Conflicted- include special extras in review that may only exist for you?

[Mikehunt]

What’s the protocol here when you visit a place and your experience is completely different than everyone else’s review? For example a a he only place that goes further during your visit, or a provider that always performs covered mouth but goes without for you. Is your loyalty with discretion for that provider/shop or with the community? Selfishly, discreetness works in ones favor for sure, but one would think you should protect that provider, right?

 

[Floorhump422]

I would not disclose extras because it might lead to the provider feeling uncomfortable if mongers try to push for that and you potentially no longer getting access to them. I think it also doesn't make much practical sense to disclose them because they won't be accessible to most of the people reading the review. If she provides an otherwise good experience, you're being pro-monger by communicating that, sans off-the-menu items.