Seeking Arrangments (& other Sugar Daddy sites)

[BestTwitterer]

I never spend another guy’s money so if a SD spends $1000 for two or three hours, if he enjoyed himself, I’m happy for him. My regular PPM allowance range is between 250-400. With lunch and the hotel, it becomes a 400-600 afternoon for anywhere between 3-5 hours. I see that as a bargain.
I’ve been seeing the same SB for 14 months and we’ve moved from using hotels to her new apartment so I’ve enhanced her allowance and she’s appreciative. There’s been times when the finances have been challenging and that’s never been an issue because we treat each other respectfully and know we have a good thing going.
My point is, everyone has their own comfort level financially. Don’t believe their statements that they were getting $500 or $1000 from the last guy. Even if it is true, who cares. Stay true to you and you’ll find your own unicorn.

 

[Flloydgondolli]

I never spend another guy’s money so if a SD spends $1000 for two or three hours, if he enjoyed himself, I’m happy for him. My regular PPM allowance range is between 250-400. With lunch and the hotel, it becomes a 400-600 afternoon for anywhere between 3-5 hours. I see that as a bargain.
I’ve been seeing the same SB for 14 months and we’ve moved from using hotels to her new apartment so I’ve enhanced her allowance and she’s appreciative. There’s been times when the finances have been challenging and that’s never been an issue because we treat each other respectfully and know we have a good thing going.
My point is, everyone has their own comfort level financially. Don’t believe their statements that they were getting $500 or $1000 from the last guy. Even if it is true, who cares. Stay true to you and you’ll find your own unicorn.

Exactly. The girls who are demanding that level of money can and will find a guy and are just as much on the hunt as we are. But for then - this is probably their main source of living. They (most likely) legitimately do not want to work and want to be a kept woman.

You can and will find girls who are looking to be spoiled without the hassle of an everyday relationship. They are looking for an older (to them), decent/good looking guy who wants something more than a random hookup but can’t go into a full on relationship. I’ve been very clear with my latest that we are probably going to spend our entire time BCD (and we’re not talking 2 hours). That being said, she knows what I want and she’s cool with it and wants the same dynamic too.

Literally shoot your shot with as many as you can, get a feeling for them and you’ll know if they’re worth your time.

 

[Boats-N-Hoes]

Got this text from an unattractive white girl, offering me an oral only experience...
SMH at this head, especially when I have been offered everything for $250 from others.
Needless to say I did not entertain this nonsense.

 

[Montco422]

“…Above the waste…” That’s perfect.

 

[VJLUTZ]

It seems that Seeking has gone to shit after the pandemic. Too many girls on the site who just want to be platonic or have a "virtual" relationship floor me. Lots of girls suck you into conversation and then just want to sell their pics too (because, y'know, there isn't enough free porn on the Internet). Not sure why anyone with a brain would bite on any of this, but I guess there is a sucker or incel born every minute.

The last time I tried Seeking was last Jan. Only got two serious bites and one meeting (which was okay, but not good enough to repeat). I thought I'd give it a rest for a while.

 

[Flloydgondolli]

It seems that Seeking has gone to shit after the pandemic. Too many girls on the site who just want to be platonic or have a "virtual" relationship floor me. Lots of girls suck you into conversation and then just want to sell their pics too (because, y'know, there isn't enough free porn on the Internet). Not sure why anyone with a brain would bite on any of this, but I guess there is a sucker or incel born every minute.

The last time I tried Seeking was last Jan. Only got two serious bites and one meeting (which was okay, but not good enough to repeat). I thought I'd give it a rest for a while.

It’s truly hot or miss depending on who you find and when you find them. Since my post 11 months ago I’ve had 4 separate meet ups with 3 other potentials but schedules just didn’t jive and their ask was also potentially too high (but they were VERY game for everything I like) throw in that I have about 2 months in there that are impossible (practically) for me to play due to work commitments. Meet ups were roughly 2 times a month and essentially no higher than 6 per meet for 2-3 hours of fun (accommodations included). My latest one is by far the most fun. WFH, under 30, we play at her place during the day. Think Sydney Sweeney in terms of her assets. Face is a little fuller than that and hair is a bit shorter. But exactly what I enjoy. Do a mix of PPM and physical gifts (shit for her apartment). I’ve been on the site for at least 3 years I think and I feel like I’ve hit pay dirt (been seeing her for almost 3 months now). It’s a true mixture of luck, persistence, and timing. However you are right in that there are several more girls looking to sell photos/videos or scammers. I almost got burned but said “fuck it” and called their bluff. Was total BS but a bit scary a few months ago.

 

[VJLUTZ]

In my case, the difficulty of using Seeking is compounded because I don't live in a big city (thought I do live close to the Lehigh Valley in PA). From what I've heard, Seeking is a whole different ballgame in a place like NY, Philly or even Newark, NJ. Lots more options available. It is impractical for me to seek girls beyond a 60 minute driving radius. Actually my sweet spot is 15-40 minutes away. Closer than 15 miles is too close. It may turn out I know them or they live close to someone I know.

 

[BestTwitterer]

In my case, the difficulty of using Seeking is compounded because I don't live in a big city (thought I do live close to the Lehigh Valley in PA). From what I've heard, Seeking is a whole different ballgame in a place like NY, Philly or even Newark, NJ. Lots more options available. It is impractical for me to seek girls beyond a 60 minute driving radius. Actually my sweet spot is 15-40 minutes away. Closer than 15 miles is too close. It may turn out I know them or they live close to someone I know.

I’m in CNJ and have had success in Philly but the distance is a killer for me. Maybe you need to start looking more there.
I’ve been with a Latina now for two years and it’s been a great experience. She hosts - I found her a great, safe, location at a reasonable rent - and we get together 3 times or so monthly. Playtime and then dining or shopping. It’s a true friendship but I know it’s based primarily on the financial aspect so it’s respectful that we don’t abuse each other with requests. I’ve seen others on and off from Seeking. Yes, there’s a lot just selling pics or videoes. Block them and move on to next. And there’s always a next.

 

[Flloydgondolli]

I’m in CNJ and have had success in Philly but the distance is a killer for me. Maybe you need to start looking more there.
I’ve been with a Latina now for two years and it’s been a great experience. She hosts - I found her a great, safe, location at a reasonable rent - and we get together 3 times or so monthly. Playtime and then dining or shopping. It’s a true friendship but I know it’s based primarily on the financial aspect so it’s respectful that we don’t abuse each other with requests. I’ve seen others on and off from Seeking. Yes, there’s a lot just selling pics or videoes. Block them and move on to next. And there’s always a next.

When you establish the dynamic of no longer needing a hotel room and it’s giving them something of actual value/use, it seems to make the arrangement more personal. I ask my SB what she needs or wants for her apartment (luckily she’s got a great place in Brooklyn so no need to worry about finding her something new) but we pick out stuff together and I order it and have it shipped and that takes care of her gift. She and I text regularly just talking about our day and also some fun about what we’re looking forward to next time (play time activities, clothes, roleplays, etc.) It also helps that she’s pretty much sexually insatiable so it makes our time together that much better. Some girls are better than others, but you’ll always find something else too.

 

[VJLUTZ]

My preference is for them to host. I say that in my profile (though its amazing how many of these women don't seem to read the profile). It's much simpler and more flexible than getting a hotel room. One way to put it is: would you rather I give the money to you or the hotel? One downside is that, every now and then, you run into a real slob. Early on, I had a meet with a girl who must have had at least four cats in her condo. The place stank of cat piss. Needless to say, I did not repeat. At least a hotel room is usually clean.

Same thing with scams. I put in my profile that I'm not interested in girls selling pics/videos, but it does not deter them.

 

[TIskier]

My preference is for them to host. I say that in my profile (though its amazing how many of these women don't seem to read the profile). It's much simpler and more flexible than getting a hotel room. One way to put it is: would you rather I give the money to you or the hotel? One downside is that, every now and then, you run into a real slob. Early on, I had a meet with a girl who must have had at least four cats in her condo. The place stank of cat piss. Needless to say, I did not repeat. At least a hotel room is usually clean.

Same thing with scams. I put in my profile that I'm not interested in girls selling pics/videos, but it does not deter them.

It’s optimal when they have their own spot. The freaky thing is how many times I’ve been directed to various NYU dorms…. Buildings I’ve passed numerous times w/o realizing they’re dorms. I typically pass at that point as it seems like too much potential for trouble for a middle aged man entering a college dorm. Some of these girls have little common sense…

 

[Trex69]

I find that very few are able to host. The younger ones have roommates or live with their family. That’s why they’re on the site in the first place. Older ones have kids. Usually have been with divorced empty nesters. Occasionally find an early career person who can host. Hotels are a haste since I have an SO and don’t have free nights or weekends. When I could host it was like shooting fish in a barrel.

 

[BestTwitterer]

Hosting is a major issue. If they can host, I usually up my allowance. The vibe is more relaxed and informal. The clock seems less of an issue and as mentioned in other post, it’s just more personal.
When you find a great one, the friendship goes to another level. The sex is there but the intimacy is ratcheted up as the conversation, silliness and requests are more comfortable.
I feel we got to this point by not making demands on each other, by listening and respecting each other’s life and by communicating well. You learn not to go down rabbit holes, solve their problems and respect their boundaries and they do the same. It’s an adult relationship that’s consensual and fun.

 

[VJLUTZ]

Hotels are a major pain-in-the-ass, especially if you have to travel to them. Sometimes, however, they can travel to you and then hotels become easier. One technique I use is to check in at night (on my way home), but only actually use the hotel the next morning. If you meet them at 9AM, getting out before noon is no problem.

 

[TIskier]

Hotels are a major pain-in-the-ass, especially if you have to travel to them. Sometimes, however, they can travel to you and then hotels become easier. One technique I use is to check in at night (on my way home), but only actually use the hotel early in the morning the next day. If you meet them at 9AM, getting out before noon is no problem.

Dayuse

 

[VJLUTZ]

Dayuse

Yeah, I've heard of that. Unfortunately, none of the hotels around my way use that service. And I rarely go into NYC anymore. When I used to meet spa girls in Flushing (pre-pandemic), I would use the Hotel John (perfectly named). They let you check in early in the morning. Generally, morning meetings work best for me.

 

[Businessman]

It seems that Seeking has gone to shit after the pandemic. Too many girls on the site who just want to be platonic or have a "virtual" relationship floor me. Lots of girls suck you into conversation and then just want to sell their pics too (because, y'know, there isn't enough free porn on the Internet). Not sure why anyone with a brain would bite on any of this, but I guess there is a sucker or incel born every minute.

The last time I tried Seeking was last Jan. Only got two serious bites and one meeting (which was okay, but not good enough to repeat). I thought I'd give it a rest for a while.

Huge influx around college dates. I.e new semester/summer/spring break etc. less action during finals. At least this is true for the 20-25 year range that I target

 

[Mesoohorny]

I had some great success on SA when I lived alone and would host. It was some work, but ultimately the rewards were great. Being in your late 50's to 62, getting together with 21-25 year olds, taking a shower together, then 30 minutes of heavy 69, it was fantastic. No more for me, but I have some great memories, had plenty of regulars over 6 years or so. Good stuff!! I'm in central NJ.

 

[TIskier]

The out of town college girls have gone home for the summer. Now the nyc girls who go away to college are back…. It’s like a changing of the guard

 

[qazuiop]

23 to 25 just out of college has been my sweet spot. Enough experience, yet they can't get the same attention on SA that they did when they were 19-20. Possibly some sort of identity crisis just out of school.

Currently on a wild ride with one. Just finished at a top school. Super smart. We just spent two days away. Location just a short train ride outside of NYC and airbnb. Not cheap, yet with a pro the experience would be my monthly income lol If you have the time, patience, and fortitude you can get into some crazy things.