If the question was to me, I use a burner phone, of course. In fact, I use several different numbers too. I also use tor or multiple VPNs for any of these sites.
In the world where facial recognition is a somber reality, if there was a silver lining for covid, it's that we can wear masks that conceal our faces without people thinking we're going to rob a bank.
No, business is a two-way street. You don't get blacklisted from mickey ds by giving it a one star rating on yelp, do you? The reviews are for helping others make informed decisions. Entities that bl or threaten people for honest but negative reviews, are effectively bullying customers. Instead of addressing that their product is bad, they attempt to hide the visibility and publicity that their product is bad.
if my local sandwich shop that sometimes has good sandwiches debuts two new sandwiches and they both taste like Athletes Foot, I am going to write angry reviews of those sandwiches. Are you really asking why I'm trying them out?
true, but remaining anonymous is the key way to keep a monger safe. Business is a two way street so I think both sides should at least be equally protected, no?
To be fair, I acknowledge I don't have same liability as a lot of you, and would probably be less cavalier about being outed. I'm not very vulnerable, I have no significant other, mostly it would be embarrassing to my friends, but they are all liberal, like myself.
I don't use a burner since I don't feel that vulnerable and it's inconvenient. Nor care actually if being tracked. I turn on Google timeline on which tracks where I go, because it's useful. I like that Google maps can tell where traffic is jammed by using mine and other's locations. And these discussions are made possible by being anonymous is great.
Yeah, very good point, I use face mask and Sun hat or hoody going to appointments which we couldn't do before pandemic.
Presumably you know an org that has black listed for negative review? Presumably the provider must have read the bad review, and recognized the monger and complained to the PO? That's a valid problem, but orgs using blacklisting to punish for bad reviews undermines using blacklisting to protect provider. I would like to see the review in question. (You could PM me.).
But, goodpoint if a monger is unfairly blacklisted, the DL, pic IDs make it difficult to assume a new monger handle. But of course, the same pics and info are used to keep a legitimately blacklisted monger from getting back in. But it's true, if blacklisted, you didn't get a fair trial. And, orgs if busy don't care if they unfairly blacklist a few which is why I never walk and careful about how I write reviews.
I think "remaining anonymous is the key way to keep a monger safe" is mostly a rationalization to justify not giving out requested info. I intially had same reaction of stubbornly resisting which gives a sense of control while giving out info feels like being violated (it did for me).
But eventually the desire for sex overcomes the resistance.
The stubborn focus on not giving out the info blinds mongers to looking at the other ways their anonymity might be violated which has been discussed elsewhere. These other ways seem to be more common than an org outing a monger which Kittycon could find no example. "... In all of my years lurking (since mrb) and past few years hobbying I have never heard of misused personal info by a korg. ...."
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What might be more effective is to figure out how to deal with being outed if the info gets out, like what's the story, rather than resisting giving out info. What is the story for a burner phone if it's discovered?
There is a fundamental conflict between monger anonymity and safety for.the provider. Because of that I don't think their ID requirements are unreasonable for provider safety. Although ironically part of the sex appeal is anonymity, no emotional entanglements, etc. A small % of completely anonymous mongers are way more likely to violate boundaries because they feel no one can hold them to account.
But, I respect if you don't want give out your ID, you have done a better job than me. But the consequence is not getting access to some orgs.
But I think all the whining about not fair to give out ID info, is clueless and unfair about real risks that providers face from anonymous mongers.
