1. No they don't leave room.
2. Normally the girl triggers it by saying something like 10 minutes left. You ask her for hj or take her hand and guide it. She says no, you do. She gets you oil.
3. Depends. some girls massage your thighs, ass, some even balls. Mostly these are girls making you prove yourself then they take over. Some just allow you to roam and moan.