Never do the private room in NYC, it only proves you’re a sucker to them.
With that said, the bikini bars in NJ are low key the hot spots, typically filled with latinas of various descent. A lot of those places only have lapdances in a separate location standard and in booths, so things ramp up quickly. Language barrier can be an issue but I went to a place in Elizabeth twice where I got HJ included in the 5 dances agreed up front. Another place out in west Orange, I agreed to $100 for “5 dances in a private room” where it BBJ and titjob for 15 minutes.
In NYC, if you want to see a stripper OTC, it’s very possible but similar to civilian dating, so it’s more about personality, can be time consuming and you can just flat out miss. The private room is not the way to go about this though. You’re better off paying regular dances and chatting her up to feel her out. The best I ever achieved, when I was younger, more handsome and full of bravado, ended seeing a woman OTC twice for free from lapdance flirting at old NY Dolls.