That's too funny! I am guessing your wife had to have been born with a sense of adventure, super high self-confidence and an extremely low jealousy level. Maybe it can be developed? I felt trust and confidence when we were only great friends and would tell her the things I occasionally do for serious relaxation and well-being. So years later when we decided maybe we should date, she said whatever we do I don't want you to change a thing about what makes you happy. So maybe start with conversations about what makes you both happy. My SO started with seeing the same girl I saw as she wanted to enjoy a massage and see where it went. She went to an indy that many of us know and she was her first female customer. I actually watched at the Indy's request in case she needed some assistance. She went to the place in Spring City before it closed, we had a few visit us at home and we both worked on her. Finally, she has a regular LMT that she sees, I know they have some fun, but I feel that is her private life and not my business. I do know it has been very beneficial for her well-being and our relationship is closer than ever knowing we can both do whatever we want, within reason. Though it is still occassional and we definitely are not swingers, not that there is anything wrong with that. I think she feels more comfortable with females, but the AMP skill-level is not truly LMT and only a few are skilled enough for a great ending. She feels more vulnerable in ways with a guy, but they are probably better at the ending. I think a girl might worry that the guy is judging her, maybe critical of their figure or might push for more than is expected iniitially Oh she has read a few reviews, but would never write one. For the record she has found that only about 30% of the females will do more than a basic massage and she is a great tipper. Years ago there was a little guy at Tai Chi and she went there and came out smiling and holding her thumb out - yeah smaller than her thumb