Enjoying sex

I have a female colleague (almost my age) who enjoys sex like few others. I've never had sex with her though (because we work together), but she is always telling me about her exploits. Without getting into too much detail, she has provided proof so I know she is not full of shit.

Anyway, she is a good window because she will tell me anything and knows what her female friends say when men are not around. Most women her age absolutely hate sex. They just dole it out to their husbands when necessary. And some have stopped altogether. Most women throttle back the sex after they've had enough kids to "cement" the marriage. A lot of them were not even sure that they liked sex when they were younger, even though they did get horny from time to time. But they mostly pretended to like sex to get husbands, BFs, manipulate men into doing this or that, etc. She says maybe 5% of women really love sex, and that may even be an overestimate; but its low single digits. What she tells me does not surprise me in the least and largely tracks with my experience and gut.

I know, at least when they are younger, women do have sexual urges. This is from my experience with one night stands. Those are situations where women have absolutely nothing to gain and would not do it unless they were very horny. However, as they age, the horniness gets less frequent. After menopause, it can disappear all together. So its all tied to their biological clock (again, no surprise).

My friend's observations apply mostly to White, Black and Asian-American women. I think native Asian women do like sex more than White women, but I would be surprised if their genuine threshold breaks 10%. And the acid test is to see what they do after you marry them; often 5-10 years after. As a wise man once opined: Eventually, all pussy turns rancid.

I think that low single digits # is way off the mark. Have no scientific data to refute your friend's estimate, just a gut feel. Not saying the correct # is 50% but it's def well north of low single digits.

Do the girls really enjoy sex, or do they just say they do because that’s what they think you want to hear?

The ones that make us consistently believe that they are enjoying it are the ones that we remember, long for, and talk about for a long time; oh yeah, it helps too if they are going and hot.

The key is that they really enjoy sex, vs. just pretending to enjoy it. Lots of women pretend to enjoy it, especially if they are young and unattached. And they do get horny on occasion, which is something that often misleads men. They have a fire in their pussy that needs to be put out, but then they are set for quite a while. If a half-way decent woman really wants to get laid, she almost always can (especially if she wants to debase herself). But its routine for women to go a year or more without sex and not bat an eyelash.

Not everyone agrees with this, but to me the acid test is how wet they are and how long they can stay that way. If they are acting aroused but putting in lube, then its an act (though a well intentioned one). Of all the Asian girls I've been with, I only know of two who can stay wet for hours. Those are the only ones I have total confidence in as far as them enjoying sex. That's about a 5% hit rate. I know a few others who seem to need a lot of men in their life. That may be symptomatic of another psychological need vs. actually enjoying sex.

I trust my friend's info because a woman will tell another woman the truth about sex more readily than she ever will a man.

Your friend's info is based on civies. The rates for pros its probably much lower. Civies are atleast having sex with people they find somewhat attractive. Pros have to do it with guys who they find repulsive.

Can we have a competition for fastest to “I only do for you?” I’m in this Cspa last night with a new girl, and 5 minutes after meeting in the TS she motions to my junk and asks if ok to touch. I say sure, that’s why I am here. A couple touches later, I’m hard and she asks if I want a finish in the TS and whether I’ll take care of her. I say sure, but how about some bj too? She’s says not allowed here, but you’re special, I love you. I only do for you. A talented bj ensues with an enthusiastic CIM. very good, she says after. So was it that she really enjoyed it? Or was it that the boss told her I used to be an every week customer? I can’t speak Chinese that well, but I understood that much.

I have a female colleague (almost my age) who enjoys sex like few others. I've never had sex with her though (because we work together), but she is always telling me about her exploits. Without getting into too much detail, she has provided proof so I know she is not full of shit.

Anyway, she is a good window because she will tell me anything and knows what her female friends say when men are not around. Most women her age absolutely hate sex. They just dole it out to their husbands when necessary. And some have stopped altogether. Most women throttle back the sex after they've had enough kids to "cement" the marriage. A lot of them were not even sure that they liked sex when they were younger, even though they did get horny from time to time. But they mostly pretended to like sex to get husbands, BFs, manipulate men into doing this or that, etc. She says maybe 5% of women really love sex, and that may even be an overestimate; but its low single digits. What she tells me does not surprise me in the least and largely tracks with my experience and gut.

I know, at least when they are younger, women do have sexual urges. This is from my experience with one night stands. Those are situations where women have absolutely nothing to gain and would not do it unless they were very horny. However, as they age, the horniness gets less frequent. After menopause, it can disappear all together. So its all tied to their biological clock (again, no surprise).

My friend's observations apply mostly to White, Black and Asian-American women. I think native Asian women do like sex more than White women, but I would be surprised if their genuine threshold breaks 10%. And the acid test is to see what they do after you marry them; often 5-10 years after. As a wise man once opined: Eventually, all pussy turns rancid.

The quest for the female "viagra" continues...

I think they really want sex, but not the overhead if our male expectations. Hookup culture proves this. College age women thru single women in their early 40s hook up, but don't want you to spend the night and snore in their ears. When they select the date, time and the sometimes random person they have sex with, it is new, fresh, and enjoyable for them.

Really? What about female expectations? LOL.

It sounds like you are describing male behavior there. Women are typically the ones who push for marriage. At least that was true back when I was young. And, really, many AMP girls DO want to get married. If what you say is true, things have really turned inside out.

Life is a party to these girls, and if your a 6'3" "Chad" who played lacrosse or something for Princeton/Georgetown/Colgate/etc.., life is pretty damn good.

The young, pretty ones here in NY do not seem to want that. From what I observe in midtown bars, they want tall, attractive "Chad type" guys to party with
and impress their friends. Impressing their friends is very important to them. These are mostly former sorority girls who live 3 and 4 in an apartment (usually at partially least partially funded by their fathers). Life is a party to these girls, and if your a 6'3" "Chad" who played lacrosse or something for Princeton/Georgetown/Colgate/etc.., life is pretty damn good.

The young, pretty ones here in NY do not seem to want that. From what I observe in midtown bars, they want tall, attractive "Chad type" guys to party with
and impress their friends. Impressing their friends is very important to them. These are mostly former sorority girls who live 3 and 4 in an apartment (usually at partially least partially funded by their fathers). Life is a party to these girls, and if your a 6'3" "Chad" who played lacrosse or something for Princeton/Georgetown/Colgate/etc.., life is pretty damn good.

Sucks to be them. The Chad types won't want to get married. No need to when young, hot poon is throwing itself at you. At least in the 80s, girls were still smart enough to lock in a hubby when they were hot.

When they turn 30 (or maybe sooner), those girls will realize they're not so attractive anymore and then regret no looking harder for a husband when they were hot.
If still single at 35, their chances of finding a husband will nosedive and they'll start turning into hardcore feminists.
If still single at 40, they'll start going to pussy-hat rallies and dabbling in lesbianism.
If still single at 50, they'll turn into cat ladies.
If still single at 60....er….no one gives a shit.

Yep.
At 30/35 or so the marriage instinct kicks in, and they try to bag a "nice guy". Many are too smart for that trap. But they do always seem to find one.