I’ve only been mongering for about 20 years, and the first few years it was only a couple known AMP spots locally and international random encounters. I didn’t know much and didn’t have anyone to confer with. I’ve never paid less that $$. Some of you maybe think I’m stupid, but I didn’t know better. I thought that was going rate in the Philly area, not being on any sites until recently. A couple blvd hotel undies were 1.6. I dont take my wallet (for fear of overspending). NYC was my only reference and I remember 10 years ago being like “Wow, it’s cheap in Philly”. Not sure that advances this convo, but wanted to share.
All that said I still like to settle the payment upfront. That tactic burned me a couple times (at established places more than one-shots) but most of the time I enjoy a more stress-free session and feel it shows some trust with the provider. Rates are up a little and services aren’t NYC level, but I still do that. Just saying I’m not think how my tendency affects others. It’s just if figured out for myself and what I do/can afford.