What do you guys talk to the girls about?

[ASIANFUNTIME]

I'm just curious how you guys start conversations with these girls and what it is that you actually discuss and how you get to that.

I tend to have a lot of sessions where I don't say a lot and a lot of times I enjoy that. Like I had a long day or am really tired or whatever it is and I really just want to go and relax and be taken care of.

But there are other times that I definitely get a vibe from the provider that if I was more chatty she would kind of hang out with me and maybe that would be more fun for her. And maybe me too.

So beyond how long have you been here how long are you staying whatever, what else do you discuss with them and how do you get it going?

 

[stk127]

i don't talk much.i am there to relax.the women i go to don't seem to speak much english.i don't know if that's for real or just an act.

 

[PhillyJimi]

You talk to them about the same things you would talk to an civilian lady about. I have found all women are more or less wired the same way up stairs.

Of course their level of English can make things more difficult. Simple things like, how long have you been in America? Are Americans crazy?

 

[Horndog215]

We recently spoke about Ben Simmons and how shitty the Sixers were..normal shit like that

 

[TripleD116]

My go to opening the dialogue is where are you from? They generally all say NY... and I say no I mean country, then how long you been here.... and that usually just flows with them asking where I am from etc etc. it’s easy like you are starting a convo with someone you met at a bar man or women. If they don’t answer means they don’t want to talk to you. Most will have some sort of convo if they speak any English

 

[Barrister2659]

When I was living alone I had a masseuse come to my place on a regular basis. It would be a massage with ending along with a therapy session. I had some girlfriends back then (2015-18) who looking back were real “winners” (alcoholics, clinically depressed, anger issues).

 

[PhillyJimi]

We recently spoke about Ben Simmons and how shitty the Sixers were..normal shit like that

Should of asked her, "You might know him. He is about 6'10" tall & Light skinned. You'll know it is defiantly him, when your legs are spread and it is an easy wide open sure thing but he calls his friend to come in and take the shot for him."

 

[Waterboy]

Many things. What she likes to do during time off and evenings, the jewelry she bought on her latest vacation, family back in Korea or elsewhere, and even posts about her here divulging info she would rather remain private.

 

[East Lake II]

I usually talk politics and global economics. I’m especially interested in what they think about Chairman Xi’s largest edicts.

After politics and economy we usually talk about their short and long term goals regarding education and career enhancement.

They often like to discuss family, how bad their working conditions are, bad customers and how poorly their husband treated them.

 

[charliebrown]

I usually talk politics and global economics. I’m especially interested in what they think about Chairman Xi’s largest edicts.

After politics and economy we usually talk about their short and long term goals regarding education and career enhancement.

They often like to discuss family, how bad their working conditions are, bad customers and how poorly their husband treated them.

You really have to know the providers pretty well before opening up the subject matter into the personal realm. I have definitely tipped women into a not so pleasant mode by bringing up personal subjects!!!!

Family can trigger sadness when the provider has not seen them for awhile and misses them.

Angry is almost a given with current and/or ex spouses.

I have had some REALLY HARD massages and some really shitty ST sessions when the spouse issue was encountered.

You know you brought up a touchy subject when the end of the massage entails pounding your muscles with her knuckles!

 

[Hampster]

Shy in my normal life so let out my alter ego- very dirty alter ego. Say things I would never say in “real life”.
But the girls can tell it’s not really me- and often laugh...

Then I turn into food conversations. The girls do know the best spots to eat.

 

[East Lake II]

Family can trigger sadness when the provider has not seen them for awhile and misses them.

A lot of sadness. Many have pushed those memories so far and so deep that when they recall them and verbalize there are a lot tears.

 

[labguy]

Just went back to see a girl I frequent before but taking a break for 2 months. We chatted how we missed each other and she can’t believe I was there to see her again. It turned into an intense gfe session.

 

[TheRiceGuy]

We talk about the stuff they don’t understand about Americans and they have no one else to ask comfortably lol

 

[Doubleyellow]

I'm just curious how you guys start conversations with these girls and what it is that you actually discuss and how you get to that.

I tend to have a lot of sessions where I don't say a lot and a lot of times I enjoy that. Like I had a long day or am really tired or whatever it is and I really just want to go and relax and be taken care of.

But there are other times that I definitely get a vibe from the provider that if I was more chatty she would kind of hang out with me and maybe that would be more fun for her. And maybe me too.

So beyond how long have you been here how long are you staying whatever, what else do you discuss with them and how do you get it going?

I talk to them about anything they want to lie to me about, then respond with a lie and off we go.

 

[Kraven]

We talk about the stuff they don’t understand about Americans and they have no one else to ask comfortably lol

Helps if you speak Korean lol

 

[Zippy17]

I haven't been to a regular bar or club or a party or celebration of any kind in decades because I just can't do superficial conversation. Put me alone in a hotel room with an escort or at a little round table with a stripper, and the conversation just flows naturally. When there's no language barrier, some of these girls actually really appreciate having a real conversation and quite a few of them have told me that they think it's weird and borderline creepy the way some guys hardly say a word to them or try to play at being ultra-dominant with them. Almost every YMMV situation I've encountered involved a language barrier; I wish I'd taken Spanish in HS instead of fucking French. With agency girls, I have to be careful not to let too much of the hour go by that way; but with indies, I've had several 1-hour bookings that ended up lasting more than twice that long because the conversation went on for a good hour before we got to anything else. One awesome ex-agency girl used to meet me at hotels for a paid hour (we never discussed price but I always just put $500 on the bathroom counter) and what started out as hour-long dates ended up evolving into 3 or 4 or 5 hours of talking, fucking, talking, fucking, and a couple of sleepovers. Time was never discussed; she just stayed as long as she wanted and the conversation/sex mix was always totally spontaneous...about as GFE as you can get. Have a gym and hotel-room sushi date lined up with one of those girls (she wants to learn how to train her legs) and I think she thinks she's calling my bluff about getting together with my wife. (Half the time, they admit to me afterwards that they thought I was bullshitting them until they walked into the hotel room and my wife was with me and all smiles.) Put me in a room with regular people, no strippers or escorts, and a drink in my hand and I look like an uncomfortable statue with nothing to say to anybody.

 

[Zippy17]

But there are other times that I definitely get a vibe from the provider that if I was more chatty she would kind of hang out with me and maybe that would be more fun for her. And maybe me too. So beyond how long have you been here how long are you staying whatever, what else do you discuss with them and how do you get it going?

To answer your question more directly, it sort of depends (substantially) on your conversational style and your beliefs about this industry and the girls in it. In general, men and women tend to talk about totally different things: guys talk about external distractions like current events, sports, business, cars, money, and shit like that; and they avoid meaningful personal conversations. Women, by contrast, tend to talk about internal things, like their thoughts and personal beliefs and feelings about people and about themselves. The escorts who talk more about guy shit (and there are some) are usually very superficial and really don't give a fuck about talking to their clients more than necessary.

If you have a lot of shame about seeing escorts and (especially) if you believe that these girls are all dirty fucked up psycho whores to whom you'd never divulge any real information about yourself or take seriously as people (like a lot of you guys seem to, judging from what I've read in a lot of threads anytime it comes up), you can probably forget about establishing any kind of real rapport with them; same goes for talking to strippers. They can tell when you're just pretending not to think they're dirty fucked up whores. OTOH, if you're a little more open-minded and you recognize that some of these girls are very nice girls who just chose an unconventional lifestyle and that they're not really doing anything "wrong" or "dirty," (and certainly, no more so than you are by seeing them), then just sharing your thoughts about that kind of stuff and your not being guarded about sharing (real) information about yourself with them goes a long way and some of them really open up reciprocally. In my case, it usually starts with my telling them that my wife used to do something not very much different from this as a stripper, and that gets the ball rolling in the right direction about all sorts of stuff related to their own lives...and they let down their guard because they know I'm not judging them the way a lot of guys (and society) do. But you kind of only get back as much as you're comfortable putting in to those conversations; so if you're the kind of guy who uses a fake name and whole fake persona and fake life details when you talk to escorts to maintain your anonymity and privacy, you're not likely to get back much more than the exact same thing from them. Generally, if you're much more comfortable talking to other dudes than to women in the rest of your life, you're not going to have any really good conversations with escorts, either. They have at least as much of a reason to be guarded in their conversations with clients as vice-versa unless or until they get the idea that you might be different in attitude from a lot of the guys they meet this way.

 

[Eastern2019]

Two choices for conversation

(1) Correct their English grammar and tell them how to advertise
https://www.tnaboard.com/showthread.php?1289386-A-Message-to-All-Providers
(I'm still amazed anyone bothered to write a serious reply to this)

(2) like Doubleyellow - anything they want to tell me about, regardless of its (in)credibility

 

[bchang]

I've talked to them about NBA Playoffs as they love basketball. I've talked about the last time they were in China, what they did over the weekend. If I frequent a certain provider I've talked to them about their family, current events, in some situations school, etc. I talk to them as much as they want to talk. A new provider I saw last week she told me how she lost 35 pounds and she felt that she was too skinny now and if I liked her body. So I find it easy to talk to them as I would any other person.