Hello mongers. I just discovered this forum after a cold turkey one-year-plus-long hiatus from hobbying, reviewing, and browsing forums. When I left, EM was still the place for AAMPs and COVID was only two or three months old (by any of the theories out there). My big head doesn't want to dive back in, but I couldn't resist just a few times more. Sometimes, I regret focusing my intimate efforts on AAMPs for several years and part of me cringes at the memories of texting in the morning, punching in numbers, getting buzzed in, partaking in blue toast, putting back on shoes at the door, et cetera partially because non-hobbyists would be absolutely disgusted at these behaviors. At the same time, there are a lot of good memories. Here are a few of them.
Got started with the hobby one fateful night on the street in SJ named after a phase of the moon. Blew my mind at the time that this awesome activity could exist. I don't remember the name of the girl, or much else about that one hour, but it was the start of something that became a big part of my (secret) life.
One early memory was Giselle in SM. We clicked really well. I never saw Virgin cause I didn't want to possibly offend her. Sometimes I would book last appointment and we'd hang out after and eat one of her favorite dishes, crab fried rice from a local restaurant. I saw her once in Seoul and we had dinner. She wanted to stay the night with me at the Grand Hyatt near Namsam Tower but I was tired, the spark was gone, and I didn't want her mom to worry when she didn't come home that night.
About the same time (there were a few stressful weeks of overlap) when I got in deep with a woman also in SM, in the same complex, whose name was a popular minivan model. Her name probably doesn't ring a bell for most mongers anymore, but she and I clicked really deeply for some reason. She was much older than me. We still keep in touch, and I've met up with her in NY a few times when I can make it out there. Reminds me that I should give her a call soon. She had a gambling addiction. On one of my visits to NY, we drove an hour plus outside of the city to some casino she frequented so she could fill out the self-ban form. For someone who has only ever played a slot machine for shits and giggles, that was an interesting experience. This was one of the good memories I referred to in the opening, meeting this women. I wish I could have valued those times we spent out and about in the Bay more than I did back then. She had/has a good heart, despite her faults. And as humans, is that not the best we can hope for in ourselves?
All this k-mongering eventually led me to Korea, and I spent some time in Busan and Seoul. Didn't monger much in Seoul, but I did go to the red-light alley in Haeundae, where the first and only girl I met was a cutie named Seon-mi (name changed for privacy, lol). The environs were definitely not as good as a Silicon Valley AAMP, but I really liked spending time with this girl. Eventually, I booked her for a whole week and she took me around Busan. She took me to eat fresh fish at Jagalchi fish market, we lit fireworks at Gwangalli beach, went to one of the peaks in town (probably Geumlyeonsan or Jangsan) to admire the night view, where I said to her, in some elementary Korean I had strung together, something like "I'll never forget this short time together", and I remember she teared up a little. She and the mamasan, I think, took me along with them for a two-day trip to Seoul, driving in her Hyundai Genesis which was pretty loaded with features and way nicer than my car. It was a long drive and I slept a lot. We stopped at a roadside station and the food was bomb. She didn't bring condoms and we did it like that for the first time in a room at the Lotte Hotel in Jung-gu. It was my first raw experience. One of the nice little memories is how she would just chuck the change for tolls with an overhand throw into the basket-like receptacles they have at the toll-booths and we would laugh. I remember her driving me around at night on Busan's winding mountainous roads with amazing views of the bridge and the city lights. I was young back then and everything was veiled with that golden naivete of youth. Reminds me of Lana del Rey's song "Young and Beautiful". I haven't thought about it often in recent years, because it's clouded by dozens upon dozens of AAMP experiences, but today, looking back, it was one of the memorable experiences of my life. At Gimhae Airport when I left, she had tears on her cheeks as we sat holding hands in a waiting room before security. I did too.
Anyway, back to the mongering. Do any of you remember Lotte in East Bay in 2019? I don't remember what she looked like, but I remember she was young, really cute, pretty good service, and I only saw her two or three times before the PO cancelled an appointment I had made earlier in the day and she said she was quitting and going back to Korea. I was pretty into her and I think she liked my appointments, so I was really looking forward to many more times. This is one of those things in life that ended too soon and you wish you had just one more time.
Back in 2015-2016 and thereabouts, there was a Joy who roomed with a Yuri. I saw her a bunch of times over two years. I remember she was a bit older than me. She had a kind of elegant face IMO, kind of like Haze, though most would probably think not as pretty. Once, she sobbed during the appointment and she just held me for a long time. When she went back to Korea, I booked her a business class award ticket on Asiana and she really enjoyed it. We quickly lost touch after that because she didn't speak English, but judging from her Kakao photo, I think she married. Hope she is well.
For a while, into 2017, I had a good thing with Gloria. I think she was the legend Gloria? Another one of those experiences I wish I had valued more than I did. There was a period of a few months where I would pick her up after work and we'd have Korean food. She would always pay. She had a really lovely and bubbly personality. She talked a lot with the staff at some restaurants and they really liked her. She got a lot of chocolate gifts too which she would put into the white drawer she had at the foot of the bed. We probably hit up more than half of the Korean restaurants in the South Bay. I remember she had a standing mirror in her room. Eventually I grew distant and she cut me off because she sensed it. I think other mongers know that feeling when you slowly drift away from your ATF cause your small head gets bored. It just comes part and parcel with being a guy. We are cursed. I think Robert Johnson's book "He: Understanding Masculine Psychology" about the development of the male psychology and the metaphor of the Grail Quest and Parsifal possibly touches on this. Would recommend reading it as it's a short read (an hour or two max) or a just a review of it.
In 2015, there was a Gloria in SM. She was short, really skinny, had really short hair, very cute, and service was great. I saw her several times and then she told me she wanted me to give her my contact info and I said next time. Then, there wasn't a next time cause she left before I made another appointment.
My first ATF was Sophie back in 2014 in SJ. New to the hobby, I thought she was just very beautiful, and she had such a calm personality. I told her I wanted to marry her and she chuckled. For quite a while, I always wished she would come back. I don't really remember exactly what she looked like, after all these years, and I didn't have as many appointments with her as many other girls over the year, but she was my first ATF.
From at least 2016 and into January 2017, there was a Vivian who was in the same org as a Jessica. She was quite young. She really liked to travel and this seemed to be just one of the stops on her life's trip. I really fell for her. Saw her quite a lot in that year. She had a unique face, a nice body. She stopped replying to me on Kakao after she left. Later, I would see Angel at the same org, who was even younger, but didn't have the same connection.
Does anyone know if Flower or Madison will ever be back? Anyone with memories of any of the above girls, or if they are still working in North America, feel free to chime in.
Anyway, these are some of my memories from mongering days. These days, I'm trying to live a life without mongering, but couldn't resist a relapse. It's easier when you get some other time-consuming hobbies, I think. If I could go back and do it all over again, part of me wants to never have done any of this and part of me wants to do it all over again. This past year has taught me a lot about life, and I'll be digesting those lessons for years. But I know that happy memories are only happy because those happy times don't last forever, and are by definition contrasted by the sadness of goodbye. Can't have one without the other. Happy mongering my dudes
Got started with the hobby one fateful night on the street in SJ named after a phase of the moon. Blew my mind at the time that this awesome activity could exist. I don't remember the name of the girl, or much else about that one hour, but it was the start of something that became a big part of my (secret) life.
One early memory was Giselle in SM. We clicked really well. I never saw Virgin cause I didn't want to possibly offend her. Sometimes I would book last appointment and we'd hang out after and eat one of her favorite dishes, crab fried rice from a local restaurant. I saw her once in Seoul and we had dinner. She wanted to stay the night with me at the Grand Hyatt near Namsam Tower but I was tired, the spark was gone, and I didn't want her mom to worry when she didn't come home that night.
About the same time (there were a few stressful weeks of overlap) when I got in deep with a woman also in SM, in the same complex, whose name was a popular minivan model. Her name probably doesn't ring a bell for most mongers anymore, but she and I clicked really deeply for some reason. She was much older than me. We still keep in touch, and I've met up with her in NY a few times when I can make it out there. Reminds me that I should give her a call soon. She had a gambling addiction. On one of my visits to NY, we drove an hour plus outside of the city to some casino she frequented so she could fill out the self-ban form. For someone who has only ever played a slot machine for shits and giggles, that was an interesting experience. This was one of the good memories I referred to in the opening, meeting this women. I wish I could have valued those times we spent out and about in the Bay more than I did back then. She had/has a good heart, despite her faults. And as humans, is that not the best we can hope for in ourselves?
All this k-mongering eventually led me to Korea, and I spent some time in Busan and Seoul. Didn't monger much in Seoul, but I did go to the red-light alley in Haeundae, where the first and only girl I met was a cutie named Seon-mi (name changed for privacy, lol). The environs were definitely not as good as a Silicon Valley AAMP, but I really liked spending time with this girl. Eventually, I booked her for a whole week and she took me around Busan. She took me to eat fresh fish at Jagalchi fish market, we lit fireworks at Gwangalli beach, went to one of the peaks in town (probably Geumlyeonsan or Jangsan) to admire the night view, where I said to her, in some elementary Korean I had strung together, something like "I'll never forget this short time together", and I remember she teared up a little. She and the mamasan, I think, took me along with them for a two-day trip to Seoul, driving in her Hyundai Genesis which was pretty loaded with features and way nicer than my car. It was a long drive and I slept a lot. We stopped at a roadside station and the food was bomb. She didn't bring condoms and we did it like that for the first time in a room at the Lotte Hotel in Jung-gu. It was my first raw experience. One of the nice little memories is how she would just chuck the change for tolls with an overhand throw into the basket-like receptacles they have at the toll-booths and we would laugh. I remember her driving me around at night on Busan's winding mountainous roads with amazing views of the bridge and the city lights. I was young back then and everything was veiled with that golden naivete of youth. Reminds me of Lana del Rey's song "Young and Beautiful". I haven't thought about it often in recent years, because it's clouded by dozens upon dozens of AAMP experiences, but today, looking back, it was one of the memorable experiences of my life. At Gimhae Airport when I left, she had tears on her cheeks as we sat holding hands in a waiting room before security. I did too.
Anyway, back to the mongering. Do any of you remember Lotte in East Bay in 2019? I don't remember what she looked like, but I remember she was young, really cute, pretty good service, and I only saw her two or three times before the PO cancelled an appointment I had made earlier in the day and she said she was quitting and going back to Korea. I was pretty into her and I think she liked my appointments, so I was really looking forward to many more times. This is one of those things in life that ended too soon and you wish you had just one more time.
Back in 2015-2016 and thereabouts, there was a Joy who roomed with a Yuri. I saw her a bunch of times over two years. I remember she was a bit older than me. She had a kind of elegant face IMO, kind of like Haze, though most would probably think not as pretty. Once, she sobbed during the appointment and she just held me for a long time. When she went back to Korea, I booked her a business class award ticket on Asiana and she really enjoyed it. We quickly lost touch after that because she didn't speak English, but judging from her Kakao photo, I think she married. Hope she is well.
For a while, into 2017, I had a good thing with Gloria. I think she was the legend Gloria? Another one of those experiences I wish I had valued more than I did. There was a period of a few months where I would pick her up after work and we'd have Korean food. She would always pay. She had a really lovely and bubbly personality. She talked a lot with the staff at some restaurants and they really liked her. She got a lot of chocolate gifts too which she would put into the white drawer she had at the foot of the bed. We probably hit up more than half of the Korean restaurants in the South Bay. I remember she had a standing mirror in her room. Eventually I grew distant and she cut me off because she sensed it. I think other mongers know that feeling when you slowly drift away from your ATF cause your small head gets bored. It just comes part and parcel with being a guy. We are cursed. I think Robert Johnson's book "He: Understanding Masculine Psychology" about the development of the male psychology and the metaphor of the Grail Quest and Parsifal possibly touches on this. Would recommend reading it as it's a short read (an hour or two max) or a just a review of it.
In 2015, there was a Gloria in SM. She was short, really skinny, had really short hair, very cute, and service was great. I saw her several times and then she told me she wanted me to give her my contact info and I said next time. Then, there wasn't a next time cause she left before I made another appointment.
My first ATF was Sophie back in 2014 in SJ. New to the hobby, I thought she was just very beautiful, and she had such a calm personality. I told her I wanted to marry her and she chuckled. For quite a while, I always wished she would come back. I don't really remember exactly what she looked like, after all these years, and I didn't have as many appointments with her as many other girls over the year, but she was my first ATF.
From at least 2016 and into January 2017, there was a Vivian who was in the same org as a Jessica. She was quite young. She really liked to travel and this seemed to be just one of the stops on her life's trip. I really fell for her. Saw her quite a lot in that year. She had a unique face, a nice body. She stopped replying to me on Kakao after she left. Later, I would see Angel at the same org, who was even younger, but didn't have the same connection.
Does anyone know if Flower or Madison will ever be back? Anyone with memories of any of the above girls, or if they are still working in North America, feel free to chime in.
Anyway, these are some of my memories from mongering days. These days, I'm trying to live a life without mongering, but couldn't resist a relapse. It's easier when you get some other time-consuming hobbies, I think. If I could go back and do it all over again, part of me wants to never have done any of this and part of me wants to do it all over again. This past year has taught me a lot about life, and I'll be digesting those lessons for years. But I know that happy memories are only happy because those happy times don't last forever, and are by definition contrasted by the sadness of goodbye. Can't have one without the other. Happy mongering my dudes
