Looks are important for sure-but she doesnt have to be the end all end all. I really want that connection-the little click we get when the provider and the cleint are good with each other from the jump-if I get that, I'm off to the races and we are going to have a good time. I saw so many reviews on Bella, I was thinking, this is not going to end well. Frankly it was more of a turn-off for me. You know who give a great BBj? The one that looks you in the eye and give you that hand on the cheeck, "reallyhappy to see you" vibe. Then I'm all in.