20K. It could be more or it could be less but to do it responsibly (not spending an outsized % of income on it) and consistently (going once or twice a month is hardly worth it) you have to earn a good living. For most guys this becomes more manageable as they progress in their careers. The biggest benefit of the "mongering lifestyle" is you can have really good sex with lots of women for $15k-$25k a year and the freedom and independence others have noted. There are drawbacks to the lifestyle, 1.) it impacts social and family interactions. People wonder what your "deal" is and you can't tell most people. 2.) Being single and living alone isn't for everyone, there is a lot of quiet time and boredom.
If I had to guess, 85%+ of mongers are married or in a committed relationship. "Just mongering" isn't going to work for most guys. But if you are the type of person that is ok being alone, really value your independence, and make good money, it can work. Additionally, if you earn a high income you will probably be better off financially in the long-term not getting married and having kids. Just my 2 cents.
If I had to guess, 85%+ of mongers are married or in a committed relationship. "Just mongering" isn't going to work for most guys. But if you are the type of person that is ok being alone, really value your independence, and make good money, it can work. Additionally, if you earn a high income you will probably be better off financially in the long-term not getting married and having kids. Just my 2 cents.