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general question no names for dealing with change in provider behaviour

md56563819

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hello all without naming names I have a general troubling question to deal with a providers changing behavior that I have been seeing this whole year of 2021. From Jan to late aug it was simply the most phenomenal experience each visit getting better and better in every way. Suddenly as my visit freq went from once a week to twice to three times she started complaining I am visiting too much and her phenomenal dfk vanished and no more conversations as she gets on her phone soon after we are done even though I have reduced my freq the attitude is still not changing dont know what to do any of you have such experience ?
 

blankface

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You might just need to switch it up for a few weeks or months. Are there any other places that you enjoy or another girl at that shop. Give her some space and see how she is when you return to her.
 

md56563819

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thnx yes I seem to notice a slight improvement at times but trying many other places to find another atf but having a hard time establishing that connection i have with this provider will keep searching there have been other ATFs in the past but never have i gone this far with anyone perhaps y mistake
 

md56563819

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She told you what the issue is. You're visiting her too frequently for her comfort. The gifts may even be making things worse as she may think you're becoming too emotionally attached. I'd scale back the visits to once a week/biweekly and put in the work to add another girl(s) into your rotation.
thnx i should follow the advises here
 

Don Hollinger

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Put your energy into finding an actual girlfriend. When a sex worker gets like that it means that you're treating her too much like a girlfriend---they don't like that, it's suffocating for them. Believe me, they prefer repeat business from steady clients.
I have two CFs that I see in rotation, other guys here have several. It's not just the variety. It's also that we don't want to get hung up on just one in an emotional sense.
 

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Man, I’ve been down this road, and it is always when I misread the situation and it was only me who was becoming in love or infatuated. So let me tell you how I look at this when I look in my own mirror.

she is doing you a favor telling you to knock it off, and in doing so, is explaining how this all works. Maybe you took her performance while doing her job - dfk, phenomenal performance - as real emotions. ”that connection” wasn’t as real for her as you, at least not in the way you wanted it to be. And eventually you made her uncomfortable with your gifts…damn, man….roses. Were they red, yellow or white? I always took red. Lol.

and I might be dumb enough todo it again, but I hope not.

let her know you heard her, that you will be taking a break and appreciate her feedback, and if you decide to see her again, don’t take her any more gifts. bythe way, she probably has a half dozen guys doing the same thing.
 

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It’s all been covered but as a general rule; don’t catch feelings for a provider and if you find yourself doing that; snap out of it. Most of the time it’s a business for them. Also you can’t manufacture a woman’s interest in you. Either she feels it or she doesn’t. So the more you push on someone who isn’t into you; the more creeped out she will get. Personally I’d walk; you probably burned the bridge by coming in too strong; she won’t want to chance it again.
 

Doubleyellow

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It’s all been covered but as a general rule; don’t catch feelings for a provider and if you find yourself doing that; snap out of it. Most of the time it’s a business for them. Also you can’t manufacture a woman’s interest in you. Either she feels it or she doesn’t. So the more you push on someone who isn’t into you; the more creeped out she will get. Personally I’d walk; you probably burned the bridge by coming in too strong; she won’t want to chance it again.
you nailed it. I should have shortened my message to ‘don’t be a creep….like I was.’
 

md56563819

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Man, I’ve been down this road, and it is always when I misread the situation and it was only me who was becoming in love or infatuated. So let me tell you how I look at this when I look in my own mirror.

she is doing you a favor telling you to knock it off, and in doing so, is explaining how this all works. Maybe you took her performance while doing her job - dfk, phenomenal performance - as real emotions. ”that connection” wasn’t as real for her as you, at least not in the way you wanted it to be. And eventually you made her uncomfortable with your gifts…damn, man….roses. Were they red, yellow or white? I always took red. Lol.

and I might be dumb enough todo it again, but I hope not.

let her know you heard her, that you will be taking a break and appreciate her feedback, and if you decide to see her again, don’t take her any more gifts. bythe way, she probably has a half dozen guys doing the same thing.
red :) i am not even sure if I was in love or just too happy at her performance that she misread as love i just like giving gifts to women i always carry a gift eve to see my daughters
 

Don Hollinger

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It’s all been covered but as a general rule; don’t catch feelings for a provider and if you find yourself doing that; snap out of it. Most of the time it’s a business for them. Also you can’t manufacture a woman’s interest in you. Either she feels it or she doesn’t. So the more you push on someone who isn’t into you; the more creeped out she will get. Personally I’d walk; you probably burned the bridge by coming in too strong; she won’t want to chance it again.
They walk a fine line between having repeat business and having a guy fall for them. It's always better to see a few in any given period. You're right in terms of manufacturing interest...the real thing rarely happens.
 

1indykate

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Some great advice in this thread.

It's hard walking the fine line between showing appreciation and sending the wrong signals/attachment. At the end of the day, it's their job and that sort of attention can even be uncomfortable for a guy when a girl is forcing themselves into your life. It's also possible that something has changed about you during the visits that she doesn't like (i.e. hygiene).

You can always show appreciation by tipping more for their services if you really enjoyed it rather than gifts. I will get small things like drinks/food for them sometimes cause I understand they're human but be clear about the boundaries so you don't send out the wrong signals. For example, I might also bring something for the MMS too as well as the RA.
 
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