Guys who go to therapeutic or DIY places to “convert” them to something more are gluttons for punishment, much like the guys who go onto sites like SA seeking to “convert” the girls who want only “platonic” sugar baby arrangements. Why bother wasting your time and probably your money chasing a dream - or a unicorn - when there are so many more certain opportunities available?
"so many more certain opportunities available"? That wasn't true at all in the HBG area 10 years ago when I was getting started. Back then, even HE's required some patience and persistence. Even these days, anything beyond basic service is not widely available in HBG or the West Shore. One result of being in a challenging area is that many of us found that we enjoyed the hunt. My own outings are roughly a 50-50 mix of predictably enjoyable sessions with long-time successes and newer "projects" where I don't yet know the limits.