I have respect and I'm cool with Papa-sans
But Uncle Leng on da porch is too much and way over the top. Loitering is a red flag because more than screening customers you are actually attracting the wrong type of attention and giving a reason for people to question what is really going on.
Too much Uncle Leng outside = Grandma complains to you-know-who. They can just as easily pay cousin Li in college to just peek out the window