Advice needed

[Stanton Archibald]

Dear Abby,

I was seeing two providers in a way that was more than client/provider. (Dates, overnights, etc)

But then one of them (#2) quit the shop where I met her and moved to the store with the first one (#1)

I want to keep seeing #1 and end things with #2 but in a way that does not cause drama. Is this even possible?

Thoughts?

 

[TIskier]

Grow a pair

 

[thurber]

Dear Abby,

I was seeing two providers in a way that was more than client/provider. (Dates, overnights, etc)

But then one of them (#2) quit the shop where I met her and moved to the store with the first one (#1)

I want to keep seeing #1 and end things with #2 but in a way that does not cause drama. Is this even possible?

Thoughts?

A few questions:

(1) Why do you want to stop seeing #2? Is it only because she's working with #1 now and you feel you need to choose? Or because you're just tired of her, period?

(2) Is the drama doing to come from any (absurd obv) expectation that you were exclusive to either one of them due to your outside-the-shop activities? Or due to you no longer seeing #2 but continuing to see #1? Or just the standard drama that some girls don't like competition?

(3) Can you continue to see #1 outside the store without making store visits?

 

[Stanton Archibald]

1. I want stop seeing #2 in general. The sex is meh and the schedule of a spa girl is 9am - 12:30 pm so it's not worth the hassle.

2. No exclusivity issues. Just the drama that comes with a former "friend" choosing one of your co-workers and not you.

I am just trying to minimize the hurt feelings and potential for upset spa girls. Possibly unadvoiadable. "Growing a pair" might be the only option. But if others have suggestions that achieve a similar goal w/o being blunt and painfully honest I am all ears.

3. No, she has kids and goes home every night.

 

[thurber]

Yeah, sounds like if continuing to see #1 is more important than no drama, you'll get the drama

 

[TIskier]

Forgive me for being curt, but it's your money. Spend it on the one you want to bang and no longer spend it on the one you no longer want to bang.

 

[Stanton Archibald]

Yes, I understood your position the first time.

 

[labguy]

Instead of worrying about how they may react, just do a double session. Act like a client not a friend and see how well they work together. I bet you can learn a lot from that.

 

[이 회장님]

These girls talk all the time so I’m sure they already know that you’ve been seeing both of them. If you want to see only #1 then just tell #2 that you want to discontinue seeing her.

There will be drama so fasten your seat belt.

 

[Stanton Archibald]

These girls talk all the time so I’m sure they already know that you’ve been seeing both of them. If you want to see only #1 then just tell #2 that you want to discontinue seeing her.

There will be drama so fasten your seat belt.

I think this is the way forward. It's not a question of avoiding fireworks but how to do it it with the most minimal explosion.

I could not say anything to #2 and just walk in the shop and ask for #1.

Or I could talk to #2 beforehand.

Not sure whats better or if there is any meaningful difference.

I'm also not trying to be a dick about it where I am taking into account hurt feelings etc.

Getting passed over sucks, no matter what. But hopefully I can do it with integrity.

 

[이 회장님]

If I were you, I would just continue to meet #1 outside of the amp.

As for #2, just tell her straight up in person it’s time to move on. She won’t like hearing it but at least you’re being honest with her.

Every amp women I wanted to discontinue seeing, I’d told them in person.

 

[Stanton Archibald]

TY.
The one caveat is that I can only see #1 at the shop. At least she has not been amenable to meeting at my place or a hotel because kids.

 

[Ampiricalobservation]

TY.
The one caveat is that I can only see #1 at the shop. At least she has not been amenable to meeting at my place or a hotel because kids.

Huh?

"I was seeing two providers in a way that was more than client/provider. (Dates, overnights, etc)"

Two?

 

[Stanton Archibald]

Huh?

"I was seeing two providers in a way that was more than client/provider. (Dates, overnights, etc)"

Two?

Yes, not much of a dilemma if only one.

 

[Ampiricalobservation]

Yes, not much of a dilemma if only one.

But you say you can only see #1 at the shop a d that she has not been amenable to outside-the-shop activities...

Not seeing the dilemma

 

[Ampiricalobservation]

The starting premise of the thread was seeing 2 providers outside their respective shops...

 

[Stanton Archibald]

The starting premise of the thread was seeing 2 providers outside their respective shops...

They now both work at the same shop.

 

[lovelovelove]

do you pay for time when you are seeing them out of the shop?

 

[Stanton Archibald]

When we are off premise I did not pay.

Like I said before. Just getting out of a windowless dark spa was more than enough incentive.

 

[Ocdjoe]

i'm still very confused and no clue what you're saying.....you have said "The one caveat is that I can only see #1 at the shop. At least she has not been amenable to meeting at my place or a hotel because kids."

#2 you have been out and about with freebies but she moved to #1's spa and you want to dead it with her. Cool done.

So for #1 only visit at the spa.....is that your final answer? do you get freebies at the spa?

i really don't see what's the problem here....regardless you don't see #1 outside so just go to the spa and only ask for #1. Cool done.