For some of you guys looking to stop the monger merry-go-round, I am at 2 years since my last visit to either a spa or escort. I decided to stop after 3 terrible encounters and a comment by an escort.
First the comment by the escort. While talking to her and after 2 tall glasses of wine, she said "guys that pay for sex are losers". After a pause she said "oh some guys". With the encounters 2 were with independents that have reviews on this site and 1 at a well-reviewed AMP in South Jersey. 1st instance was with a skinny, pale, small chested escort in CNJ. Was not attracted to her at all. Lackluster session and as I was leaving offered her chubby friend for duo next time. No thanks. While driving away said to myself "what a total waste of money that was". 2nd encounter was with an independent that really likes her weed. Went to her incall, was over-whelmed by the weed stench, she seemed high, and room a mess. Turned around and got out of there. 3rd time was with the very much reviewed now 70 plus year old therapist at a popular SJ spa. During table shower tries 2 times to give me her "special". I said no the first time and then she tries again. The thought of her old age, the endless number of guys she has serviced, and who knows how many guys got the special, I got skeeved out, got up, quickly dried off, dressed, and left. While driving away said to myself "what the hell am I doing". So over the last 2 years have put more effort into the relationship with my SO and things are much better. Not all her fault, I needed to look in the mirror. Also began hitting the gym more as well as found a great group of people that play pickleball. For me I just feel better about myself. Not preaching to anyone that continues to monger. We are all adults, but for some of you guys that are beginning to question why I am doing this yet, give it pause and think where else can I put my efforts.
First the comment by the escort. While talking to her and after 2 tall glasses of wine, she said "guys that pay for sex are losers". After a pause she said "oh some guys". With the encounters 2 were with independents that have reviews on this site and 1 at a well-reviewed AMP in South Jersey. 1st instance was with a skinny, pale, small chested escort in CNJ. Was not attracted to her at all. Lackluster session and as I was leaving offered her chubby friend for duo next time. No thanks. While driving away said to myself "what a total waste of money that was". 2nd encounter was with an independent that really likes her weed. Went to her incall, was over-whelmed by the weed stench, she seemed high, and room a mess. Turned around and got out of there. 3rd time was with the very much reviewed now 70 plus year old therapist at a popular SJ spa. During table shower tries 2 times to give me her "special". I said no the first time and then she tries again. The thought of her old age, the endless number of guys she has serviced, and who knows how many guys got the special, I got skeeved out, got up, quickly dried off, dressed, and left. While driving away said to myself "what the hell am I doing". So over the last 2 years have put more effort into the relationship with my SO and things are much better. Not all her fault, I needed to look in the mirror. Also began hitting the gym more as well as found a great group of people that play pickleball. For me I just feel better about myself. Not preaching to anyone that continues to monger. We are all adults, but for some of you guys that are beginning to question why I am doing this yet, give it pause and think where else can I put my efforts.