Like I said, to each their own......that sounds more like a servant than a partner to me. My priorities in a partner aren't things I can pay for. But like I said we're all different. Some want a genuine life partner. Others like the servant type thing. I get it. As long as everyones happy
I wouldn't consider deciding to have kids or to buy a home etc. "Intellectual" conversations.
Haven't felt that my relationship is loosing out by not being able to debate recent advances in Large Language models or Anti Obesity Medications w/ my partner