How is it out there for fat guys?

[bh2114]

Been lookin at dipping my toe into the waters for a little but now, but to be 100% honest the only thing holding me back from jumping in is insecurity about my weight and how I'll be treated by providers.

I'm currently 6 feet 300lbs flat (with some muscle as I've lifted and played sports for a long time. I just liked to eat alot too haha) and working on it. Thats actually down 30 lbs from the beginning of Spring so its heading in the right direction but I still got quite a few months til I'm more in the ballpark to where I want to be. But the itch gets stronger by the day regardless. Should I go and visit some places now or wait a few more months til I get some more of the weight off? I guess my biggest fear would just be getting straight up told no by some places if I showed up haha.

If theres any other big fellas on the forum, how has your experience been if you dont mind me askin? Anyone providers treated you poorly or differently because of your weight or is the NYC scene pretty chill about that kind of thing? Is it something you let them know about beforehand? I appreciate the knowledge all you guys provide

 

[solomon_456]

From what I keep hearing from providers most of their clients are overweight

 

[Tifosigreko]

If a place turns you away for being overweight, it wasn’t a place worth visiting in the first place. Obviously a provider is going to be more eager to fuck a 25 year old stud with six pack but that goes for all women.

You are paying for service which includes the illusion of attraction on the provider’s part and this should be regardless of how you look. Unless you’re horribly deformed, a burn victim, amputee etc I don’t think you need to worry too much about providers being put off. I would wager as the poster above said, that most of the clients showing up are not in top physical shape, even if they claim to be in their reviews here

I am overweight too - not as heavy as you but not off by that much and providers have never treated me poorly because of it. Civvies are another question entirely - I attracted some banging girls when I was younger and fitter and that changed somewhat as I gained weight over time.

 

[spinnerboy75]

Most providers won’t care as long as you have good hygiene and $$$.

 

[Zippy17]

I’m on the other end of that spectrum, but it’s a topic that’s come up with several providers, mostly in connection with my sharing that my wife used to do something very similar as a stripper (if she liked the guy) and that she was sexual enough to do this (in principle), but only if she could screen clients with photos or meet them first, the way it’s typically done on platforms like SA. In strip clubs, she could always see and interact with the guy first (obviously) and decide whether or not she was “available” for the champagne room and/or what she was or wasn’t going to do back there based on the guy.

The good news is that, almost without exception, they’ve all said that hygiene and personality/attitude (etc.) is much more important to them and they’d rather spend an hour with a friendly respectful fat guy than with a great-looking guy who’s rude or demanding, or who barely says a word besides instructing them to get in various positions. There’s also a difference between previously athletic and now overweight if your frame carries it well and just flabby. Finally, there’s no obligation to get completely naked, either. If you need to shower in the room, you can just excuse yourself to shower alone, and you can always leave a shirt on afterwards, the way some heavy guys do at the beach or poolside. I’m more comfortable in front of them naked than clothed, but, on occasion, I’ve actually done that with two girls who already knew me. Nicole Doshi once started lap dancing for me in that green schoolgirl outfit from her old photos and before I had time to take anything off, my fly was open and we did everything you could possibly do for round one while I was still fully dressed. Another time it was with a former EPA smoke show (Liana) after she went indy. Same Lycra tactical pants with nothing coming off and just an open zipper. So, it’s probably less of an issue for them than you think and that it is for you and you have several options to make yourself as comfortable as possible.

 

[Bridge-n-Tunnel]

6’-6” and previously 330 lbs. been with around 500-600 women at that weight during my 16 years of being a professional monger). Just go and get drained. (Down to 260 and dropping)

Go see Helen at NYAF. She’ll teach you the “ins and outs”.

 

[Black_Noir]

They don't care as long as your hygiene is good. Remember, it's a service and not real life.

 

[Handsome Matt]

OP, as long as you take a shower, brush your teeth and pay them properly they will take good care of you. They don't care if you are fat or skinny, or old or young or handsome or ugly. As long as you do those 3 things you will be fine.

 

[washedpllt]

Damn, the community really showed out for this one. Awesome stuff!

 

[Beacon]

Treat them well and be well groomed and most places will take great care of you. I’ve heard plenty of stories of good looking dudes who were total assholes and the girls hate them.

 

[fluffy0107]

You gotta treat them with respect. $$$ would be a bonus. I spoke with these girls and they hated those that loves to bargain to the point where they refuse to take them even when they come back with more $$$. My advice is treat them with respect and they will treat you well.

 

[chase69]

Like all of above.....most importantly try not to stink and be well groomed......
Even though I knew I'm starting off with a shower when I get there, I'd ALWAYS shower before.
If you are pleasant, tip (up front is a big plus to improve session), smile..... doesn't matter about weight or looks.

 

[gaga2732]

However, Mr. bh2114,
full disclosure. i am a big fellow myself. 6'3" and 230 lbs. i am going to assume older than you. have monger/gotten massages in many places and from many ladies through out the years. be careful with the tables they are using. some places uses legit massage tables that have a weight limit on them.
once, 6-7 years ago, i visited a well review lady here, she is in montclair nj. when i arrived to her studio she had one of those portable massage tables. not the usual sturdy table she had. i asked her?
love, what happened with the old table?
her answer, and i am quoting.
some big fat bastard like you broke it. lmao. since that time she has a couch in the same room that she uses for big guys. also her new table, to me, looks made out of titanium.
my 2 00.2,
for your safety be mindful at the table shower and how sturdy the massage table is. you do not want to end on the floor, cover with wood splinters after the stupid table gives because of overloading. think about it. your 300 lbs, plus lets say 140 lbs of the provider on the table. that is 440 lbs on the massage table. almost half a ton. have fun.
ymmv. stay safe

 

[AutomaticSlim]

They don't care as long as your hygiene is good. Remember, it's a service and not real life.

If he rolls over and crushes an ulna or something...they'll care...

Sorry @bh2114, but I just couldn't resist.

Seriously though...DON"T CRUCH ANY ULNAS!!!!

 

[BobLaublaw11]

Be clean, courteous, and bring a fat wallet. You’re good.