A question for all Mongers

So I’d put myself up there for the youngest monger on the whole site. Fresh out of college, and looking for new experiences. Have had and continually having great experiences with girls my age on my own but, them AMPs just give such a transactional vibe and I love it. No drama, no BS, it’s all just too perfect for me. I wanted to ask you seasoned mongers, when was your first AMP experience? How was it? When and where was your greatest experience? When and where was your worst experience? I’d wanna pm y’all for some more explicit details so if it’s not a bother, be ready for a pm from me. Just really wanna learn from those who came before me.

Be happy you started after HAGNJ closed. No where else compares to it in jersey.

Get out while you can. I have been at this since before you were born. It becomes like heroin. You constantly try to keep looking for the next level high. Trying newer more expensive spots multiple girls it’s too easy when you have a good income. I have been blessed to be able to have my wife and children made financially secure others have not. Save your money and get off to a solid financial start and enjoy non pros. This hobby can be an obstacle to true relationships. Save mongering for later so you have something to look forward to in middle age.

Can't agree with Surfer more.....................embrace the hunt and chase for the freebies before you jump into this on any kind of basis. If you get to a level of fiscal security and self control where this is some occasional fun, awesome. Otherwise, it will be a financial dead end road.

That being said, I could see it as a good way to get over a break up with a freebie. Good rebound before jumping back into the hunt and chase again.

Think of it as renting or leasing instead of buying. It may be fun to always have new and exciting, but in the end you have built up zero equity and have nothing but to show for the money that is now GONE.

So true. Started at the age of 58, now 70. Wouldn't have what I have if I started this as a 20 or 30 year old.

My first FS, I started at the top. It was with MMS Susan from T W. Have no regrets the past 12 years.

Any update on Susan? She was always a MMS when I started going to her facilities, was always nice to me. Hope she’s doing ok.

all really good advice above @Collegekid221234 they know what they are talking about....

Your whole response could have been mine

your better off with Indy's and just keep it to once a month or two for a little bonus fun. stay away from the AMP scene these guys are spot on with the truth. its better to treat yourself with a quality experience than hit the massage table. problem with AMPs is you can go whenever you have the itch, it becomes a form of addiction

I can only add one thing to the wisdom already offered. Your visits to AMPs will provide you with a lot of experiences interacting with women without facing rejection. You can learn a lot about yourself and you gain confidence dealing with women, and you learn what sex with an expert is all about. The sooner you learn that every relationship is transactional in one way or another, and understand what you are willing to give to get, and when to walk, the better off you will be.

Im probably the youngest on here. Had my first ever experience right before I turned 20 and it was a 1 off accidental experience, now 21. Became addicted to amps back in February of this year after a bad breakup had some bad luck exploring till I found the spots that reeled me in. Peak amp addiction I seen 9 girls in 2 weeks (October when I got into gfe places for the first time after finding this site). Agreed it is addictive especially when you have an atf or visit the higher end gfe spaces and there’s always someone new on the rotation. My first atf I slept with more times than any past Gf at this point.

I make more than the top gfe girls in Manhattan before taxes & business expenses so it’s not drastically affecting me financially but I still think about all of the money I could’ve saved. All my ATFs I seen 10x+ the first month I met them. I used to go 3-4x a week peak addiction now limit it to 2.
Seen almost 50 girls in amp and about half of that outside of hobbying so I can’t say it’s ruined my social life but if I feel like I’m not getting action tonight I’d leave early & go to a FH or edgewater.

Every relationship is multi-transactional whether it’s the time during the chase, money for dates, getting drunk at bars/parties, drama that becomes straining to your mental health, etc. And then it doesn’t guarantee you even make it to the bedroom. I like the simple transaction of amps I get what I’m itching for in the hour and leave nothing else involved.

Best advice I can give NEVER fall in love with a provider it’s strictly transactional if the thought comes just remember how many hot dogs she has every day.
Do not make hobbying your only option make sure you go out and meet new people and make memorable experiences. Hobbying definitely improved my abilities and confidence with women.
Don’t be afraid to walk if they’re not attractive to you or they walk in with a bad mood.

Finally, if you enjoy hobbying go out and do it. It’s your life do what you like and have a great time, all with moderation of course.

My first was in 1978 when I was 18. MP was all white and had a lineup of about 5 girls all 18-25 except one 30 something redhead. I chose her and she was surprised. I remember her saying every session hasto start with daty. She sat on the edge of the table and it was all fun from there.

All young Americans girls through out the 80's. Amp mostly in the 90's, than they started to become much older and not as exciting for me.

The early 2000's brought the wave of hot young Eastern European which has been much more exciting for me the last 20 years.

So over 45 years but I still kept many relationships and a long marriage through it. I've always had fun and never got addicted like many do. I think because I have always had a hot girl in a regular relationship. So you can enjoy the hobby and a regular relationship too.

Relax and enjoy it.

100% I started when I was 18 now later 20s But I’ve always treated it like a “gift” to myself … I’ve been financially responsible af! Lol but 100% can see how guys can get into an endless rabbit hole or addiction to amps and become broke over it .. 100% solid advice

I agree. Put half of your budget of this activity in index fund. After 20 years you can afford super rich girls. Till then enjoy your youth and spend it on real girls

Similar outlook for me though I’m in my 40’s. Started in my early 20’s and was kind of fascinated by the whole scene. However, at the time I was single and actively dating and I always got more than my fair share of action so I never got addicted to this hobby. As I got a little older I started to use my visits as a reward for accomplishing certain things and that has proven to keep a healthy balance overall.

I’ve accepted that I have two expensive hobbies (this and golf) and so I make sure what I spend on them are in line with my overall disposable income.

I have lots of friends who have many expensive hobbies (boats, guns, skiing, gambling, etc). It’s a matter of lifestyle in my opinion.

For the young guys, understand it can become addictive and you need to regulate yourself. You also need to recognize if it’s having a negative impact on your real relationships or hindering your motivation to go out and meet a civvie girl. This is not a replacement for a real relationship. For me, it’s about one thing and helps keep me in line and not maintain a side-piece (which I’ve done and that’s a dangerous line).

Most important, be safe and don’t get in over your head.

Tread lightly once it starts....hard to stop and realize a REAL relationship is NOTHING like the transactional ones.

Exactly.
I started at 19 and never did anything else.
Someone recently convinced me to give match.com a try again after many years.
I am looking at women 15 years younger than me and they, quite frankly, look hideous. I could never consider having sex with them under any circumstance.
Being a monger for life has totally skewed my perspective of females, and it will never change.

So @Collegekid221234 - stop now and stick with girlfriends. You said you can get them (I couldn't at your age -- at least not the pretty ones I wanted),
so why not find a really nice pretty one with a good disposition and settle down? You only live once. Don't miss out on that. I did and I regret it.

I looked at the selection on match.com recently, it was really bad. Just a lot of beat down, worn out, bitter females. I also looked at POF, that's even worse amazingly as that is.

This hobby can ruin your life forever, if are young and just started then stop quickly even if you can afford it, these women will impact your ability to trust other women as every single word that comes out of their mouth is a lie.