civvies are civilians, ie normal girls. heres the problem....you say chicks are posting naked pics then you get blocked etc. Thats not the real world. On dating sites or twitter/facebook normal girls DONT post naked pics to the public. The only chicks that do are porn and escort girls. With sites like that theres 100 good looking ripped guys ahead of you, you dont stand a chance. Go on plentyoffish and things like that and take some flattering pics of yourself, not weird shit. You shouldnt be dirty talking any girl unless you build up a rapport with them first, then its flirty stuff, not straight "I'm gonna fuck your pussy up" type shit. A good thing is to get a female friend, like legit friend. Learn to talk to a female and have confidence, and get feedback from her. Another good practice is gogo bars, the girls will talk to you there and you can practice your game. It sounds to me like you lack confidence and you dont really know how to approach and talk with women. While spas get you the end game you want, the girls speak poor english mainly, and you will get some confidence from it, but your game and approach to women wont benefit, and that is the most important thing. An average guy with good game will get the girl everytime before the model looking guy who doesnt know what to do or say does