Finishing quickly

[MKNJ]

I've found that you can train it...

I've been working on reducing the time I need to cum. I was blowing quicker than I would like, so I worked on lasting longer (reverse kegels, stretching) for about 3 months, now it's gone a little too far the other way. I've been starting to do regular kegels to help reduce the time, still putting in some reverse kegels to hopefully not lose all control.

 

[SummerBreeze1010]

I've found that you can train it...

I've been working on reducing the time I need to cum. I was blowing quicker than I would like, so I worked on lasting longer (reverse kegels, stretching) for about 3 months, now it's gone a little too far the other way. I've been starting to do regular kegels to help reduce the time, still putting in some reverse kegels to hopefully not lose all control.

Interesting.
Mind sharing your kegel, reverse kegel, stretching routine?

 

[Rover2020]

I have the opposite problem. It takes me forever to cum. To the point where I then worry that it might not happen in the time frame, which you guessed it, makes it take even longer.
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I have the same problem. No issues getting and staying hard, just can't finish on a regular basis. Probably only having a successful conclusion about once out every 4 or 5 attempts. I'm an older gentleman, over 60 now, and have had this issue for the last few years and it's gotten progressively worse. Generally healthy and fit. I'm on blood pressure meds but my cardiologist says they are not the type that would cause this issue. Had my testosterone levels tested and it was perfectly within the normal range. Talked with a urologist and he said it was probably just age related. He said we lose sensitivity over time and our nervous system doesn't respond to stimulation the way it did when we were younger. He also said there was a mental aspect to it and that the 'same old same old' might not be enough to get us over the finish line.

I've had to explain to providers that it's not their fault. It's surprising to me how many of them treat it as their personal failure if I don't finish. Also, I won't hammer away at them for the full hour and instead mix things up. I still enjoy it, I just wish I could finish on a regular basis.

I've been looking at some supplements such as yohimbe, horny goat weed and maca. I would have tried them already but I'm concerned about the potential interaction with my hypertension medication. I was wondering whether anyone has had any luck with these or any other supplements for this issue?

 

[Porkchop]

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Kind of piggybacking another topic on this forum, but wanted to know mongers' thoughts on finishing quickly with providers. I read a lot of posts from guys talk about delivering Os to girls and making them cum multiple times, and that's just never been me lol. I'm there to blow the load, and I agree with those who believe the girls just want you to blow as quickly as possible because they don't want their backs, legs, mouths and pussies worn out from one dude railing away on them for 30 straight minutes. Mind you I'm not a fit hulking man in peak form that would be eye candy to every girl, but I believe these girls are there for your money and just want you to shoot your wad and hope you enjoyed yourself enough to see them again.
There have been times I've taken longer to finish but most of the time it's because the girl is a dead fish, or the circumstances are somewhat sketchy (seedy hotel, noisy neighbors, whatever). But most of the time when I get pussy on the brain and plan out where I'm gonna visit, my mind is already on how and where I'm gonna finish and I usually don't last. Even times when I've finished faster than even I expected to, I laugh it off with the girl and tell her how hot she is (even if she isn't) and how good she was to make me cum so fast. On more than one occasion I've asked them to slow down on the HE because I wanted to enjoy it a little longer and their reaction was to start the jackhammer to get me to blow. There was a mixed race Indy girl in NJ who had an absolute porn star body that I saw twice. The limit of her services was nude HE and both times as soon as she stripped I made the mistake of telling her she was so hot that I wouldn't last 30 seconds and she made sure I was right. She oiled me up and as soon as she rubbed me against her tits I came all over them. One of my ATF memories was with a heavy set blonde Indy massage girl that rented this tiny room in an office building in Montclair. This was back in the back page days. She advertised as Lyssa and I saw her a handful of times back in like 2013/2014. She had unbelievable massage skills, not particularly strong but very relaxing. I would do 90 minutes with her. First 45 would be a nice back massage, then a very long slow tease before the flip. I would already be throbbing before she reached for the oil and I loved when she rubbed me on her belly. She was a curvy girl, not obese but she had a bit of a belly and I loved cumming on it. Afterwards she would spend the rest of the session with a gentle foot rub until I fell asleep. One visit after she was teasing/ST for quite a bit she saw me throbbing and instead of reaching for the oil she reached for a condom. She showed it to me as she dropped her pants revealing her glistening shaved pussy. Prior to this the most she ever did was lift her shirt. She grabbed my arms and helped me stand while smiling at me. She rolled the cover on me and laid down on the table motioning for me to get on top. In the midst of my shock that this was happening I warned her I was gonna cum really fast but she just whispered "come here". As I got on top of her she grabbed the base of my cock and slid it inside her. Literally as soon as I entered her I grunted out an "oh fuck" and unloaded in the bag. She kept one hand on the base of my cock and the other on my ass and just held me there with her eyes closed and mouth open for at least 30 seconds as her body shook. She finally exhaled a really long breath and wrapped her arms around me and just laid there with her on top of me for another minute before collecting herself. Now either this girl was an absolute world class actress (perhaps) or she came as quickly as I did and we both enjoyed a premature orgasm (perhaps not but I hope this was the case)
So long story way longer than it needed to be, what's everyone's thoughts and feelings on how long you last? Do you enjoy a 30 minute sweaty back-blowing pounding session or prefer to just shoot the load and be on your way?

I remember that girl. She had big blue eyes?
Always got negative reviews. I wanted to see her but the reviews kept me away.
Guess I missed out on something.

 

[solomon_456]

I have the opposite problem. It takes me forever to cum. To the point where I then worry that it might not happen in the time frame, which you guessed it, makes it take even longer.
When meeting a new girl I always inform them that the flip needs to happen waaaaaay earlier. And if it gets close to time even with that I’ll have to take over.

Honestly I’m envious of guys who blow in like 30 seconds. That sounds awesome to me.

Are you masturbating couple times a day by chance?

 

[solomon_456]

Interesting.
Mind sharing your kegel, reverse kegel, stretching routine?

Yes please

 

[SincerelyWF]

Are you masturbating couple times a day by chance?

Normally 2-3x a day but if I’m going to see a provider I don’t at all for the 2 days leading up to it.

 

[MKNJ]

Interesting.
Mind sharing your kegel, reverse kegel, stretching routine?

Sure, it's from an info product "Charles Black - Get Control Fast", dude has good info.

hold a reverse kegel in front for 10 secs (the muscle you relax when you pee)
hold a reverse kegel in back for 10 sec (like you are letting out a fart)
rest for 30 secs
Do this "round" 10X
First week only do the full cycle once, second week 2x and then third week 3x. keep going at 3 full cycles
Do this M-W-F-Sun

hold a reverse kegel in front for 10 secs
hold a regular kegel in front for 10 secs (like you are stopping peeing mid stream)
hold a reverse kegel in back for 10 secs
hold a regular kegel in back for 10 secs (like you are holding in a shit)
rest for 30 secs
Do this "round" 10X
First week only do the full cycle once, second week 2x and then third week 3x. keep going at 3 full cycles
Do this T-Th-Sat

stretching you do daily
3 min - asian squat - keep heels on floor and squat as low as you can, put elbows on the inside of knees and try to straighten out your arms with your palms touching
https://fitnessdrum.com/asian-squats/

3 min - butterfly stretch

3 min - la jin stretch

so the above noticeably helped me after about 2 months. kept going and after month 3 have to concentrate to get the nut out in time and kinda let go. So i've stopped doing just the reverse kegels and just doing the T-Th-Sat one.

 

[Ampmonger]

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I remember that girl. She had big blue eyes?
Always got negative reviews. I wanted to see her but the reviews kept me away.
Guess I missed out on something.

I honestly don't recall her eye color, she was a curvy white (American) blonde.
Never saw any negative reviews on her, in fact I don't recall reading any reviews on her, but I enjoyed every visit. As I mentioned earlier I loved her massage technique. She didn't do any deep tissue work or back walking or any of that, it was more relaxing than anything. I think I saw her about 5 times in a little over a year. I must have caught her on a very good day the time she let me fuck her, because I saw her one other time after that and it was back to HE only. One day she just disappeared. Ads were gone, her phone number changed, she just moved on I guess.
I'll never forget her space. It was this tiny single room in the middle of a mixed use building right on valley Rd in Montclair. Most of the other tenants were law offices. She would always give me the "shh" signal when I flipped so the lawyer next door didn't hear me moaning and grunting lol. I looked up the address on Google and zoomed in on the door and there's a male massage therapist renting that space now

 

[SummerBreeze1010]

Sure, it's from an info product "Charles Black - Get Control Fast", dude has good info.

hold a reverse kegel in front for 10 secs (the muscle you relax when you pee)
hold a reverse kegel in back for 10 sec (like you are letting out a fart)
rest for 30 secs
Do this "round" 10X
First week only do the full cycle once, second week 2x and then third week 3x. keep going at 3 full cycles
Do this M-W-F-Sun

hold a reverse kegel in front for 10 secs
hold a regular kegel in front for 10 secs (like you are stopping peeing mid stream)
hold a reverse kegel in back for 10 secs
hold a regular kegel in back for 10 secs (like you are holding in a shit)
rest for 30 secs
Do this "round" 10X
First week only do the full cycle once, second week 2x and then third week 3x. keep going at 3 full cycles
Do this T-Th-Sat

stretching you do daily
3 min - asian squat - keep heels on floor and squat as low as you can, put elbows on the inside of knees and try to straighten out your arms with your palms touching
https://fitnessdrum.com/asian-squats/

3 min - butterfly stretch

3 min - la jin stretch

so the above noticeably helped me after about 2 months. kept going and after month 3 have to concentrate to get the nut out in time and kinda let go. So i've stopped doing just the reverse kegels and just doing the T-Th-Sat one.

This looks good!

I’ve been doing my own kegel routine but I felt like it’s too simple and not very effective. Yours seems much more elaborate and targets other related areas I haven’t been doing so I’ll definitely give this a shot.

Thanks!

 

[RubandSmug]

I'm actually the opposite. I finish very fast from BJ and can last longer (most times) in penetration. But I think that's because I never get BJ from the SO....

Man, I've heard about relationships like this. My sincere condolences I don't think I would last in a relationship where she didn't like, or at least mind, giving bj's. I guess that's why we have mongering!

 

[Mongeram]

There is some truth in there, but for me, to be honest, I’m a very good looking dude, and most providers seem to enjoy me bagging them for the long haul…but there is a limit and many want to tap out after 30-40 minutes

 

[Ampmonger]

Man, I've heard about relationships like this. My sincere condolences I don't think I would last in a relationship where she didn't like, or at least mind, giving bj's. I guess that's why we have mongering!

Yeah pretty much. I prefer BJ over FS any day at an AMP, mostly because BJs are rare in my personal life. They're not completely absent, just rare. I can talk her into them when she's on the rag and giving me a tug and it's taking a while. I'll say something to the effect of "if you go down on me this will be over in like 10 seconds". And I'm always right lol. Within seconds of feeling her mouth around my cock I'm unloading on her neck and tits.