May I ask how this conversation with your wife started?
Did you approach her?
Did you get caught then had the conversation? if you don’t want to post publicly, I would truly appreciate a DM.
It was a combination of a number of things. First of all, as I have mentioned here in the past, my wife and I swung for about five years but we had to get away from that due to the excessive amounts of alcohol that is usually incorporated into the whole scene. My wife ended up with an alcohol issue that was initiated long before we swung, but certainly wasn't helped by it. However, one of the anti alcohol abuse drugs she ended up taking erased all receptors to urges...unfortunately, that included sex. Now, another thing that occurred was that I was turned on to the spas by a co-worker and this s back like twenty years ago when I still worked in construction
and a particular job was tough on my back. Truly was, but I used the occasion to go visit a massage parlor both as a ruse to get into one but also because my back was truly hurting. After the fact, I told my wife that the Asian masseuse surprisingly (to me) began stroking my manhood. She said "....and that was a surprise?"
I said I enjoyed it and that sort of opened the door to the idea of me going to the spas. But I think the biggest deal was when some bastard mother fucker who I guess figured out who I was and copied and pasted all of my posts on a now deceased spa forum and printed them out and mailed them to my wife. At the time, I was keeping my spa visits on the down low from her. This brought it out into the open and I think what really bothered her was that someone else knew about my !mongering and not my actual mongering. We talked it out and I explained of my needs and her reluctance to engage as much as I would like. Eventually, we got to where we are now......where I can go pretty much whenever I desire. I kinda keep it at once per week, but off times when I get the chance to go when she is off somewhere long enough, I slip another one in.
Someone mentioned about a spouse asking about the costs involved and my wife never has inquired, but we have been married now for forty years and we have NEVER had an argument over money issues. Hers is hers and mine is mine. We each have the house bills we are responsible for and both of us respect each others spending habits. So I guess that is why she never asks.
The fact that my wife is cool about me getting laid at the spas is a tremendous burden off of my mind and I can fully enjoy my visits at the spas without the burden of guilt on my mind. My hope is to continue to enjoy the ladies until I simply can't anymore. I already take tadalafil in prep for a visit and at times, that can sort of fail me. I'm figuring when I can't fuck a chick anymore, I still might continue going to the spas because I still love eating pussy and getting my cock sucked, but Ill just have things wrapped up by the girl churning my butter.
