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Married Mongers

Uniquelyme

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Respectfully I don’t know if you missed my point. This had nothing to do with how hard your chin is or testing another’s chin.

My main point was sometimes being a man is more about holding one’s tongue and NOT saying what you want, when you want. Most of the time it is more honorable to not speak ones mind using decorum and manners to hold yourself to a higher standard. I personally think women and most men respect that more, rather than just saying what’s on your mind. Holding back makes you being more of a man than throwing hands do anytime.

I hate using a movie but the kings man Colin Firth says it best.......manners maketh man.

And you will get further in all aspects of your life. Friendly and kind advice.
I didn't miss your point. However at times you not speaking your mind is not being you. I have respect for everyone. As long as I get it in return they will get it from Me. I have manners but I'm not going to be kind to people who run their mouth. I'm not gonna be nice to people who deserve to get checked. It is what it is.
 

Dc46

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I didn't miss your point. However at times you not speaking your mind is not being you. I have respect for everyone. As long as I get it in return they will get it from Me. I have manners but I'm not going to be kind to people who run their mouth. I'm not gonna be nice to people who deserve to get checked. It is what it is.
Ah youth. Notice I didn’t say growing up, but just being young. I once thought like that. But as you grow older, you learn to let things go more, give people a wider berth and not feel like to have to keep everyone or those derserving in check. Some people just aren’t worth the energy of checking.

Free advice. Same i’d Give my friends over a beer.
 

Freddy

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No fuckboy I'm a genuine person. If someone approaches me with disrespect that's what they get. If someone approaches me kind they get that in return.
Well you just contradicted yourself, I didn’t curse you as you did me calling me “f**k boy, what you claim doesn’t align with who you really are or are attempting to portray yourself to be, at least that’s my opinion. If someone disagrees with you, does that make them wrong? You insinuated I was mad about your comments of the photo I posted, when it sounds like you were angered when I asked what do you like, seems you are having an issue or perceive someone is challenging you, when that’s not the case, yet you are obviously unraveling when anyone addresses you, especially if they disagree with your post. I don’t know who you are, but I know what you are. You can have the last word, I’ll give you that much, in spite of your disrespect.
 

charliebrown

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Ah youth. Notice I didn’t say growing up, but just being young. I once thought like that. But as you grow older, you learn to let things go more, give people a wider berth and not feel like to have to keep everyone or those derserving in check. Some people just aren’t worth the energy of checking.

Free advice. Same i’d Give my friends over a beer.
DC46 I absolutely agree with you, Some people aren't worth the energy checking. We have already exerted too much of it.
 

chunfun

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I remember the Lurker. He had a dark looking woman as an avatar, no? And he never changed it.
Why don't I see Mike Mendez chime in more often? I know he's here.
Isn't this site the "new" SH? Where else did everyone go?
Mike is around. Check the Houston boards. This portal is structured in a different manner. Harder to engage broadly. No @ mentions, sadly.
 

Anonymous1

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Gentleman,

Just wondering if you married fellas all go through the peaks and valleys as I do after a visit. The slight pang of guilt that soon subsides as I look forward to the next visit.

I have a beautiful Asian wife whom I love very much and I'll give her anything in the world but I can't resist the experience of having sex with strangers (mind you, I don't cheat with women at the bar or work etc. I always pay). I love the whole build up and teasing during a massage and the mystery of how it will unfold.

I know it's against the very fabric of our biological make up to not mess around, but am I a horrible person?
You last statement makes no sense to me. And adding things up I don’t understand you at all. You have hot Asian wifey.... great. Are you a horrible person for being a monger?!?!?! God I hope not for all our sakes.

But to say it’s against the very fabric for males NOT to mess around... you lost me there.
 

radiofreak6969

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Gentleman,

Just wondering if you married fellas all go through the peaks and valleys as I do after a visit. The slight pang of guilt that soon subsides as I look forward to the next visit.

I have a beautiful Asian wife whom I love very much and I'll give her anything in the world but I can't resist the experience of having sex with strangers (mind you, I don't cheat with women at the bar or work etc. I always pay). I love the whole build up and teasing during a massage and the mystery of how it will unfold.

I know it's against the very fabric of our biological make up to not mess around, but am I a horrible person?
without reading any replies since this threads inception...for me..it took all of 2 visits back in 06 to be able to play things str8 at home...you need what you need...like you the only women i see are within our hobby...your not a horrible person..happy hobbying
 

findinit

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I appreciate all your well thought out responses. That's why, despite how people may look down on what we do, you're all good people.

In my particular case, it's not lack of sex at home. That's readily available. But I've always just had this urge for excitement at

I'm having a hard time verbalizing what I'm trying to say. Sometimes I feel I'm selfish for doing this, but it's like something grips hold of me and I have to have this experience.

I dunno. But thank you all for your thoughts!
I appreciate all your well thought out responses. That's why, despite how people may look down on what we do, you're all good people.

In my particular case, it's not lack of sex at home. That's readily available. But I've always just had this urge for excitement at the parlor. I've never fallen in love or had feelings for a provider. Those are for my wife. The relationship between me and a provider is purely physical with zero depth (though that doesn't mean I don't respect these ladies).

I'm having a hard time verbalizing what I'm trying to say. Sometimes I feel I'm selfish for doing this, but it's like something grips hold of me and I have to have this experience.

I dunno. But thank you all for your thoughts!
Sex addiction. Speaking for myself at least.
 

1Trackmind

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For some of us, our wives have stopped wanting to have sex. In my case, after menopause, my wife decided she was done with it. Other than that, she is a great partner. I have no desire to kick-her-to-the-curb for a younger (wildcard) woman. That would break her heart, alienate our kids make me feel like shit and (as an added bonus) cost me a fortune. But the problem is that we are still men. Some of us thought we were taking a vow of matrimony, not a vow of celibacy. Mongering is not perfect, but in many ways it is the lesser of the evils.
Right On, VJ!!
 

Nicksuperlover

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I tell the beautiful girls they are beautiful and why I think they are beautiful. The love the flattery.
I don't say anything to the girls who are not.
Here’s the rub, a beautiful woman already knows she’s beautiful so telling her only makes her think you are under her spell. Tell a not so hot girl that she’s beautiful and she starts getting wet. Kinda like treat a whore like a lady and vise versa.
 

haaretz

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For some of us, our wives have stopped wanting to have sex. In my case, after menopause, my wife decided she was done with it. Other than that, she is a great partner. I have no desire to kick-her-to-the-curb for a younger (wildcard) woman. That would break her heart, alienate our kids make me feel like shit and (as an added bonus) cost me a fortune. But the problem is that we are still men. Some of us thought we were taking a vow of matrimony, not a vow of celibacy. Mongering is not perfect, but in many ways it is the lesser of the evils.
I feel exactly the same way. And I waited 15 years of sexlessness to step out. This was right after our marriage counselor stated that "a hug and a little kiss is intimate enough for some." That's when I heard about Backpage...which led me to AAMP.
I have no desire as well to end my marriage over an affair with a civvie.
Pros provide all of the theater and passion, are discrete about the encounters and don't whine about "all you want is sex" when I see them.
 

Left

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You make a phenomenal point here though. And I don't judge anybody, per se, but I have opinions on the matter.
A relationship isn't just supposed to be self serving. It seems like you made an attempt to communicate what makes a relationship successful for you. There are other things that CAN be fulfilled outside of that specific relationship, while you're still making everything work within it. But that communication is the key.
I am single. It's by my own decision. But I know when I get in to a relationship, it's my responsibility to fulfill HER expectations of the me in the deal. That's not necessarily sex. It's everything. And vice versa. And as we get older, the sex side is going to come with some challenges, like medically, fantasies, variety, bucket list, etc. These can all be handled while the home is still prioritized.
The problem comes in when there is selfishness that plays a part. Building more then the physical with the outsider so that it takes away from the inside. Or let's say the sex life could be fulfilling and engaging at home, but we still want to roll the dice and put the ones we care about at risk. That creates a different scenario that isn't really fair.
Lot's of variables to every individual situation, but your particular one speaks volumes about how a lot of people end up in this hobby, and it isn't about greed, being self centered, or a cheater. It is about a need that isn't being fulfilled, and this hobby provides a solution where everybody wins in reality.
Apologies , I never responded to this thoughtful insightful commentary . Very true what you say and it’s not easy to be rejected or hear excuses every time and what ends up happening is that this hobby fills the void and you end up loving the person , share the bed but something is lost and I don’t see how it can be regained . The other part that makes it tough, dangerous is that some of these girls you see or repeat with how do you not get feeligks after spending intimate hours with them ?
 
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