Lying about it

[bigpoppaii]

Don’t lie, just don’t tell the true.

 

[Matera666]

I don't even acknowledge this hobby to myself - much less to anyone else.

 

[RopeSlinger]

Every excursion is a ghost recon mission for me. In and out as quick as possible. Not only do I not want my SO or family finding out - I don’t want any of the gen public to see me come or go.

 

[tightwad]

Not sure what scenarios you have if you decide to talk about your hobby. I maybe try to change my girl friend or be alone once I feel too guilty for this.

 

[Sporty3064]

There's nothing positive about telling her or anyone else. It won't help her and just hurt her. Like most here said, tell no one! Even close friends or siblings. You'll just wind up creating trouble. Try to compartmentalize it and bury it out if your mind. If you feel guilty then go to the gym and hit the heavy bag.
Nothing to feel guilty about either

 

[KingMessi]

I don’t tell SO.

Have two close friends that come out at times and we go together and pick diff girls. Sort of a mutual destruction pact I guess

Have a few online hobby friends that I discuss talents with on who to try or not try. Helped each other avoid wasting time and $.

 

[jasonmet0099]

I don’t tell SO.

Have two close friends that come out at times and we go together and pick diff girls. Sort of a mutual destruction pact I guess

Have a few online hobby friends that I discuss talents with on who to try or not try. Helped each other avoid wasting time and $.

They can’t rat you out if they were with you! Solid insurance policy.

 

[Johnnypneumonic]

I don't generally date Puritans, actually usually pretty open minded people, so I tell them early via stories about my past. Never had anybody care, and usually it gives them room to tell me something they might have held back too.

 

[JimboHoffa]

I was at a bachelor party once. All the guys got lap dances. One of the guys there was a Goodie Two Shoes, who uncharacteristically had a few too many that night. He felt so guilty, he told his wife. She told all the other SO’s. To me it was nothing, but my SO was pissed for a week.

The lesson? Don’t tell no one nothin, not even friends. Take it to the grave.

 

[Sporty3064]

I was at a bachelor party once. All the guys got lap dances. One of the guys there was a Goodie Two Shoes, who uncharacteristically had a few too many that night. He felt so guilty, he told his wife. She told all the other SO’s. To me it was nothing, but my SO was pissed for a week.

The lesson? Don’t tell no one nothin, not even friends. Take it to the grave.

Yes exactly!

 

[petemoss]

They can’t rat you out if they were with you! Solid insurance policy.

That is not true. Had a "friend", stupid ass friend who got caught. Told his SO "Its no big deal, Ray, Joe and Jim goes also!".

 

[Bigleo99]

I am not sure the reason this should come up in the discussion with your significant other. It is certainly not something I would bring up...I would treat it as I would past one-night stands and that is that it didn't mean that much emotionally and there is no reason to discuss it. In the relationships I have had and may have in the future, I don't want to know or particularly care about her sexual past and will honestly wonder why she wants to know mine. I am unlikely to see a provider in a store or restaurant, and we are unlikely to greet each other if we did. So not likely to have the "Hi" and SO ask, "Who is that?"

I also do not feel particularly guilty. I am not very active in the realm anymore, but I don't feel guilty about my past activity. I just don't find it to be immoral. There is a difference between immoral and illegal. And while some of falls within vice laws, I do not think it is immoral (except in rare circumstances in which providers are forced to provide service -- the idea of which I find disgusting). As long as providers are there by choice, no one is being exploited. Most of them are making a better living than me. Morally, I do not consider this much different than a one-night stand or a booty call. At least in the hobby, no one is lying simply to get laid.

 

[RotVic]

To the grave

 

[KingMessi]

To the grave and don’t take pussy ass friends to this. You think you are showing them what the world has to offer but many do not have the stomach or brains to process what they have done.

 

[error434]

You can make friends within the hobby but never take friends into the hobby.

 

[Kibbs]

keep it to yourself that's it

 

[Immaculatedude]

SNS is another threat. Don't say a word about this to anyone.

 

[alanlongnj]

take it to your grave

 

[BillyBlueEye2]

You can make friends within the hobby but never take friends into the hobby.

Actually my best friend got me into it, he told me about going to spas so i tried it once and was very nervous. Had an ok time and eventually got hooked and started going pretty frequently. My friend later became a cop up north jersey, I don't think he does it any longer too much at risk but we don't discuss it any more since he became a cop. He was the only person I ever discussed it with

 

[error434]

Actually my best friend got me into it, he told me about going to spas so i tried it once and was very nervous. Had an ok time and eventually got hooked and started going pretty frequently. My friend later became a cop up north jersey, I don't think he does it any longer too much at risk but we don't discuss it any more since he became a cop. He was the only person I ever discussed it with

My buddy got me into it many moons ago. I would never bring someone else in. I don’t want to have to deal with the consequences of them getting addicted or any family issues arising from it. But that’s just me.